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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Ok so i want to write a storey. i want it to be a true storey about a murder. any ideas? also, i would need websites that give me information on the murder. oh, and i want the storey to be kind of a long one...like a chapter book.

all advice welcome! (link)
First you need to do a lot of research. Either online or in a library. So once you get an idea
of what type of murder you want to make it, read everything you can about it. To make a story your
own, you shouldn't ask for ideas but come up with them yourself. Use your imagination, but get your
facts straight.

The next, and maybe most important advice is
to just write. Write correctly & write anything.
If this is what you want to do start now because
bad habits are very hard to break. Using your
question as an example, you didn't capitalize
"I" you used lower case. You didn't capitalize
the first words of most of your sentences. You
misspelled story. Start with those basics. :)


how come there are some families that dont really care what their kids do? they'll let them have sex and just do whatever they want to do. do they not think that they will get in troulbe? (link)
Keep in mind I am old school. I mean no
offense to those special few women who
do a good job at both career and motherhood.
I do believe they are in the minority though.

Some parents are so busy with their careers
that they just don't take the time. I know
that won't be a popular answer with modern
women but I do believe its a lot of it. I
think being a parent is a full time job and
one of those parents should be taking care
of the kids full time.

But, they don't anymore. So kids are left to
run around in a lot of households while the
parents do their own things. It isn't that
they don't care, they just don't have the
time.

When they do have the time, they are more
interested in being their child's "friend".
They feel guilty that they don't spend time
with them, so they don't want to spend what
time they do make unpleasant. Kids aren't as
stupid as they may think. They know this and
take full advantage.

I still don't understand the 14/15 year olds
who are allowed to have their boyfriends spend the night.
Thats just bad parenting to the extreme.


I broke up with my ex-boyfriend because he cheated on me. That was about 5 months ago, and he has a girlfriend now and I have a boyfriend. We are still good friends, despite what he did to me, because we have always been friends, even before we went out. So we still hang out, but always in large groups of people and have a really good time (as friends). But I feel like I'm being disloyal to my boyfriend because my boyfriend really dislikes my ex and does not trust him (although he's never told me he doesn't want my ex and I hanging out). Plus, my ex and I were friends previously, even before my current boyfriend and I met. Should I feel guilty about hanging out with my ex? Hmm. (link)
No reason for you to feel guilty. You are doing nothing wrong. Your boyfriend may not always like
all your other friends. You probably won't like all his. Nothing wrong with that at all & nothing to feel guilty about. Ex's or not. :)


Well every guy i date wants to have sex with me
but im really scared and want to wait till i find the right guy or im married and they dump me should i just give it up to them? (link)
If they leave because you won't have sex with them,
they are not worth having as a boyfriend. If they
really cared they would wait and not insist it
be sex or nothing. So you are doing just the right
thing by NOT giving it up to them. These same guys
will leave you when they get what they want anyway.


if a person ejaculates A LOT of sperm and he is wearing a condom,cant the sperm get backed up into the hole of the penis.and like not be able to come out.because there isnt a lot of sperm room in condoms (link)
Men will only ejaculate 1 or 2 teaspoons of sperm.
A condom will hold that much without a problem.
Sperm will not back up because you wear a condom,
don't worry about that at all. Don't leave it
on after you ejaculate. Remove it and dispose of
it properly. :)


I read a book from one of the alice series but it talked about how one of the girls didnt want to wear a tampon because they were saving their virginity fo when their older are you considered that you are not a virgin if you wear a tampon because im 13 and wear tampons for sports (link)
When virgins use tampons it can break the
hymen. In some cultures it is important
that it be there when a girl gets married
or she is not considered a virgin by her
husband. Even if she is. This is still a
big deal in some parts of the world, but
not here.

So using a tampon does not mean you are
no longer a virgin. It just means your hymen
will probably be broken if it hasn't already
been. As has been said before me, modern
women are active in ways they weren't in
times when this was important. It gets
broken by things other than sex. Don't
let it worry you. :)


Ok so My best friend has this boy friend that lives like way far away and like she claims that she loves him but I'm not too sure if that is true because I think she might have been cheating on him but i don't know and like he is suicidal and stuff and well he carved her name into his arm and like he came to me for help and he asked me if i would keep an eye on her for him because he is really scared that she is going to cheat on him and I agreed to do that for him and tell him if she was hanging around other guys and whatnot, but the only reason that I agreed to it was because my friend is a heart breaker and I have told her that but yeah, I have seen way too many guys get hurt by her and I just wanted to help him..."Does that make me a bad friend to her?" Ok now that me and my friends boy friend have been talking and she doesn't know that we are but we talk all the time and she would flip if she knew but he told me that he has feelings for me and I don't know who to respond to that because I have a boyfriend and he is my best friends boy friend and he lives so far away...and I just don't know what to do about it because I don't know if I really have feelings for him... Like he has all these issues and I just wanted to help him because he doesn't deserve to be hurt any more than he already has been...like his past is way tragic.... and yeah so I know more about him and his past and his problems then his own girlfriend does and I feel guilty because if she was ever to find out that I have been talking to him behind her back she would hate me and to know that her boy friend told me that he loves me that would just kill her.... I just feel like I got myself into this whole that I cant get myself out of and I don't know what to do about his feelings toward me and what to tell him.... please help me!! (link)
One of these days both you and your girlfriend
will wake up and see hes playing the both of
you.

