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Bad relationship but I don't want drama
17/f
Me and my ex boyfriend, Johnny, had the type of relationship that was really good when it was good but when it was bad it was really bad. I broke up with him one night after finding out that he stayed night after night at his ex girlfriend's house after telling me he doesn't talk to her. (She is crazy obsessed with him) After a month or so Johnny and I ended up becoming friends. We got really close, he would call me every night just to tell me he loves me and he would tell me all about his day. He transferred over to my school (small school, about 50 students, impossible to avoid anyone) the minute he saw me talking to my friend(male) he came up and mugged my friend until he left. I told Johnny that his actions were unnecessary and he said he didn't realize he was doing it. Later that night I was at church and Johnny called me, I ignored it because it would've been disrespectful to answer. I called him about an hour later when I got out and he accused me of being with other guys. We got into a big argument and during the argument I asked him why we did he even care since we're just friends. He said he's trying to mend our relationship. After that we were arguing on and off for the next 30 minutes or so. He said he doesn't want me talking, hugging, hanging out, or even looking at other guys. We got off the phone and he hasn't showed up at school since then (Wednesday) he got his phone disconnected so I haven't been able to talk to him. I found out that he's been at his ex girlfriends house since that night. i would ask my friends for advice but they don't like him at all so they would obviously say only negative things. All my guy friends said they're going to purposely talk to me in front of him just to make him mad. Should I wait it out and go with the flow or should I confront my ex about his "ex"? any opinions and extra advice will be very helpful because I am completely lost. Thanks in advance
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My advice is to get away from him he's the drama! Don't involve yourself with this guy he sounds like trouble. First off he's your ex so he has no say in who you talk to or who you can hang out with and such. Even if he was your boyfriend he shouldn't be dictating who you can and cannot hang out with. My boyfriend doesn't tell me what to do I'm my own person and he supports me on the decisions I make. He also trusts me and know how much I care so if I'm hanging out with another guy as a friend he doesn't worry and doesn't try to control the situation. Your ex sounds like a control freak and sounds like he is emotionally abusive.
As for his relationship with his ex-girlfriend, stay away from her! You know what they say "If you see crazy, cross the street". I learned my lesson about dealing with exes crazy ex girlfriends and never again will I involve myself with that kind of nonsense. Leave her be because that relationship has nothing to do with you. Ignore this guy and move on. You will be so much better off!
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You are wasting your time, This guy is controlling and just a flat out jerk.
While he was dating you, He cheated. This guy isn't over his ex that is obvious. Sounds to me he just wants a rebound and he wants you to be that girl encase drama starts up again with his ex. This guy isn't worth it, You don't want drama then don't let it get too you. As long as you are associated with people who cause drama you will always be around it. It is okay for this guy to stay with his ex but yet he has the brass balls to tell you that you can't talk to guys?!....
Waste of time, Don't answer his calls just forget about him. He doesn't care about you, He doesn't respect you and he wants too use you. Ignore him
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Wow this is a long touchy story. I think that you should not confront him, but talk to him because communication is an important aspect of solving any type of issues. Why should he care what you do with your life if you two are not going out? He obviously does not want to see you happy because if he did he would only be a good friend and understand. Do not let your friend be involved in your situation because it would matters worse. Again, I think you should to talk to the guy about your feelings because the guy is being very stubborn. He has to understand and grow up because rejection is something that all of us go through to learn lessons in life and see our mistakes. The guy depends on the past and does not see the future which is very important. I want you to analyze the situation and see what he and you have done wrong. Point to him the wrong and right things that he has done because as a person we talk when we want to solve an issue, but we have to listen to the other side of the story which is the other person. I guess sometimes we tend to judge people without understanding the real reason behind the whole issue. I have a quote here which is "the reality of the other person is not in what he reveals to you, but in what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says but rather what he does not say." The quote is self-explanatory and I want to wish you the best of luck.
Kahlil Gibran
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