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How far is okay to go with a guy
So my boyfriend and I have been dating around a year. We always hold and hands and he puts his arm around me, but we didn't kiss for a long time. Once we finally kissed like a month later he tried to French kiss me, I was expecting it so I backed away but the next day I gave in. After that we were sitting together one time and he starts kissing me and then puts his hand on my chest and then he even slipped his hand in my shirt an was messing around. I liked it so I didn't stop him. The very nex day we were watching a movie and e does the same thing but this tine he slipped his hand down my pants.
Now two days ago we were walking an we went under a bridge and started making out and he kept lifting my shirt up and finally I undid my bra and he was touching and kissing me there and he unbuttoned his pants and put my hand down there.
None if this feels wrong because I know I'm not going to actually go all the way, and I love him. But I don't know if he'll stop loving me or feel differently about me. Should I stop doing this stuff? I'm 16 and he's 14 by the way.
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If you really think that you are not going to go the distance...Why start? You will eventually give in to his advancements and your next post will state "Help! Pregnant mum at sixteen" I suggest that you seek advice on sexual affairs and situations with your parents. Parents knows best and will always point and guide their children in the right direction. Remember - Parents were sixteen too.
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If you're uncomfortable with what he's doing then you need to tell him to stop. He won't stop caring for you because he'll respect your wishes by stopping. At least that's what a real boyfriend would do.
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I'm both a little impressed and surprised at how aggressive your 14 year old boyfriend is. When I was his age I don't remember being that aggressive. Then again I wasn't going with girls two years older than me.
Since you don't plan on going all the way and since sometimes things get to a point of no return for both of you; I would suggest you dial it back a couple of notches with him. Such as keeping your clothes on and his hands staying above your waist. Let him know this is as far as your willing to go.
He's 14 so expect him to be a little childish about this and do some, call it begging, since you have already gone father than I'm suggesting. Since you have; he is expecting to eventually hit a home run and even at 14 he is more powerful than you and can overpower you.
If you ever let it get to the point of being naked with him or just down to pantie's I would suspect he will try to force you further as a 14 year old horny male does not know from NO or stop.
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In all honesty, I am a guy... And it seems like you two are getting pretty intense. He wont get angry. He's 14, and heck your 16! if your not going to go all the way... then why have you already gone half way? point im trying to make is, eventually you will go all the way if you keep this up. you see, I'm 21 years old. I know how guys and girls think, especially at your age, your hormones are raging, so when something happens in the moment you go with it.
At least you Love him and dont want the relationship to fuck up. draw the line set your standards. Right now, you are talking to a virgin. It's not that I cant get with anyone. Its because I am a virgin by choice. And I am proud of it. sure, there have been times in which I have wished I had sex, or even wondered what it would feel like. But also just by watching some friends, Sex causes drama, drama causes heartache and confusion... I have seen many relationships end because sex destroyed it. My friends come to me and they are like. "I wish I was like you, If i knew what I've known now... I would be a virgin"
I do it by choice but at the same time, I choose it because I'm a christian. And I believe, that when the right women comes I will be pure to her, and it will be 100 percent better then a fling, or a one night stand.
You are young dont even worry about sex and set your standards!
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You don't need to stop if the both of you are okay with it. Just make it clear that you don't plan on going all the way with him.
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You should probably stop before it gets too far, that is one naughty 14 year old.
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