Hes controlling her by telling her he likes her.
Hes controlling you claiming to be so upset and
suicidal over her. Why would he be upset over her
if its you he wants now?

Don't report on your friends behavior to this
guy. He isn't your real friend. If anything
encourage your friend to date real people.
People that you know. This guy is sitting
far away from you, probably with a girlfriend.
Wise up before you lose your real friend for
this loser. :)


Why do Victoria's Secret, Alloy, etc only sell clothes through catalogues instead of in stores? because not everyone knows about catalogues and people can't try on anything, in addition to the sending and stuff would seem annoying. Victoria's Secret has sweatshirts and sweatpants available but not like the clothes featured in their catalogue. :( (link)
They sell in the store things that they sell
a lot of. Victorias Secret has been around for
ages. They started out as catalog only sales.
Most people like the anonymity of buying
sexy lingerie and outfits like they sell
from the privacy of their homes. Most of
those stores will order what you want and
get it for you in the store. :)


i've been taking ortho tri cylcen lo perfectly ..at the exact same time everday and not letting my boyfriend come in me but today is the day i'm supposed to get my period..does this mean i'm pregnant if it's not here today and i usually get it early? ( I just recently started taking the pill a the eexact stime everday, but have been on it for a year) (link)
Chances that you are pregnant are very,
very slim. Its probably just late. I
really don't think you have a thing
to worry about. :)


can you get pregnant if you have sex while on your period?? (link)
Yes you can. You can get pregnant anytime
you have unprotected penis in your vagina.


Okay me and my girl are very happy together and I love her to death. We have sex as often as possible for as long as possible. We've had sex for seven hours on a couple of occasions. She likes it when I throw her into different positions and she likes it kindve rough. All that's fine but I'm starting to run out of ideas and I don't want her to be bored. Really nothings off limits here so be as imaginative as you want to be. Tips and hints are always welcome too. Thanks (link)
The best advice would be to ask her what
she would like to do. Who knows what the
conversation might lead to.

There are lots of sites for sex tips
and ideas. Since a lot of out users
are underage we don't give that kind
of information here. :)


i know how 2 give a hicky but it takes a long time so i was wonderin if there is a way 2 give a hicky faster i dont wanna bite really hard so it would hurt them (link)
Don't bite at all. That will hurt!
A hickey is just sucking on the skin.:)


okay im 14 teen yrs old and i discharge alot like everyday.... is this normal and what can i do to make it stop xoxoxox gosspbabe (link)
Its very normal. There isn't anything you
can do to make it stop unfortunately. There
will be days when it is heavier than others,
but it won't stop.

You can but very thin panty liners that
will help keep things dry. :)


I am married with two children , I have very deep
feelings for a male friend of mine. He is not
married. He had told me he was attracted to me
and that he wants to be with me. Unfortunately,
I found out that he is moving to North Carolina.
When I found this out I wrote him a letter to let him know my feelings. He never responded to the letter and never contacted me. He recently came back to see his mom for a few weeks, and he is still here. I cannot stop thinking about him. I am unable to think about anything else. I don't know if he has feelings for me or if he was
just saying that stuff to me because he is lonely.
I don't know what to do, the thought of him not
being around anymore is killing me. Please help
me figure out what to do. (link)
What about your feelings for your husband?
What about your kids? Are you willing to
give them all up for a fling? My advice
would be to work on what you already have.

Its easy to get into a routine when married.
If you are a stay at home mom you may get
bored. Having someone outside of that world
finding you attractive is wonderful! It makes
you feel good. Stirs up all those old feelings
that maybe haven't been "new" for a while.

But when it comes right down to it, it just
isn't worth it. You don't say anywhere that
your husband treats you badly or that you
are extremely unhappy with the life you have.
You have a crush. This other guy doesn't live
close by. He didn't respond to your letter
and he hasn't contacted you while visiting his
mom. I'm going to guess he isn't interested
in breaking up a marriage.

Keep in mind that even one brief affair with
this guy could possibly lead to years of misery.
He will go back to his life and you may just
ruin what you have.

The decision is yours of course, but I think
you should work on your marriage. Maybe get
a sitter go out on a date (make it a regular thing)
maybe get a hotel room for the weekend
and get that romance with the hubby back on
track. :)

Good luck.


vaan has silence on him and i can't get if off.
i went to a save point, that didn't do anything.
i tried vox but that 'missed' and so did echo herbs.
how do i get rid of silence? (link)
You have to have another character use
it on him. Make sure that character
isn't blind because that could cause a
miss.

