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Over the past few months I've been noticing an increase in scars...

I've always scarred easily but it was usually just on my legs. I scar from every little thing - bug bites, and any kind of scrape. It sucks, but I'm use to my legs looking like it was hit by shrapnel. I know it will fade in time.

But the thing is, lately I've been getting scars on my face and my hands too. Every pimple I get lingers into a scar...I don't get pimples that often so I'm not horribly concerned - but its my face! Not only that but I have to use an oven mitt to play with my kitten or the little tiny scratches it makes turn into scars! Its ridiculous.

My skin isn't dry, or anything like that. This doesn't make sense. I've searched google, ask.com, and wikipedia but to no avail. Nothing would explain why I scar so easily.

Anyone know something I don't?

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"A scar isn't always a sure thing. "It's not so much how deep or severe a wound is that determines whether a scar will form, but rather the location of the wound and that person's genetic [inherited] tendency to form scars."

In other words, certain people tend to get scars more easily, and scars are more likely to form after wounds on certain parts of the body."

You're probably just more prone to scars. I'm the same. The slightest scratch will show for ages and it doesn't help that my skin is really pasty. Same with bruises, too.
The obvious thing to do is to ty not to cut yourself etc. I know you can't help the spots, which is unfortunate.
There are ways to make them less noticeable though. Look around for creams/cover ups etc. I use Bio Oil. Works really well.
You're right, they will probably fade in time, so for now, try different ways of concealing them and helping them disappear.

if you only smoked a few times, do you think the dentist could tell you've been smoking?

i haven't, i'm just curious about that?

How many times is a few times? Probably not. But prolonged exposure to the crap in cigarettes and yes, your dentist will be able to tell.

All of a sudden my bed got this really weird smell, and it smells horrible. Even though I've washed the sheets a million times, it always comes back. Also I'm a very clean person, and very into hygeine so I know it's not me. Any ideas?

If you've washed the sheets, it can't be them. Is your bed old? Have you spilt anything on it? Do you sweat at night? It could be a few things, but it's quite hard to pinpoint what exactly on here.
Try fabric sprays such as febreze and spray it on the bed,then put the sheets on top and see if it makes a difference.

Okay so i got grounded for the most retarded reason. And im supposed to be doing research for school, thats how im on here. But does anyone have adice for me on what i could do for the next month, im grounded from going anywhere, phone, internet, or seeing anyone. Thanks.

Give it a week or two. In that space, help out your parents and don't moan about being grounded. The more you bring it up, the less they're likely to lessen your punishment. If you can, try to compromise. For example, you will wash up, tidy places etc if you can use the internet for an hour.
Just be sensible about the whole thing and show them you're mature - even if they won't compromise, accept it and it may make things easier in the future.
Now, for things that can take up time, you could:
*Do homework
*Watch films
*Make a scrap book
*Pamper yourself
*Draw/make things
*Read
*Have a clear out in your room
*Do you play any instruments? If so, play them. If possible, learn to.
*Take photographs of things
*Cook/make cakes etc
If you sit and think, there are LOTS of things you can do to occupy yourself.
Hope you have fun!

i'm a big athlete... 14 year old female standing at 5'10 and 170 lbs... i drink tons of lemon-lime gatorade on a weekly basis. a friend of mine noticed that i have a bottle of gatorade on my desk everyday and pointed out that it deforms eggs because of one of its ingredients called "yellow 5"....is this true? ....i did some research and found nothing.
thanks in advance

"There is an urban legend that the tartrazine in Mountain Dew and candies such as Everlasting Gobstoppers, Skittles, and Starburst cause shrinkage of the testicles and weakening in bones."

It's probably another part adding to the urban legend.

