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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
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I've been with my boyfriend for a year. He currently lives with me and my parents since his mom left him homeless. We are both 18; we don't fight a whole lot, just the typical agruements.
Well, he's been complaining that I'm not as affectionate as I use to be, and that I never want to have sex with him and stuff.
He's afraid its because I'm not attracted to him anymore, but I know I am.
How come I don't have urges to have sex with him as often as I use to, and how come I'm not all lovey dovey with him like I was when we first got together?
*Ever since he's been living with me, is when I stopped being so affectionate. I just feel akward doing it in front of my parents. I like to give them respect, ya know?
*Sometimes when he tries to lay on me, or touch on me, I get irritated, and I don't understand why. Any help?
Whether you both live in your parents house or not you both live together, You are around one another all the time and you are past the early stages. You two need to give one another space from time to time to keep the spark going in your relationship, The fact that he lives with you could be putting stress on the relationship. Another possibility is did you two always used to have sex? Sometimes having so much of it can cause one to loose interest for awhile. Seriously, Try to give one another some time to breathe. Go out with friends while he goes out with his, Do you work? Does he work? Take that time to have your alone time. Having someone up your ass 24.7.....I'd get irritated also. Now, I know you stated you still very much care for him but if anything ever did change don't feel obligated to stay in a relationship you just aren't happy in. You do not owe it too him to satisfy your happiness for his needs.
Also, You may want to correct this part of your question: " I just feel akward doing it in front of my parents. "
hello everyone.. i can't stop thinking about my girlfriend's past.. she had relationship with other guy for 6 yrs...we have been in relations for 8 months now.. lately i only picture of her being in physical activities wid other guy. i am sorry i might sound somewhat weird but it wasn't my problem when she told me everything at the beginning.. sometime i think i deserve better woman than her... i tend to think nowadays that she was used and dumped so i don't know if i would be able to love her as a wife.. having these things in mind.. we used to talk about getting married soon but now i am confused. can you guys give me some advices..
its not that i have not fool around wid other gals before but still ....double standards i guessss...
Everyone has a past, This women was in a relationship for 6 years but something happened they broke up and now she is with you. It is wrong for you to hold the past over this women's head and if that is your way of thinking dude you aren't going to find anyone. Nobody wants to be with someone who looks down on them and judges them. You are 8 months in your relationship, Right now you shouldn't really be thinking of marriage just be happy to be with her. Sometimes it's best to put the past behind you and move on from it. Stop being judge mental and try supporting her and loving her for who she is.
Okay, I'm just going to start off by saying that this will be a little long so please bear with me :) Oh and this might seem totally materialistic and shallow but I can't help it, its really a problem for me.
I'm 14 and I'm seriously depressed. Here's the problem: I'm poor.. Not 'can't eat three meals a day' poor. Just 'can't afford a car' poor. Like middle class. Not that I care much about these things but everyone at my school does. My dad gets like a very normal salary but that's not enough so my mom has to work too. Together they put enough money for me to go this really good school. The thing is, the school fee is REALLY high, for people like me I mean. So only rich kids go there. So my parents own like this little apartment where we live, and they can buy me fancy clothes and stuff (not branded but not that its a problem) and we can eat out once in a while. But we just can't afford a car. And that's why I have no friends at school. Everyone there is rich, and has a car. I'm not and I can't afford one. So all my classmates are really mean to me. They don't talk much about money but that's why they don't like me. Shallow, I know, but what can I do? The guys totally ignore me and when they talk they're really mean. The girls act like they're my friends but they bitch about me all the time and they only call me when they need something done. I try so hard to fit in but I'm afraid I never will.. I can't become rich just to get friends. That wouldn't be real friendship. Is money all that matters? If so, will I always be alone in life? I'm sure I'll never ever get a boyfriend but I reaally want a friend :( And since I'm focusing so much on this my grades are dropping.. I used to top the class but now these mean girls do. I'm afraid I'm letting my parents down now too.. what do I do? Please don't make rude comments, reply to me only if you really want to help. Thanks in advance :)
I know you may not want to hear this but kids are shallow, They are rude, ignorant and just don't give a shit. That isn't towards you, That is towards your classmates.