How far along in the game are you?
I am playing it too and can't get
passed the Demon Wall. Grr. Think
I will have to go back and start over.


Does Advicenators send you a message telling you that you have been chosen for the day? (link)
No it doesn't. I don't usually even pay
attention myself and don't notice until
someone tells me!


I have been divorced for 3 years. My ex married a girl who wanted me dead throughout our 10 year marriage. She has a few screws loose. She has succeeded in shutting out his entire family,threatend to have me killed, now she is working on our children. My kids would always come home sad. Finally my 10 and 11 year old girls came home and said that when the new wife picks up and brings home our kids for the weekend she says " Me and your father had sex last night.." and proceeds to describe it!!!! I asked my girls why they didnt tell me before and they were too ashamed.My girls said they have sex with the door wide open also, the wife says that she has an open door policy in her home. How disgusting. I have done everything I can to get along with this woman but she is psychotic. The girls told her they are uncomfortable with it and she said too bad we are an open family and we discuss everything.. POWER TRIP?? Is there anyone out there who thinks this is INSANE? WHAT SHOULD I DO??? I adore my kids and want the best for them. Thank you! Kimberly (link)
You definatley need to tell your ex
what is going on. There are some things
you just don't discuss with the kids.
Tell him if it doesn't stop you will
have no choice but to do something
about it. He will just have to visit
your kids without her being there and
no overnights at their house.

If he can't resolve it, you may have
to go back to your lawyer for advice.
I don't know that it would be considered
abuse, but if your kids are not comfortable
then you will have to find out what
options there are for you. I would
check with your lawyer about it.

Good luck.


My son is soon to be 16 months old. He is very intelligent, and understands most of everything I say. He knows 6 body parts, and can retrieve anything I ask of him..i.e coat, socks, shoes, cup, diaper etc. However, he did not babble much as a small baby, does not call us mom or dad (sometimes says it but doesnt seem to be directed towards us). He does not try to answer questions with words and communicates by grunting and pointing. He sort of says "kitty" (zizzy) and his word for truck is the sound it makes. that is the extent of his vocab. all other children his age I see are saying at least a few words and try to talk. I have read that he could have a speech disability because he is not talking yet..but some people say he is just a late talker. I am very worried. (link)
You already have an excellent answer from Nova!
I will just back her up by saying I have 2
grown kids and 7 grandkids. They all started
talking at different times. Its nothing at all
to worry about.

It seems those who start later catch up
really quickly too. This probably doesn't
apply in your case, but I will add it for
others who may want the information. My
younger brother, the 5th child didn't talk
at a young age. When my mom asked the doctor
why his answer was simple. He doesn't have to!
We all informed everyone of what he wanted,
he didn't feel the need to say anything I
guess! I noticed this happening among the
grandkids and made the older ones let the
younger tell me themselves what they wanted. :)


There is my best friend and we are together for ever until one day she got s boyfriend and I am stuck there always left behind because he is really cute too. But what should I do get a boyfriend too or just watch them two be relly happy and I am there all by myself :( ???????? (link)
Once your friends start getting boyfriends
this is going to happen. It will happen to
you one day too when you find that special
guy for you.

What you need to do now is make more friends.
Someone to hang out with when your best friend
is hanging out with her boyfriend. It doesn't
have to be a boy. Just someone to keep you
from being the third wheel and feeling bad
about it. :)


I am down and out.I havelost almosteverything that mattered to me in life and now I found out that i am sick very sick.
I have decieded that it would be better for everyone if i end my life
.I know all the reasons not to but the pain in both my body and mind are unbearable.
SO i need to know if there will be any help from the government for my exwife and sons when i do this.Please just tell me if there is someone for her to contact to help them thru this.
Thank you for any help (link)
I think you would be much better off
getting some help for your problems.
Your ex will have no more options open
to her with you dead than she has with
you living.

If you killed yourself your family
would be much worse off. The damage
you would do to them mentally would
be something they had to live with
the rest of their lives. Your children
may feel they were to blame. Not a
good idea at all if you are wanting
to be helpful.

I know it sounds rude but it can't be
helped. You need to stop feeling sorry
for yourself and get to work trying to
find answers to your problems. THAT is
the best thing you can do for your family.

If you are sick and unable to work then
discuss options with your doctor. They
can point you in the right direction.
If you are in pain they can give you
something for the pain. If you need some
help coping they can refer you to a
mental health professional.

If you feel you can't afford it talk
to your local social services department.
They may be able to offer some help until
you are on your feet again. They can also
steer you to other services you may need.

Do not give up. It only causes those you
leave behind a lifetime of pain.

Good luck.




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