Read this for info on Yellow 5.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tartrazine

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Okay, so my gym teacher knows I hate gym. I tried to get into another class... But no, my principle hates mE!!!! He let the others kids get a different class, but nooooo. I had to STAY! Damn it! I've had gym all 3 years in middle school! I fucking HATE IT!!!!!! I was not built for gym, math, science or make up. UNDERSTAND THIS. My gym teacher broke my cool two days ago. I wore my black high heels so I don't have to do gym again. He yelled at me and told me to go to the office... Here's what happened...

Me: What? Okay, whatever...
Gym dude: Don't use that tone with me!
Me: What? Okay, whatever...
Gym dude: Romero, I want you to participate
Me: Well, I told you I hated gym, but you didn't listen.
Gym dude: So? It's good for you.
Me: Yea right. It makes me sore and mad.
Gym dude: Go to the office now! You're making me mad!
Me: Fine, I will. good bye...

After he went int othe gym I yelled after him: bastard! He didn't hear me, damn it. and I went to the office. i never got in trouble because of some cute guy i nthe office. He mad me happy again, yay and we went to class together. Now, look.
What i want is, HOW DO I GET OUTTA THIS FUCKING CLASS?!?!?!?! And don't give me any shit about, Gym is good for you, gym will make you feel better, gym will blahblahblah

I was built for writing, computer stuff and fucking anime characters, got it? NOw, here's more info on my daily thigns to tell you some about mah...

Writes, sleeps, sits at comptuer 24/7 (yay), studies presidents (I like history), and is VERY lazy! I am lazy, and proud, I'm a bitchy, lazy, emo anime fucking freak! Okay, anyway... hope that helped, haha

p.s don't ask about the anime fucking thing...*Adivce person stares at screen* Okay fine, I like anime alot, okay? Get over it...

Not everyone likes gym, but in most schools it's compulsory.
Why don't you like gym? You can't just say you weren't built for it, because it's not a valid reason.
It can actually be quite fun. You should talk to your teacher without being mouthy to him because it will only make him angry and you upset. Try to make a compromise, for example: You will participate in gym if you can switch classes in a month or so.
If worst comes to worst and you honestly have valid reasons for not wanting to participate in gym (which is highly unlikely I'm guessing! :P), get your parents to write you a note excusing you from the lesson.
For now, instead of letting it get to you, try to make it enjoyable! Do it with your friends and chat as you do it. It doesn't have to have the fun sucked from it. Cheer up!

hey. im normally a really outgoing girl, but whenever im around my crush i totally freak out, and i cant think of anything to say ! its so annoying. he will be standing next to me, and i will just stand there too. i dont want him to think im not interested, because i really am.

so what are some good topics to talk about, or what would you do?

thanks!

I remember when I was younger and this happened to me. Things worked out for me even though I was really shy and an idiot!
Just try to keep calm. Think about what you say because sometimes when you're nervous, you can blurt out any old rubbish.
It gets easier once you get past the stage where you push yourself to talk to him.
It's important to remain eye contact when you're chatting and to smile.
Things you could say:
*Ask him how he is, what he's up to etc.
*Take an interest in something he's wearing for example and ask where he got it.
*Is he in any of your classes? Ask about homework.
Try to chat to him as often as you can, even if it small talk. It will build up eventually.
I know it's scary at first. It'll get better! When it does, you can ask him to hang out. Who knows, he may ask you first ;)

Check this out:
http://www.wikihow.com/Talk-to-Your-Crush-Without-Being-Crushed

i have a group of imature friends that i have alot of fun with. but there's a problem, their all total pot heads and trouble makers and then i have a group of friends who are still wierd but not like them and they are a better infuence on me. should i get rid of the pot heads even though some of them arent so bad...they're still my friends, is that all that matters?

You don't have to dump them so to speak. You have a mind of your own, correct? So if anything comes up and you know it's a bad idea or they pressure you into doing things you don't want to, just say no.
You should only think about not being their friends if they're basically jerks to you.
You can never have too many friends. Keep them all. :)

When getting braces do they hurt when they are putting them on or does it only hurt after they are done putting them on? Also would they pull any teeth or would they be able to fix anything teeth that is out of place depending on how far back it is?

