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My Parents DONT KNOW ME
Im 13 and female. I know what your going to say, youre gonna say its just a teenage phase im going through. Id believe that if i hadnt been thinking this since i waz 4. So lemme start my story. Im scene, just saying, most ppl call it emo. But my parentz dont get scene so they just think imma freak. How can i get them to understand im not emo anymore?
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By not acting like one around them? eg: dressing different to an emo and things.
People say you can't judge a book by it's cover but i disagree. How you dress particually is judged-as you've dressed a certain way because thats how you want people to view you as.
I doubt any parent would truly think they're chil was a complete freak-else they'd get you into therapy or something. When alot of parents were growing up there wern't all these different types of people, so i guess thats why they think its strange.
It's hard feeling like this, but i bet your parents love you for who you are. Just be totally yourself. Don't care too much what others think of you because then they're getting in the way of you and your life. I'm not saying go crazy! Just maybe agree to disagree with your 'rents on this occasion and move on-life's too short :)
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You shouldn't have to explain who you are to them. Your parents will accept you for who you are and what your about. So you're a scene kid who cares you want to be a scene kid go ahead. Whether its a phase or not you have the right to express yourself which ever way you want. I'm sure your parents don't think you're a freak. I still butt heads with my mother on the way I dress. I sometimes like to dress in a tank or halter top and she doesn't like it. Guess what? It's who I am and my style is the way I express myself. No one is going to tell me how to dress, what kind of make up to wear, or even how I do my hair. Be YOU! Be PROUD!
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sinK is sort of on the right track with the advice given. You do need to talk with your parents and let them in on how you feel and who you are as a person.
It's funny in a way but we parents joke that we wish our children came with an operators manual like the car or the washing machine. But children don't. They just pop out into our world and expect us to have all the answers and we don't. We learn on the job. The first child is the hardest to raise; it gets easier with the second and future children. The first and onlys pay the biggest price in the parental learning curve.
As parents we learn by asking questions. Our children, especially teenagers think we are being intrusive and tell us nothing or scream at us to stay out of their personal lives.
I'm a little concerned that you feel the way do for as long as you have. Unfortunately other than the emo reference you did not expand upon your reason(s). If you would like to discuss your reasons for your feeling this way private message me with the how and why of you feeling as you do and maybe I can give you some insight or help you find a better way to connect to your parents.
In the mean time, try talking to your parents, really talking, calmly without tears or screaming. Tell mom or dad or both together how you feel and how long you have felt this way. If you were my daughter and came to me in a calm manner and tried to explain all this to me. I would be both surprised and hurt. For the same reason; first that I failed to see it and second that you have been hurt by my failure to see it.
We all love our children, that is a given. some parents raise their children with an iron fist others use a softer method. The difference between parents is in how we raise our children. Somewhere in how your parents have chosen to raise you is probably the problem that causes you to feel as you do. It is not because they do not love you.
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Tell them the difference, tell them that you're not going to hurt yourself, you just like to wear dark clothes and stuff like that. And you're not unhappy right? so tell them you are happy like this.
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