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Dad again.
Alrite i posted a Question on here about my dad critizing me all the time.
Today i came home from work and someone came into my room and messed with my computer. So i went out there and said "who was in my room" And he goes "no one". Well obviously someone was in my room because my computer and my light was on and my door was wide open. And he told me to shut hell up and leave his house. And i told him to shut up and he says "stupid bitch this house was quiet before you came home". then i went in my room and he was out there talking to my mom saying "she has no reason to come home complaining and accusing people of being in her room because first off its not her room, i just let her put her stuff in it."
Im so sick of his crap and hes just waiting till in turn 18 so he can kick me out. My mom will not allow him to kick me out because im still in school and i dont have money. yes i have a job but i also i have to buy all my clothes and everything i need for school and i had to buy a computer and everything to go with it.
Im almost 18 and i have zero privacy in this damn house. Alot of you guys said its because hes considered. But im telling you hes a complete asshole.
How do i get him to shut up and quit treating and talking to me like im a piece of dirt. Im so tired of it. its getting to the point that the next he tells me to leave im going to walk out the freakn door.
Oh and i dont i have family any where near me so i cant move in with them..
thanks alot.
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Alright. Here's the trick.
There are many ways to deal with this, but I guess one particular method should be best for the long run.
Be best of friends with your dad. Well, at least, try to be. Make peace with your dad, there's clearly some sort of friction going on at home.
Older generations love respect. And all you have to do is give it to them.
We have to be smart in life, and you may not see it now, but what I'm trying to do, is probably the best investment for your future.
Let him nag and make all the noise he wants, that's what parents do. Do that change. Surprise him and be nice. Next time, he gives off a nasty reply. Just give him puppy eyes, and say "Sorry".
He'll definitely melt. Do not fight fire with fire.
And there, before you know it.
In a few months, there's lesser friction.
And who knows? He might change the term "His House".. to "Our House".
I understand if there's rage in you that wants to give a piece of your mind straight to his face.
But is it worth it?
Be smart.
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Dearest, do try to bear with it for a while. Do not move out, be a little patient with your dad. There's always a reason for people's actions. Be the better person and do not let yourself be influenced in this whole rage. I bet you're capable of tolerating this till hopefully, it gets better. Give it a year. Try a different approach. I could help you go through this, if you have any questions. You went through this for three years, what is another year? Moving out is difficult, trust me. You'd rather have this sort of problems, then those in the world.
Anyways, you're not gonna live with your parents forever, it's just a little bit more longer, till you're fully ready. With a good qualifications. And a Stable career. Then, you can kiss all this unhappiness goodbye.
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Correction: They do have the right to treat you as they have. Yes, criticism is harsh. I agree. It's not right. But they have every right to go into your room, because they own it. You don't have the right to tell them what to do as long as they're feeding you and housing you.
I'm only two years older than you, so I know what I'm talking about. It's tough, but you have to just deal with it. I'm not full of crap, trust me. I know what it's like.
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The bad news is that you won't be able to stop your dad from being a complete jerk to you. It's his house and therefore he can talk to you anyway he wants to. It's definetly unfair and wrong, but it's true.
The good news is that since you're almost 18, you will be able to get out when you want to. You may not be able to get a place of you own, but there has to be someone who you can go to to get away from your house. Plus, if your dad wanted to kick you out so bad, he might be happy to give you the money, or your mom might. Who knows, but there has to be a way that you can get out. And, you stated that there's no way to go stay with someone else, but theres not much else that people can tell you.
As for now, the best that you can do is try your hardest to stay out of your house. Go to a friends house that day, go for a walk and call someone, go outside and write in a journal, whatever you enjoy doing. I'm not trying to say that living in your house and being with your dad is easy because it absolutely isn't and I wouldn't know that. You're right, he's not just some concerned dad, he's a jerk who doesn't know how to parent at all.
-TheTeenGirl
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