They don't hurt when getting them on. Afterwards, it will ache for a few days. It will also ache for a few days after each time you get them adjusted but it's honestly nothing to worry about.
If I could, I would have my braces back because I ruined my teeth after not wearing my retainer.
It depends if you have to have teeth out for them. Most people do. I had 2 out.
If you're given the option to get them, I'd go for it!

I was wondering does gum cover up the scent of alchohol? and i heard eating food can help you feel more sober? anything else? any special foods?

I can tell you from experience mints and gum don't work too good. Infact, they make the smell stronger! Plus, it's pretty obvious you're trying to hide something.
Eat anything - I guess it will help to take away the smell and drink something which isn't alcohol.
Carry body spray/perfume.
Eating food before you drink is good. A glass of milk will line your stomach, too.
Also, if you can, after every drink, drink 1 glass of water. This way, it helps to flush it out of your system and you won't feel awful the next day.
Remember, you must be of age to drink. and if you don't want to end up smelling of alcohol, is it wise to drink it in the first place? Because there isn't anything that can cover up the smell 100%

how can you survive a broken heart from a first love and you have done everything with him. ALMOST EVERYTHING EXCEPT FOR sex. but how can you survive a broken heart from a first love and from someone you really lpoved and first kiss..

Trying to mend a broken heart isn't easy - especially your first love. but it can be done and within time, you'll learn to appreciate the times you did actually get to share with one another and you won't be angry, you'll be glad it happened.
The first stage is always the hardest. It's basically coming to terms with what has happened and realizing everything you give up to him. What you need to do to get past the first stage is to keep your distance from him. Yes, it sounds hard, because you'll probably want to talk to him at any opportunity you get - but you mustn't do it. As far as you are aware, this boy doesn't exist any more. If you see him, don't stop and talk, ignore him. If you used to chat to him online - don't. Delete his number from your phone so you won't be tempted to get in contact.
See your friends as much as possible. Let out all your feelings to them. Good friends will listen and help you get through it. Try to keep yourself occupied so you don't find yourself daydreaming and thinking about him. Keep busy! Read, call your friends, go out, listen to good happy music, exercise, watch a film, tidy your room.. anything.
You'll soon see within time, things will get alot better.
It helps to know you aren't alone in this situation. Guaranteed it has happened or will happen to your friends at some point - not to mention everyone else in the world. Its's life unfortunately. and you will have gained alot of experience from it.
Always remember;
It's better to have loved and lost to have never loved at all.
I hope you start to feel better very soon.

right pleaase people who have had experience n this help im thinking about joining the r.a.f as a pilot but everyone ses it ruins your life and makes it so you cannot have a family. they also so that its not a good job and is horrible. can i have the insite from some one who has actually had experience or knows some one who has had experience.

Who exactly is "everyone"?
It's not an easy job and you need qualifications etc.
This will explain it better than anyone, considering it's come from the official site:
http://www.raf.mod.uk/careers/jobs/pilot.cfm
This site may also be of use:
http://www.how2become.co.uk/royalairforce.htm
There's also a contact page for anything you'd want to know instead of just going by what "everyone" says:
http://www.how2become.co.uk/contactus.htm

i'm female, 15....its an odd thing because i know i'm bi, i've established that fact but i'm not sure what to do. no one knows about it and i think i have a crush on someone. i know she's not bi or gay but still; and i have a crush on a guy too.

im not sure what to do or if i should let people know about me being bi. i feel i won't be accepted. its just frustrating. what should i do?

from (confused about...everything)

Give it a bit more time. People assume they're bi because they fancy someone of the same sex. A year or two passes and they realize it was just a phase.
If you still feel the same later, that's fine. Noone should judge you on your sexuality. There's plenty of bisexuals in the world...
15 is a young age to just throw yourself into a category and be expected to live by it.

