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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


wicked awesome conversations

^my forum, liven it up a little?

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So yeah I'm 15 and a boy,

I know this might be strange, but I just suddenly started liking this girl recently. I can't ever stop thinking about her. I don't think about her in a sexual way, but more of a loving way.
There are problems though. This girl goes to a different school than me and I'm hesitant about going out with someone that doesn't go to my school.
The second thing is, all my friends told me that dating is a complete waste of time until you're older.
This seems like the first time I've REALLY liked someone. Unlike some of my friends, I don't really look at the size of girl's boobs or anything, I tend to look at the inside. Does that make me more mature or something, or am I being rash? Tell me what you think.

God, I wish more guys were like you. Yes, liking a girl for who she is, and not just what she looks like, is a sign of maturity.


Why are you so reluctant about dating someone from another school? I think it works out better- you're not seeing each other constantly, so you're not sick of each other by dismissal, you know? You'll have more to talk about.


Dating's not a complete waste of time. Tell this girl how you feel. You may be pleasantly surprised by her reaction. Even if she doesn't like you as more than a friend, she'll know that you can be honest with her. Nothing wrong at all with being close friends, so don't shut her out of your life just because she's not as madly in love with you as you may be with her.


If you take nothing else from anybody's answer, just remember this- if you DON'T say anything to her, you'll regret it, wondering for (literally) years about the what ifs, what could have been. Just go for it- take the plunge.


Good luck!
:)

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Yeah, I'm 14/F.

Just wondering,
what does a physical with a 14 year old FEMALE consist of? Like is there any awkward things I should be aware of? I haven't got a physical since a year or two ago because I think I never got one last year because my mom was in the hospital at the time.

Depends on your doctor. They'll do a physical as you remember them as a kid- check your heart, breathing, scoliosis check, blood pressure, look @ the eyes and ears, maybe a quick check of your skin. They'll talk about family history to check for any possible problems(usually with a parent in the room) and may schedule you for a blood test if necessary. Then ask about more personal stuff, like drugs, drinking, sex, etc. They'll likely ask you about your period & if you have bad cramps, stuff like that. You can ask your mom or dad to leave at any time- they don't have to be with you. And there's doctor-patient confidentiality, unless you admit that you're being abused or got assaulted- that's the only exception.


Sometime they may check "down there"- but only if you're comfortable. If you're not, you don't have to be, you could ask for a female doctor or be referred to a gynocologist.


Really, physicals aren't a big deal. They just make sure everything's in working order, and you get to wear those cool paper gowns! (I HATE those).

I bet if you ask, they'll still give you a sticker too. You're never too old for those!

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How can you take a song off your music list and attach it so that a friend can hear it?

Well, if you're listening to an MP3 file (or an iTunes file, basically any file that's on your computer; MP3s are most compatible) you can email them the song as an attachment.


I don't know if that's what you meant... if it wasn't, could you add additional info to your question, like what email provider you're using?

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everytime it starts to look like its turning spring the snow comes down like mad crazy. so a few days ago it was like 60 degrees or like 65 or something maybe 70 and it was so warm and i was so glad because i always feel so much better in the heat. like about the way i look my attitude everything. and then yesturday like we get 6-12 inches of snow. how depressing. any way i can get thro this? helpp.

I'm assuming you live in New England. If you're surprised by this weather, don't be. Get used to it.


Everyone gets the winter blahs. Go outside whenever you see the sun. And get plenty of vitamin K, since you're obviously not getting the sun exposure you do in the summer. Exercise- sledding, running (if the sidewalks are clear and the ice is melted) go for a walk! Anything to get moving.


Or, stay inside and develop a new hobby for yourself - like reading, playing an instrument, or painting. If you're feeling REALLY adventurous, figure out a way to stop global warming that environmentalists won't b*tch about. Good luck with that last one!

:)

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ok so can anyone update me on what's been happening in the last couple of episodes of House because i've missed the last 2 or 3

like on this video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YhYbRjoIgN8&mode=related&search=

i don't remember watching any of those shows that are shown. so if anyone could tell me what's been goin on, thanks =)

I've been watching so many re-runs and DVDs... haha.


