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Boyfriend for a year? How do I keep it?
I've been with my boyfriend for a year. He currently lives with me and my parents since his mom left him homeless. We are both 18; we don't fight a whole lot, just the typical agruements.
Well, he's been complaining that I'm not as affectionate as I use to be, and that I never want to have sex with him and stuff.
He's afraid its because I'm not attracted to him anymore, but I know I am.
How come I don't have urges to have sex with him as often as I use to, and how come I'm not all lovey dovey with him like I was when we first got together?
*Ever since he's been living with me, is when I stopped being so affectionate. I just feel akward doing it in front of my parents. I like to give them respect, ya know?
*Sometimes when he tries to lay on me, or touch on me, I get irritated, and I don't understand why. Any help?
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You're both 18 and he's moved in with you into your parents house. You say that since he's moved in you've stopped being AS affectionate. You say this is because you don't like to do anything in front of your parents out of respect which is fair enough. He should respect that. But I believe that it could just be because he lives with you. There's no pressure to be constantly lovey dovey for the simple fact that he's always there now so you can be lovey dovey any time of the day, where as normally I'm guessing you guys would have to wait a while before you got to see each other - absence makes the heart grow fonder - as for getting irritated when he tries to touch you sometimes or lay on you it could be simply because he's invading your personal space. You used to go to your room to chill out or be by yourself and just relax. But now that he's there it could possibly be that you just don't feel like you could do that when he's around. You've been together for a year now so you've passed what people call the 'honeymoon' phase. I suggest you guys get some 'me time' so that you can miss your partner and have that satisfaction of getting back to him. Explain to your boyfriend that you still love him very much and your still attracted to him but you just don't want sex as often as he wants it and sometimes just wanna be by yourself sometimes, or just lye next to him instead of being all 'up against each other'.
Hope this helps, and good luck with your relationship xx
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Whether you both live in your parents house or not you both live together, You are around one another all the time and you are past the early stages. You two need to give one another space from time to time to keep the spark going in your relationship, The fact that he lives with you could be putting stress on the relationship. Another possibility is did you two always used to have sex? Sometimes having so much of it can cause one to loose interest for awhile. Seriously, Try to give one another some time to breathe. Go out with friends while he goes out with his, Do you work? Does he work? Take that time to have your alone time. Having someone up your ass 24.7.....I'd get irritated also. Now, I know you stated you still very much care for him but if anything ever did change don't feel obligated to stay in a relationship you just aren't happy in. You do not owe it too him to satisfy your happiness for his needs.
Also, You may want to correct this part of your question: " I just feel akward doing it in front of my parents. "
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Well after a year the "honeymoon phase" in a relationship is over. Not that you can't have romantic moments but they aren't all the time. This si where you discover you and what you want out of your life. This is also where you two learn more about each other and figure out if you want to stay together. He sounds like he's missing the "honeymoon phase" which is understandable. When you first fall in love with someone it feels great but being in love is great too. It will be 2 years that I've been with my boyfriend in January. We have our moments but we also are crazy for each other. I love him and I can't see him not being in my life.
I understand how you want to respect your parents and their house...that's very mature of you. You should talk to him about that and tell him thats how you feeling. I guess a little hand holding wouldn't kill you though, right? Try to compromise a little.
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