Sometimes you just need to focus on what you do have and not what you don't. You have a family that loves and provides for you and in the end that is should be what matters not the fact that your parents don't own a car. Also, Adviceman is right your classmates are not rich, They do not make the money their parents do. I am 27 years old and I am yet to own a car myself, The point I'm trying to make is you aren't the only one in the world that doesn't have a car. Be grateful for what you have because it could be much worse and don't pay attention to what other people say and think let them be little assholes.
he thinks i'm grouchy...
we've been chatting for almost a year.
but he still don't have a picture.
i've been eagerly asking for his pic so long ago... but still no pic. i want to see his face. :(
Assuming you've been chatting with someone whom you never met online, Generally people who do not share pictures either lie or show false pictures of themselves.
My boyfriend have been dating for about two months now, and usually I wait to have sex, but he and I have been best friends for so long, that I'm totally comfortable and feel safe with him, and we decided to have sex on Friday. We used a condom, and it felt good at first but we didn't have a lot of time because his mom came home, so we stopped and just hung out for a while.
A few hours later, we messed around for a little bit, and he told me he wanted to do it without a condom. I trusted him, and told him it'd be fine as long as he knew how to control himself. He stayed in for about two minutes but promised he was very careful and far from cumming. I don't know if it's my paranoid mind, but I've been worrying about that since the day after. My period is very inaccurate and skips a day or two than normal, so I never really know when it is going to show up, but this time I counted ahead. It should come sometime this week, but I'm letting my worries get the best of me. My boyfriend is very responsible and fatherly to my sister, so if chance happened that I did have his child, things would be fine...
Anyway sorry for the long question, but any advice to ease my worries?
Really, I cannot give you advise to ease your worries. Despite controlling it or not if you have sex without a condom you are technically asking for it. Anything is possible and something as simple as pre ejaculation can sometimes detect enough sperm for pregnancy. If you do not want to be pregnant then use a condom at all times, There is no such thing as "promising to control it" If this is how he think you most definitely are not ready for parenting despite his fatherly connection with your sister. I don't know what to tell you other then wait until your period comes and if it doesn't take a test.
Here's the thing, I have never smoked or done drugs.. but 3 weeks ago..I ended up basically doing a deal for my friend..and I put his dub in my pocket for a few minutes until he got there for me to give to him..
Today, I just took a drug test for a job, and I was wondering what would be the possibility it shows up? Rare right?
I feel like now I'm freaking out for nothing because I didn't actually do anything besides hold it for someone for a few minutes.
Depends on what drug it was, If it was marijuana it can stay in your system up to a month. If you didn't smoke it or do anything of that matter then you should be fine. From now on though, I wouldn't hold that shit for nobody cause you get caught your screwed.
I'm thinking about putting my photography on http://www.deviantart.com/
But I'm worried about people stealing it. How can I watermark my photes so that it looks professional and not sloppy?
Photo editors I have are Picnik, Picasa, and Photofiltre.
I'm not sure how to watermark unless you use the copyright but I wouldn't put anything on the internet if you are worried about someone stealing it. You can watermark it and even put a copyright and people still find ways to steal pictures even if that meant cropping out the watermark so it looks as their own. Unless there is a way to make the page private then it's almost impossible to prevent that from happening.
17/f , I'm kind of a hairy girl and I have been made fun of for it almost my whole life. When I was 15, I started shaving EVERYTHING including my legs, arms, underarms, and stomach. Now, I completely regret it because it's growing back too thick and feels gross when my boyfriend touches me. I want to stop shaving my stomach, but the hairs grow back disgustingly, noticeably thick . Is there anyway i can make them thinner or less noticeable?
Shaving everything is the worst thing you can do, All I can really tell you is to dye the hair so it's not as noticeable. Tweezing, Waxing or shaving will just make it even worse then it already is.
If you want you could try to make an appointment for laser hair removal but even so that isn't really guarantee to be permanent and costly.
This is going to be SUPER long, but i'm need of some serious help. i'm 17/F and my bf is 21. ive been with him for 1 year, and its literally been the best year of my life. he has made me happy in so many ways i didnt even know were possible. along with that, he's also brought me down to my lowest. the thought of losing him seriously gives me suicidal thoughts, i have cried for 7 hours during arguements and yesterday it even got physical. it got so bad i started punching him and telling him he was an ass****, i attempted jumping out of his car, he put me in a chokehold and called me a slut. i seriously lose myself when i fight with him, like i black out and i dont see anything but pain. on top of me and him having horrible fights, i have this extreme jealousy towards his ex of 4 years, because they were super serious and she is still crazy in love with him. i'm terrified he'll leave me and get back with her, or that she'll convince him to cheat on me with her. i dont know if i would be more miserable with him or without him. i feel like he's my only choice, i live in a small town and i know i will NEVER find anyone like him. i'm just too crazy in love with him. i want to learn how to fix this without me being so crazy about everything, and maybe stop caring less? PLEASE HELP.