Okay, basically, House faked having brain cancer because he wanted "a really cool drug" injected into his brain. He was consulting with doctors from Boston. Cameron, Chase, Foreman, everyone thought he was dying. And they were EXTREMELY pissed when they found out he wasn't.


IMDB.com has great episode reviews, especially if you want to know cast members and such.

:)


Oh yeah, and a lot of those clips in that video are old. So if you haven't seen those episodes, you're really missing out!


EDIT: Yes, you can get them anywhere you usually find boxed sets of TV shows. Right now the first two are out. You get blooper reels and behind the scenes stuff too.


Oh yeah, and the last episode that was on (which I completely forgot about before) had Dave Matthews in it. He played a savant who was brain damaged at age twelve. The guy played piano and raised money for a cure. Naturally, House loved him (because of the piano playing) and cured him by taking out half his brain- pretty intense stuff. He lost the ability to play piano, but he could function as a human again, button his own shirt, etc.


Oh yeah. And Dr. Foreman broke up with Nurse Nancy because he has a fear of commitment.

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I need my hair to be great like the way hailey duff has it in material girls. does anyone know some really great pics that would show that up well?

G O O G L E.

Pleaseeee.

-http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&q=Haylie+Duff+Material+Girls&gbv=2

-http://www.worstpreviews.com/images/materialgirls.gif


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hey i have pretty bad combination skin. ive had semi-mild acne all over my face for like 2yrs now & ive been using the same products for a few months consistently. my acnes no longer red or anything like that and ive been told that its barely noticeable but its still there and it still bothers me =/. sometimes it goes away but then more just comes back. the products i use are:
-neutrogina clean&clear acne wash
-benzaclin topical acne gel [ from my doctor ]
& i wash my face with the acne wash when i get out of the shower and it really seems to clear up my acne. but it also dries out my face so i use moisturizer stuff.
then i use the benzaclin before i go to bed like my doctor says..
well my face is also so shiney in my forehead &stuff..how do i stop my acne & am i doing anything wrong by using all these products? and how do i get my face to be less shiney?

thanks sorry so long.=/

To make your skin less shiny, wash your face no more than twice a day. In between, use shine sheets (Clean and Clear, Biore, and ELF all make them) and pressed powder to control shine.


How much is Benzaclin drying your face? If it's peeling, flaking, and itching badly and all the time, you're having a reaction to it. Try using it only every other day. You'll still get the same benefit from it but it won't be drying your face out as much. If you don't see an improvement, see your doctor (or a dermatoligist) again and ask for something different. There's oodles of other things you can try.


:)

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i'm pretty tall & i have a hard time findingg good jeans.
all my jeans end up getting pretty baggy & stretch out. i want them to be tight & long & sorta flare [ but not be like totally hippy bellbottoms haha ]. but i really cant find any jeans that are like.. under 40$ maybe? that fit this description.

i'm 14/f, 5'6'' inches tall, jean size: [ i think ] juniors 3Long

where can i find good jeanss? =/
thanks!

Try Kohl's. A lot of stores have 3Long, but if you want under 40, I guarantee you'll find a ton of options at Kohls. Their REGULAR prices are under $40, and there's almost always a sale & a clearance rack.


You could also find a pair that fits almost everywhere (say, they're a little to flare-ish for your liking) and have someone re-hem them. Grandmothers and aunts are especially good at this, or you could do it yourself:
-http://www.wikihow.com/Hem-Clothing-by-Hand


Also, go to the WikiHow.com homepage and search "hem jeans". There's a lot of ideas for things you could do with your old jeans that don't fit anymore :)


good luck!



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can somebody pleaswe go step by step how to put a platlis of songs onto myspace...dont search google and tell me to do that..thnx

If you want more than one song, just make a playlist on ProjectPlaylst.com.

:)

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How do you become a featured columnists. How are they picked and when are they picked? (Every day,week,etc.)

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=31


Basically, be a good columnist and have that option checked, and you'll likely be one someday.

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There's this girl at school who has basically no life. I was writing in my best friend's agenda because she writes in mine. Just stuff like "Hey hoe, I love you!" or something like that. Or just telling stories that make no sense or whatever. Because that's just how me and my best friend are. We're goofy & we joke around a ton.