I pierced my nose just 2 days ago and I even put the needle in alcohol and cleaned it real good.
Its really sore atill and with my friend nose piercing it was never like this
I'm hoping its not an infection but
Should I wait another few days its not sore anymore or take it out?

I wont lecture you on this, because what's done it done.
I've had mine done 3 times, just so you know, so I know alot about this.
Just because you put it in "alcohol and cleaned it real good" - it doesn't mean it was sterilized. Not to mention the jewelry!
The only way to effectively sterilize needles and jewelry is to put them in an autoclave.
ANYWAY.
If I were you, I'd give it about 2 days to settle down.
In the mean time, don't put any ointments on it. All you need is sea salt soaks. Apply them to your nose about 3/4 times daily, each for 15 minutes.
DO NOT touch it or play with it. You WILL get a nasty bump which will take months for it to go, okay?
If you start to see pus coming out and it's a bad colour, you will most probably need antibiotics and doctors advice. I know alot of the time you AREN'T suposed to take infected piercings out, because it leaves the infection inside your nose.
If you need any other advice, inbox me.

Edit:
It depends on the sizes of the jewelry. If it's a regular L shaped nose screw you're going to change it to, it should be fine. If it's thicker than the earring you have in at the moment, you'll have a but of trouble putting it in. Either way, it should be okay if you look after it well. Within the first 3 months, try not to change the jewelry any more while it heals.

I need you to tell me some good FREE virus blocks, and virus scanner programs. I have a good paid program..but the year is over, my dad hasn't got round to re-newing it..so I am quite worried about my laptop since there are no virus blocks, and I use LimeWire.

thanks!!

Same happened to me last month. Mine ran out so I got AVG free edition. It works perfectly fine - it's as good as anything you pay for.

I am a middle school girl. I have a good friend. Lets call her sarah. Sarah has a boyfriend and he is new to our school this year. He told me that he liked me and i liked him to. But i dont want my friend to find out. But now he is denying that he ever said that and i dont know what to do. Sorry if this confused you.

You can't make him tell the truth. Ask him why he is denying it.
YOU know he said it.. it's all that matters. Why would you want to tell anyone he said it anyway?
If he's not mature enough to admit it, forget it.

How can i get rid of razor burns
When i shave i get these red dots and i hate them is there a way i can get rid of them ?

Take your time when shaving, don't rush and don't go too hard. Make sure it's NOT dry (do it in the bath) and use any form of shaving gel (even conditioner) - cold things work better because it soothes at the same time and won't burn. Sharp razors obviously work best.
Afterwards, if necessary, apply a soothing lotion/baby oil/etc to make them smooth.

There is this boy Lany who I used to like and i just foung out that he liked me last year I wanted to kill him i mean really. So we have a really bad past together and alot has happend bettween us[rummers,fights]so i want to know if i should tell him that I do not want to be friends with him anymore or keep going and just talk to him or anything. so ya hwat should I do.

You can't ask anyone if you should continue your friendship with him, because we don't know the full extent of what has happened between you both.
If there's no way to fix your friendship, or you simply don't want to and he's had enough chances, break it off.
Hope you make the right decision.

What are some signs of pregnancy? Can it be confused with having the flu?

Thanks.

The earliest signs of pregnancy are tender breasts, headaches, fatigue, mood swings, dizziness, feeling faint, higher body temperature. These can happen before the obvious missed period.
Unfortunately though, the first signs can always be mistaken for an illness, as you've said.
The best bet is to wait until your period is due - if it doesn't come, take a pregnancy test.
Taking a test too early may give you a negative result. Waiting 14 days is average.

I have only just started masturbating and i was just wondering if there were any good positions or places that are best ...like i first did it in the bath and it felf easy and i really want to have an orgasm but i don't no if you can get them when you masturbate...
so any info and masturbating would be good thanx

Asking what works for someone else won't really get you anywhere. Of course you can get orgasms if you masturbate - you just have to see what works best for you.

Hundreds of sites to choose from, see? ;)

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