You out clearly out of line, I can guarantee if you keep on acting the way you were he will leave. That is abuse and just not normal behavior. It is okay to have jealousy issues in a relationship but you also need to know your boundaries, You can't let the jealousy get out of hand as in some cases jealousy can lead to being controlling. Your boyfriend's ex is an ex for reason, He is no longer with her. If you trust your boyfriend and your relationship then you are going to need to chill out and just be happy with him. Communication goes along way, Talk to him about how you feel in a mature way. What you are doing, It's irrational and just flat out nuts. Calm down, What is done is done but next time communicate about it not act out or he will eventually call it quits for good. To be honest, If you hit me you'd be on the first bus out.
my exboyfriend loves dark hair on girls, long story short i always dye my hair dark brown during the winter time, were trying to work on being friends. anyways, im sick of my hair and its approaching when i usually dye it. currently it's light brown. i want to dye it but i if i dye my hair darker, i'll just feel guilty for myself. i dont know why its just how i feel. but if i get highlights i feel like im getting it inspite of him. i need to change my hair (no i refuse to cut it im growing it out lol) but i don't know what to do. =/ ideas?
Why do you care? He is your ex. Also, I find it extremely annoying when girls constantly dye their hair all the time. Are you insecure?....You should love your hair the way it is, You look fine.
I have no idea what to give an 8 yr old. So heres a description of her and then maybe you guys can help. Shes happy alllll the time. Energetic. Outgoing. Friendly. Happy. That about wraps that up. BTW im 13 and her emo, older sister.
I agree with the user below me, Don't use the word "emo" it's often misused.
Does she like Justin Beiber? I know he seems to be really popular with the kids nowadays. Maybe buy her a poster with him on it.
What does your sister like?.....You could just go to the toy department and pick something out.
How about a pack of silly bandz? Here is a picture of what I mean http://www.toy-tma.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/silly-bandz2.jpg?9c1df9 They aren't that expensive and a lot of kids wear them.
21 female. Boyfriend is 19
Me and my boyfriend has sex for the 2nd time together last night. I have been on birth control for about 4 years now, and about 99% of the time I take it at the exact same time every day. My boyfriend also wore a condom. The thing is, literally like 2 minutes before we were done having sex he said he made sure the condom was still on, and then when we were done I felt it was off. And I was like Nick, the condom. And he checked his penis and he was like omg where is it? And I'm almost positive it was stuck inside of me, I'm not really sure what happened. But it was not on him. I immediately started freaking out.
Do you think I'll be okay? I know there is always a chance of getting pregnant but I'm hoping being on the pill will save me. I've been sick just thinking about maybe getting pregnant because of this. My boyfriend said at least I was on birth control, and that no matter what he would stand by me and he tried calming me down but it's not working.
If you've been taking birth control faithfully then you should be fine. However, I would keep on using condoms anyway as the chances may be slim but still possible.
is it like kay-trin or Kat-trin?
Kay-Trin
A very good friend of mine will call her Ann for years has never invited me to her parties . Every time confronted her she had different excuses. I am talking for about a fifteen yr friendship. So finally I quit talking to her for a year . Then I called her up and said I didn't care anymore about this. She then invited to an event for her daughter. I graciously went and thought everything was fine. But the other it started again. The strange thing is this event was a home party with kinda of a unique product that I really like and she knew how much I liked it. I am so hurt again. I am sick of it. I don't think she wants me around but were good enough to talk all the time. Don't get it any advice?
Have you told her that you were tired of her excuses and you feel that you deserve the truth? Flat out just like that? If you two have been friends for 15 years and you weren't invited to any of her events I would start to suspect that maybe she didn't value the friendship as much as you thought she did. At 15 years, You two should have no problem being honest with one another and talking maturely on how you both feel. If this women can't be honest too you then I would ask yourself if your friendship is worth it.
They key question is do you want it "All or nothing??" Or....Nothing at all?
I'm 14 (female) and I like a guy a lot but I've just found out from my friend that he smokes weed along with loads of other guys from my year. The problem is I still like him a bit because I cant really believe it...what should I do about it and should I carry on as if I dont know and that everything is normal??
The guy is into drugs, Is it okay for someone to do drugs? No. I really think you should just let him go and find someone who thinks with a clear head not someone who's always trippin
http://static.tumblr.com/0qmosxd/m6alt4sox/dsc01461.jpg
I personally don't like that one, Try to smile you are very pretty.
