First of all, stop actively looking. Guys can practically smell desperation, and it's a turnoff. Trust me on this one... I had been single for a long time, and I had just sworn off men when my current bf started asking me out!

Be friendly, be approachable. It's okay to be friends with guys before you date them! It's how I ended up meeting the guys I've dated.

Try finding common interests with guys... do you secretly love video games? Because a lot of guys love it when a girl can kick their butt at Halo or Mario Kart!

There was a BatGirl in the Adam West TV show. Be her!

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Don't worry... my friend has the same thing, only permanently. He had a couple teeth knocked out playing hockey. It's really not too noticeable... and if someone does draw attention to it, just make a joke about how it makes drinking with a straw even easier :)

What you want to do is download an emulator and ROMs. Just look up Nintendo+ROMs, and you should get sites to download from. I've done the same thing with Sega Game Gear.

Is this a schoolwide thing? Because my school did a thing called Dusk Till Dawn. It was an all-night event from 7 pm until 7 am on a Friday, and you got sponsored to stay awake the whole time. We had games and movies and food, so it was a ton of fun!

The other really cool idea my high school had was we had those big glass display cases set into the walls... and the biggest one was near the cafeteria. For a fundraiser, 4 people were put in the case first thing in the morning, and you donated money to keep one of the people in the case. Whoever had the least money donated towards them got to leave at the end of the period, and whoever had the most money donated had to stay there all day. It was really funny!

Okay, here's what you have to do...

Time management is important. Relationships come and go, but friends is forever. You don't have to spend every moment of your weekend with your boyfriend. When I'm seeing someone, I make a point of spending one day of the weekend with him (like Friday) and one day with friends. That way you don't lose your friends, but you still spend time with your boyfriend. Maybe you could even arrange to see him for an hour or so during the week, so it doesn't interfere with school, and you get to spend more time with him.

It's the whole bros before hos thing, only it applies to girls too!

Well, diet isn't the only part of losing weight.

To lose weight, the number of calories you consume has to be less than the number you take in.

Try exercising... it doesn't have to be hardcore exercise, but even if you just buy some dumbbells and work out with them every day, or go for a half hour walk every day, it will help.

Correction: They do have the right to treat you as they have. Yes, criticism is harsh. I agree. It's not right. But they have every right to go into your room, because they own it. You don't have the right to tell them what to do as long as they're feeding you and housing you.

I'm only two years older than you, so I know what I'm talking about. It's tough, but you have to just deal with it. I'm not full of crap, trust me. I know what it's like.

No excuses.

The same thing has happened to me, with my friend/group member ditching me, and I was so pissed off with her that when she came to me with excuses, I bitched her out and never forgave her.

Go to her and apologize. Get as much work done as you can before-hand, then call her up and tell her that you've been a total jerk and you realize you've screwed her over, but you've got some work done.

Excuses don't do any good in situations like this.

This is why group work can be a problem... you have to recognize that you have a responsibility in a situation like this, and that you have to be available to do work, regardless of what you feel like doing. Otherwise the other person gets screwed over, and their mark is lower. That can be really aggravating to a person who is aiming towards post-secondary education.

Also, don't get into a bad habit like skipping school at this age. It screws you over for college or university, when nobody is going to tell you to go to class.

1) Stop the drugs and alcohol. It will make all of the above worse.

2) High school is tough, but you have to keep going, whether you feel like you can or not. You can't screw up the rest of your life because you don't feel right.

I know this sounds harsh, but I have bi-polar disorder, and I had to go through the same thing (minus the bisexuality, but that's not really a big issue, at least not here in Canada).

Okay, now that the tough love is over...

Find something to focus on. School worked for me. I managed to get by a lot of my mental health problems by just diving head first into schoolwork, and that way my grades didn't slip as much.

Join a sport. I am not an athletic person, but I joined karate, and I think it saved my life. I put a lot of time and effort into it, and it became something worth living for. It also helped me with any body image issues.

Does your family know what you're going through? Try letting them know. Don't go telling everybody, but close friends should know about your bi-polar disorder. It helps a lot when you're wigging out and nobody knows why.

