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high school
To start off, i'm going through a crazy ass time in high school, i'm sucidial, i'm overweight, i'm bi and i'm bi-polar which is all very fucking bad at the same time. now my grades are slipping, my relationships w/ my friends and family are going away, i'm starting getting i w/ drugs and booze, what should i do?
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get sum help talk to ya friends but dont sound needy u get me
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I'm really sorry about what it was to trigger this, but really, first off you NEED to stop the drugs and drinking. That will make EVERYTHING worse, and the longer you're doing that, the more you'll get sucked in.
Being suicidal, I'm sure you've probably heard of some ways to not think about that. Keep yourself extremly busy. Be with the best friends you've got, as often as possible. Also, if you haven't heard of it (if you're cutting) try wearing a rubber band on your wrist, and snap it when you've got a problem. It sounds dumb, and even if you've tried it before, try it again. You don't even have to lie to your friends about it, because if they see you flicking yourself, they will know you need to talk to someone. But if you don't want to tell them anything, you could always say that it's there for convenience.
But if nothing like that works, just concentrate on how much you death/injuries would hurt the ones who love you. If you need to, think about every time you hurt yourself, or even think about hurting yourself, you're doing the EXACT same thing to them. Just listen to me when I say there are more people out there than you know who care about you.
About being overweight, there are so many options. Just try not to turn to anything that would hurt you. It sounds dumb, and corney, and difficult, but stay dedicated to a healthy diet. Try to write down everything you write during the day, and think about if you would be proud of writing that down at the end of the day (what you ate).
About being bi.. if it makes you happy to have your options open and everything, then it dosen't concern anyone else. It's your life, and make sure they know that if you have to make it clear. I know people probably think it's odd of you to be bisexual, but really, it's only YOUR happiness that matters.
And with your relationships.. just make sure you try to talk with your friends and family. Be there for them when they're in need of help, and let them be there for you. Don't push them away when you're going through something, becuase they only want you to be healthy and happy. Also, if they're making new friends and seem to be forgetting you or something, don't try to even the score by pushing them away, just make sure they still know you are good friends with them, and you dont want to lose them.
I hope I've helped, and if you need to talk, email me at xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
Kat<3
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1) Stop the drugs and alcohol. It will make all of the above worse.
2) High school is tough, but you have to keep going, whether you feel like you can or not. You can't screw up the rest of your life because you don't feel right.
I know this sounds harsh, but I have bi-polar disorder, and I had to go through the same thing (minus the bisexuality, but that's not really a big issue, at least not here in Canada).
Okay, now that the tough love is over...
Find something to focus on. School worked for me. I managed to get by a lot of my mental health problems by just diving head first into schoolwork, and that way my grades didn't slip as much.
Join a sport. I am not an athletic person, but I joined karate, and I think it saved my life. I put a lot of time and effort into it, and it became something worth living for. It also helped me with any body image issues.
Does your family know what you're going through? Try letting them know. Don't go telling everybody, but close friends should know about your bi-polar disorder. It helps a lot when you're wigging out and nobody knows why.
I don't know what the commonly held values are around where you live, but bisexuality is not a problem... you just get the best of both worlds! I know that around here just about everyone was bisexual at some point or another. Is it tough because people are making fun of you, or is it tough because you feel undecided? You don't have to make any decisions quite yet. You're young, experiment and decide what you like.
It's rough, but you can do it. Just take it one day at a time.
See a counsellor, too, if you can. It may take some trial and error to find one you like, but it's worth it.
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Honestly..picture your life in 10 years living the way you are now..being into the things you are now. think you will be successful? probably not..and i know everyone wants to make a better life for themselves..so you have to leave behind the bad stuff and work towards your future. sound corny? i know..but its true. im really overweight..and i was into stealing. i wasnt heading down such a good road. i even got caught and had to go to court. i got off easy..but i was lucky and i knew i had to stop. reality is reality..forget your friends..make new ones..or try and mend things with your old ones. i know a lot of people with major family problems but they stay strong because they WANT a better life so badly..thats what you have to do. people are different..some people dont accept that..i say forget those people.
stay strong..it will pay off :)
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