But anyways, this girl my best friend is friend's with went through my bff's agenda & made comments about like everything I wrote. She called me queer or ugly. My nickname is Christina Curbstomp, so that's basically what I go by. And she was all "curbstomp? that's the gayest thing I've ever heard." Now, this girl isn't too bright, so I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know what the hell it means.

I'm not mad that she's running her mouth. I could honestly care less, I'll let her talk all she wants, but the least she could do is say it to my face. But, I'm not sure she's aware I know. Now, I'd kick her ass, or at least catch her with a good right hook, but I'm not jeopardizing my education over some girl. And I'm definitely not getting arrested. In my town, 16 is the age they can arrest you at. I mean, they can arrest you younger than that, but at younger ages, they can't really do much like they can when you're 16. So, I'm not getting arrested over some girl who knows nothing about me.

I've never even talked to this girl, and I know nothing about her, she knows nothing about me. So, I wanna know what the hell her deal is. Because her shit is kinda making me mad. "Talk shit all you want, but say it to my face." I live by that. And honestly, I'm not anyone to fuck with, so basically..what should I do? I'm not fighting her unless it's absolutely necessary & it's not because even if I do kick her ass, it won't stop her from running her mouth. I could kick her ass forever, but she'd still talk her shit up. So..what am I to do?

I bet I can guess what Thew's answer will be to this ;)


Just ignore her. Since she's not saying it to your face, she obviously isn't confident enough to do so.


Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing that she's getting to you. Let it roll off your back. If she doesn't get a reaction, she'll eventually forget all about it. And if not, well, you leave highschool in a few years. You don't have to associate with people like her anyways.


hope I helped!
:)

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i'm looking to get a job somewhere. does anyone know any places that hire at 15 that isn't a fast food joint?

thanks

Ask around. We don't know where you live.

A lot of places, like supermarkets and bookstores, will hire you at fifteen. You'll probably need to get a work permit. You can get them through your school's main office. Ask your guidance counselor for help on that.


Applications you can get anywhere. Walk in to someplace that looks interesting to work, espeically if they have a help wanted sign, and fill one out!


Plus, there's always babysitting, which isn't as bad as it sounds. Find a nice, friendly family in your neighborhood. Preferably a household with calm, well-behaved kids that overpay for your services. It's great :P


Good luck!
:)

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14/f

i check out the book "twilight" by stephenie meyer.. its about a girl falling in love with a vampire. if anyones read it that can help. i feel like i am inlove with edward. i know its weird but i get so happy when something good happens in the book and when something wrong happens it ruins my day. i feel like the life is sucked out of me when i am not reading it. whats wrong with me?

Whats wrong with you? You're human!
It's fine. It's the same thing as a love story like the Notebook- you crave a lasting relationship like that.


Plus, Edward's a great guy! Watch out though - his bite's worse than his bark! ;D

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My laptop recently had to be fixed, but everything stored on my computer got deleted - including itunes. Is there any way that I can load the songs that are on my Ipod onto my computer and itunes without them getting deleted off of my Ipod? Any help would be greatly appreciated =]

I take little credit for this answer. But it works, so I recommend it to many people.


Check my answer to this question.
-http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=475624


If you need more help, don't hesitate to ask!

:)

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i have a silver motorola razor phone that i got about two weeks ago. the first day i recieved the phone, the video taker on the phone worked. yesterday i tried it and it took fine as well. today i tried to take a video and it says UNABLE TO RECORD MOVIE. i know the gallery isn't full...there's none saved. i've taken good care of it and barely touched it really because i have to get my plan taken care of at my phone company and everything. The only thing i can think of that is different today is that i may have pushed a button and now on the botton left screen thrtr is a picture of a bell crossed out and an alarm clock next to it. i do not have any alarms on. i can still take pictures though.

any ideas? thanks

I've got the same phone. Well, mine's pink. Whatever. Close enough, right? :)


Open your phone. On the left hand side, there's two buttons, probably silver. Like, on the edge. If you haven't noticed them, its likely you pressed them by accident. The little one on the top turns on speakerphone. It's awesome, try it sometime haha.