I don't know what the commonly held values are around where you live, but bisexuality is not a problem... you just get the best of both worlds! I know that around here just about everyone was bisexual at some point or another. Is it tough because people are making fun of you, or is it tough because you feel undecided? You don't have to make any decisions quite yet. You're young, experiment and decide what you like.

It's rough, but you can do it. Just take it one day at a time.

See a counsellor, too, if you can. It may take some trial and error to find one you like, but it's worth it.

I'm not a guy, but I think I can help here.

I used to think the same thing... until I found out that a lot of the time, guys hold on as long as they possibly can so that they don't look like a minute man. They actually struggle (sometimes picturing really unsexy things) to keep from orgasming.

So him taking a long time doesn't mean you're not doing it right, it means you're doing it right and he doesn't want it to end :)

You can, if you want him to run. With very rare exceptions, boys panic when a girl tells him she loves him. Especially after as little time as a month.

I'd hold out for a while until I were sure that he feels the same way.

Well, usually if you're having a problem like that, you don't need to have an examination, they'll just take a urine sample. I've had similar infections, and it's gone away with a simple antibiotics course.

Also, even if you did need an examination, isn't taking your pants off in front of the doctor better than being itchy and sore indefinitely?

Well, what I usually do is pick a topic, then research as much as I can on it, finding quotes along the way. Then, I sort my information into different theses. That way, I can pick whatever thesis has the strongest backup as the basis for my essay.

That's when I start the outline, and from there, writing the essay is easy.

A thesis is pretty much what you're trying to prove in your essay.

Well, I know nothing about the influence of Islam on contemporary Malay society, so I can't help you much there.

I can, however, sympathize; I was in engineering last year and they made me take two courses not in science-related fields. I ended up in "Philosophical Texts" and it was awful!

Try taking half an hour before you start to think about your essays. Break them down, chunk by chunk. Start off with the thesis and outline, then fill in quotes and proofs. Try not to think of the whole thing at once, because that usually makes you panic.

Is there anything you've run into in class that interested you? Any questions that have popped up in your head? How about something in your textbook that wasn't covered in enough detail that you want to know something about?

Good luck!

Well, in my personal opinion, the Bible provides guidelines, not strict rules. You have to remember that it's a book that was written thousands of years ago by people with the equivalent of a third grade education. Times have changed, and so has what is acceptable. There's a lot that was considered a sin then that isn't now.

Masturbation is perfectly fine, and healthy. If it helps you hold out, then keep at it!

Actually, a person with 20 associate's degrees looks indecisive...

It all depends upon what you're getting into. You can't make a couple of associate's degrees equal a master's degree, because obviously they cover different territory. Usually, the longer you spend on ONE degree, the better it's thought of.

Well, apartments (in an apartment building) can be very expensive depending on where you live.

The cheapest way to go is to rent rooms in a house. I'm a student (in Canada), and my friends and I are renting a house together. It works out to 375$ a month per person, utilities included. Take public transit instead of driving (inconvenient, I know, but far less expensive than owning and maintaining a car).

If you live in a university town, this is a good way to save money while living on your own.

As for the getting married thing, I guess you'd have to go looking on your own for somewhere to live, unless you get a two bedroom apartment to start with.

Well, it's odd that he'd want a hickey... generally the rule my friends and I go by is "if you leave a mark, you're doing it wrong"... But if you want to give a hickey, suck a small amount of his skin (for best results the delicate skin around the neck or collarbone) into your mouth, and suck for a few seconds. It should leave a mark.

Don't worry about it! Everyone starts things at different times. I was nearly 18 when I had my first serious boyfriend. Plus, boys are far more of a hassle than they're worth until your age. Don't worry about it, and when you least expect it things will start to happen :)

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In my last 8 years with Advicenators, I've gone from honours student to failing out of university (and getting back on top again!), from single to married, from tenant to homeowner.

Until lately, I have been struggling with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and OCD, which had basically ruined my life and taken just about everything from me. I'm thankful every day for every experience I've had because of this ordeal, because it's helped to make me who I am today. Things like that really make you appreciate what you do have. Now that I'm back in work and school and starting to become myself again, I couldn't be happier. I credit Advicenators with saving my life back when I was a teenager, which is a big part of why I'm still here.

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