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advice. never invited
A very good friend of mine will call her Ann for years has never invited me to her parties . Every time confronted her she had different excuses. I am talking for about a fifteen yr friendship. So finally I quit talking to her for a year . Then I called her up and said I didn't care anymore about this. She then invited to an event for her daughter. I graciously went and thought everything was fine. But the other it started again. The strange thing is this event was a home party with kinda of a unique product that I really like and she knew how much I liked it. I am so hurt again. I am sick of it. I don't think she wants me around but were good enough to talk all the time. Don't get it any advice?
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I'm not sure I would refer to this women as my friend if I were in your place. I mean if our friendship was one of mere convenience. Meaning good enough for talking but not good enough to invite to dinners or special events. I would put that person in the category of an acquaintance.
What I mean is friends do things together such as going shopping, exchange dinners in each others home, have family events together and so forth.
You spoke to Ann one time about this and she made a one time exception then went right back to her old ways. While two wrongs don't make a right I would say next time she calls tell her your busy and you'll call her back, then don't. If she stops by your home tell her your really busy and don;t have time to visit and you'll call her, then don't. Maybe after experiencing this she might get the message and call you to find out whats wrong. Maybe she wont'. If she doesn't you have an answer to how much Ann values your friendship.
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Have you told her that you were tired of her excuses and you feel that you deserve the truth? Flat out just like that? If you two have been friends for 15 years and you weren't invited to any of her events I would start to suspect that maybe she didn't value the friendship as much as you thought she did. At 15 years, You two should have no problem being honest with one another and talking maturely on how you both feel. If this women can't be honest too you then I would ask yourself if your friendship is worth it.
They key question is do you want it "All or nothing??" Or....Nothing at all?
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