17/f
Me and my ex boyfriend, Johnny, had the type of relationship that was really good when it was good but when it was bad it was really bad. I broke up with him one night after finding out that he stayed night after night at his ex girlfriend's house after telling me he doesn't talk to her. (She is crazy obsessed with him) After a month or so Johnny and I ended up becoming friends. We got really close, he would call me every night just to tell me he loves me and he would tell me all about his day. He transferred over to my school (small school, about 50 students, impossible to avoid anyone) the minute he saw me talking to my friend(male) he came up and mugged my friend until he left. I told Johnny that his actions were unnecessary and he said he didn't realize he was doing it. Later that night I was at church and Johnny called me, I ignored it because it would've been disrespectful to answer. I called him about an hour later when I got out and he accused me of being with other guys. We got into a big argument and during the argument I asked him why we did he even care since we're just friends. He said he's trying to mend our relationship. After that we were arguing on and off for the next 30 minutes or so. He said he doesn't want me talking, hugging, hanging out, or even looking at other guys. We got off the phone and he hasn't showed up at school since then (Wednesday) he got his phone disconnected so I haven't been able to talk to him. I found out that he's been at his ex girlfriends house since that night. i would ask my friends for advice but they don't like him at all so they would obviously say only negative things. All my guy friends said they're going to purposely talk to me in front of him just to make him mad. Should I wait it out and go with the flow or should I confront my ex about his "ex"? any opinions and extra advice will be very helpful because I am completely lost. Thanks in advance
You are wasting your time, This guy is controlling and just a flat out jerk.
While he was dating you, He cheated. This guy isn't over his ex that is obvious. Sounds to me he just wants a rebound and he wants you to be that girl encase drama starts up again with his ex. This guy isn't worth it, You don't want drama then don't let it get too you. As long as you are associated with people who cause drama you will always be around it. It is okay for this guy to stay with his ex but yet he has the brass balls to tell you that you can't talk to guys?!....
Waste of time, Don't answer his calls just forget about him. He doesn't care about you, He doesn't respect you and he wants too use you. Ignore him
I'm just trying to prove a point to my boyfriend, it's NOT attractive when guys fart correct?
LOL!
Well, Farting in front of someone is considered rude.
If a dude farted in from of a women of course she would be offended, It's not attractive to them. However, Dudes will be dudes.
It's no different then a lady farting in front of a guy. It's not ladylike and it's not attractive.
Hi!I m 26 yrs old Male guy. I am facing a problem from last 8 years. I saw a 45 years old women each and every time by bad eye of faith and I trying to having sex with that women from 8 years because I like her and she is still so hot, but I failed. I want that she'll ready for dis by herself. So please tell me how can I convince her for dis. Give me the solution.
After 8 years of trying to convince a women and failing miserably, You should begin to realize that this women is not going to give in. This women is not interested, Trying to convince her otherwise is going to scare her off and after awhile if not already you will become a stalker. You need to let it go
my 4 year old is for lack of a better term a terrible child. he randomly screams loudly for no reason, he tries to steal things when we go ANYWHERE, he abuses our animals, his baby (7 month old) brother and me. my husband and i argue everyday over my son and his bad behavior is getting to be a problem in our marriage. he lies for no reason about things he doesnt have to lie about. he calls me names, curses at me and hits me in the face. he refuses to listen and almost always does the opposite of what is told or asked of him. we have tried everything. he gets verbal warnings, time outs, toys or favorite things taken away, soap in his mouth, even spankings. its embarrassing to take him places and im afraid that if his terrible behavior continues in public and at school CPS will become involved and i love him despite his actions.
P.S. my husband and i dont curse at one other and there is absolutely no abuse in our home where can those things be coming from?
EDIT: I did give you advice, I told you to try and see a pediatrician, I'm sorry if it pissed you off that I told you to try and take parenting classes but from the way you are handling it I don't think it would really be a bad idea.
Your son could have development behavior problems, You and your husband should seek help from a family therapist. You could also make an appointment to see a pediatrician. Your child is not a terrible child, He needs someone to address proper behavior and help him cope properly. Putting soap in his mouth and spanking a child can be classified as child abuse, Although you may not see it that way it isn't proper punishment for a child.
I would suggest you and your husband take some parenting classes it may help you understand how to deal with children that throw temper tantrums. No child is perfect, Every child has their days where they act out just like us adults do. CPS will not only take your son away but also evaluate you and your husband. If they do decide to take your son away you can also expect them to take away your other child as well and they usually only get involved if someone suspects abuse or some type of neglect.