The bigger one changes the volume/ringer settings. It goes up and down. Press the upper part (you'll get used to how it works in about two seconds) until the screen says "low" (or however loud you want the ringer to be). It'll make the icon disappear and may also be why you cannot record videos (because there's no sound).


Check how much memory is free on your phone. To do this, go to Menu -> Settings & Tools -> 5. System -> 2. Device Info -> Storage Devices ->Phone. You could be low on memory, whether it be from sound files, contacts, or regular pictures. Either way, don't fret. You can get microSD cards to add more memory to the phone. Buy one someplace besides the phone company if you can, because they're just going to screw you over and charge you wayyyyyyy too much.


If your videos still don't work, you may have to make it back to the store. The phone should still be under warranty, especially if it's only been two weeks and the water damage dot isn't red.


If you have Verizon, dial *228. and press #2. It won't make your videos work better, but you'll get better reception & signals. Might also help your phone be "faster" since RAZRs are known for their slow-ness.


hope I helped you!
:)

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I have this nasty feeling in my throat (i'm a little sick) so would I feel better if I threw up and all the bad stuff comes out?

I tried (i didn't want to try the tooth brush thing though) but I couldn't make myself throw up. I need to get better by 4 days max

I wouldn't recommend making yourself puke. Don't take the syrup another columnist mentioned unless you're actually poisoned. It's very damaging to your esophagus.


Just get plenty of rest, and drink bubbly CLEAR soda, clear Gatorade, etc. Anything colored, and you'll never drink it again haha.


Don't MAKE yourself puke, but if you feel it coming up, don't suppress it either. Just go with the flow. Throwing up is your body's way of saying "Hey there's something in here we dont like and wanna get rid of!"


hope you feel better :)

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for my poms tryouts, the kick line song is some song by red hot chili peppers. but the girl teaching it to us forgot the title. i know it is like impossible for any of you to tell me what that song is, but im pretty sure its somewhat new (like probably their most recent album). anyone know of a song that is fast paced that would maybe match the tempo of a kickline? please just tell me any songs you think would work! thanks.

Not sure, because the tempo's often speeded up for stuff like that.


Try listening to 30-second previews on iTunes of their top songs. If it's off their new album, it's probably Snow (Hey Oh) or Dani Califonia. Might have been "Around the World" too. The intro's rather fast-paced.

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i just read the book "Twilight" by stephenie meyer, and i loved it.
but now i cant find ANY good books.
is there any book like Twilight that you would recommend?

ive read the sequel, too.

"Peeps" by Scott Westerfeld. And whatever the sequel's titled.


It's a little more sci-fi than romantic. But it's still about vampires. And I think they're great books. His other books are definitely worth reading too.


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will swimming with new peirced ears (like within 5 days of piercing) cause an infection?

thanks in advance!

No, it shouldn't. Might sting a little, especially if it's a chlorine pool.

Otherwise, you'll be fine.

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how do you explain what's so appealing about chick-flicks to a guy who really doesn't get it? I would particurarly like to explain why people like the typical best sellers like THE NOTEBOOK, GREASE, DIRT DANICNG, PRETTY WOMAN, TITANIC.. and so on.. cause whenever he asks "why do you like that stupid movie" i say "because i do, its awesome, i enjoy watching it" and he says "thats not good enough, you have to give me a good motivation for hy you like every single one of those movies."

So pretty much - how do you convince a chick-flick-hater by using like one sentence? what can be a good reason for liking chic-flicks?

Not everyone's gonna like every movie genre.


But I (along with many others, no doubt) enjoy watching them because they're not gory and violent, and have a gorgeous leading man like Leonardo DiCaprio. Many of us wish to be in a situation like the one one portrayed in the movie.


Titanic, especially, minus the whole love-of-your-life-dying and falling-off-an-ocean-liner thing.


As for one sentence? It could be a rather long one, and depend on if you're a girl or guy.
Girl:
"Because Leonardo DiCaprio is cuter than your FACE!" (which is probably true, too)
Guy:
"Because I watch them with my girlfriend and have two hours of time laying with her on the couch"


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