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it would be best if a guy answered this.
when i hook up with my boyfriend, i don't know if i'm doing things right...it always seems to take forever. its so embarressing. i don't have lots of expirence in this area...i feel soo embarressed....help?
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what you need to do is go straight up to him when you see him and give him a hug and a kiss and ask him is he is ok.. i know its hard but if you do that everitime things will come along. hold his hand as much as you can and keep tellin him you love him even if its quiet so noone else can hear xx
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yeh it could be dat wat dem 2 sed or simply u goin 2 slow speed it up
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Blackbelt has a good point, and its along the lines of what I was going to touch upon.
I went out to dinner with one GF, had the whole romantic night. We both got turned on, went home, and with all the build-up, I had my orgasm within something like a couple minutes because I had been so turned on. I ended up feeling like an ass, because I knew she didn't get much more out of it other than the fact that she had done that to me. If a man is selfish, then this isn't a problem...but otherwise, men start to see themselves as the 'weak link' and start to try everything they can do to prolong themselves for the womans benefit.
I had another GF who complained about this though, saying she preferred things being 'quick and dirty' and likened men trying to be some kind of 'superman' to being hit in the crotch repeatedly until walking was a painful thing.
Trust me - if a man has an erection, you aren't doing anything wrong, so to speak. Most men can 'allow' themselves to orgasm if they want, rather quickly.
Best thing to do IMO is to have him tell you what he likes (even while in the act), and try to do just that. Otherwise, I'd just say to look out for yourself - if this is a problem for him, he should say something. And if he truly is trying to prolong himself for your benefit, then worry less about him and take advantage of it.
A woman who is enjoying herself, and is into it, is one of the MOST attractive and sexy things, hands down. If you let yourself go and worry less about him...well lets just say things might turn out different.
Also along these lines are women who don't like to make a lot of noise or any outward sign when they DO have an orgasm, and the man has no clue that he can relax. The guy can still be thinking of bombs, and death, and everything else trying to stave off an orgasm long after the point it was even needed, because he is thinking that the woman still hasn't had her orgasm. She can be there thinking "WTF is he STILL going?" while he is thinking "Crap, I'm about to pass out, I dont think she is ever going to have an oregasm".
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I'm not a guy, but I think I can help here.
I used to think the same thing... until I found out that a lot of the time, guys hold on as long as they possibly can so that they don't look like a minute man. They actually struggle (sometimes picturing really unsexy things) to keep from orgasming.
So him taking a long time doesn't mean you're not doing it right, it means you're doing it right and he doesn't want it to end :)
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