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is there help for my kids
I am down and out.I havelost almosteverything that mattered to me in life and now I found out that i am sick very sick.
I have decieded that it would be better for everyone if i end my life
.I know all the reasons not to but the pain in both my body and mind are unbearable.
SO i need to know if there will be any help from the government for my exwife and sons when i do this.Please just tell me if there is someone for her to contact to help them thru this.
Thank you for any help
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One of my BEST friends was hit by a drunk driver only a few nights ago. They didn't think he was going to make it, I didn't think I could live without him.
I wanted to die and I'd been depressed for the past few days. I had friends try to comfort me but because they didn't know what I was going through it didn't really help.
Someone else who I care about knew, she knew there weren't any words to say that could help. She could agree when I said how much it sucked and she offered an ear and a shoulder.
She doesn't know this and I don't know if I want to ever tell her, but it probably stopped me from doing exactly what you want to do.
I look at my life now. This boy, my dear friend, he's going to live. My life has made a complete 180 since less than a week ago.
I've been up and down over the past 4 years. One day I'm happy, the next I'm miserable. Each day I look into the eyes of someone I love or someone who loves me, well, it makes the pain okay.
I don't want to be a hypocrite and say "don't do it, your life is worthwhile". BUT, DON'T DO IT; YOUR LIFE IS WORTHWHILE!
I've learned through many obstacles comes something greater.
If you were to kill yourself then those around you WOULD blame themselves. They would wonder how come they didn't see the signs. They would have SO many questions and no answers. No matter if you told them it wasn't their fault, they would still feel that guilt. How I know this, you wonder? I know people who have had those close to them commit suicide. Some of them left notes, but most of them did not. These people tear themselves up wondering why, how, and what could that have done.
Suicide is NOT worth it, EVER.
Whatever sickness you have is probably hurting you a lot. But use this time to say your final goodbyes. Make your last few days, weeks, months, years... memorable. Don't die leaving questions, die giving answers.
The government could help financially, but they won't help the mental state of those in your lives.
If you want to talk, I'm here.
I've been in your position and I battle every single day with these feelings. My life has sucked and it has been okay. I know what it's like. I understand the crappiness and the longing to just be gone. You have to fight above that. Let everyone know how much you love them and feel that love in return. Don't let anyone think that your death was their fault. Wait until it's your "natural time". You want to leave with only good memories. Offing yourself won't give good memories.
Consider how unbearable your pain is right now. Triple that and it won't even come close to the pain you will be causing others if you commit suicide.
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You family needs you. Don't do this to yourself. It won't be better for your family. Your kids need someone to guide them. You cannot do this to them and to yourself. Even to your wife. Or ex wife if thats what your saying. But you can't do this. Your kids need you and they need their dad. Work through this but please don't kill yourself. Please!
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You're not done yet. There is still hope for you, your family needs you. You brought your kids into this world, they need your guidance and they need your life. It's not too late, we are all here for you, reaching out. Grab a hold and we'll pull you through this. Don't end your life, you can start over and you can live happily. Please stay strong. Please don't give into this feeling.
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Let me tell you, man. The government may be able to do a lot of things, but they can't heal the hearts of your sons when they wonder why you killed yourself for the rest of their lives, and ask themselves if they are to blame.
In fact, NOBODY can.
It certainly won't make things better for your sons.
Even though you are sick, those questions will still likely rise in their minds. Along with "If I could have done something different..."
I'm sorry that you are feeling so low and that you are very sick. But your kids will be better off if you wait for your natural "time" to come.
I'm sorry you are in such pain, but during this time, I think the best thing you can do is try to spend as much time with your sons as you can, letting them know how much you love and cherish them.
Make THAT be what they remember for the rest of their lives. Make it be so they say to themselves "My dad was sick, and he hurt, but he loved me, and he never gave up."
Hang in there, fella. Do it for your kids.
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You know what. A lot of people go through this. They just get tired. Yeah sometimes it feels like you would be better off dead. That is what people tell us, that is what music sometimes tells us. You have to realize though, that suicidal thoughts are just that, thoughts. I used to have really bad depression, I didn't even want to be depressed, but I was. Because I gave too much power to my thoughts. I thought my thoughts were me and the truth is they are not. Look how many people on here are rooting for you and they do not even know you. Do you know why? Because we are all connected. We all worry about these things, know someone who is worried about these things, and so on and so on. I am not going to say do or don't do it. It is your path and your choice and if it is your time to go then it is your time to go. But I will say this. Read this book. It is called The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I truly believe that it will inspire you. Sometimes we just get in a rut and we cannot see the bigger picture, we cannot see the way out. That is ok, but don't you want to at least give it a try, do it for your family, but MOSTLY DO IT FOR YOU. Do it so that you can show your self that life isn't all that bad. It can be a wonderful place if you just allow it to be. I am telling you, promising you, if you read this book and apply the knowledge and trust it... it will work for you. You will see a change in your life, it may be a small change at first, but you know what Siddhartha Gautama the buddha says? He says The bucket eventually will fill, even if it is drop by drop by drop. This is the truth... and you know what? It won't just fill, it will overflow with love and with goodness and with blessings. With peace of mind and with joy. And there is no excuse for you to not read it, if you think that you can't afford it, go to the book store and read it there for free, if you can't get to the book store, you can get it off line... you can watch it for like $4.00 or you can order it and they will deliver it. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) And if you think about it and there is no possible way you can think of to get that book or the DVD. you can send me your address and I will personally send you a copy of the CD. The CD is a cut version, but it gets the same message across. I am only going to do this for you though...if you are willing to do your BEST...Do your best to better your life for you. There is love in the world, it is here and it is talking to you, it is in the voices of most of these people on this website, it is up to you to listen to it.
Peace
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There will be no help for your kids. You are their father and they need you, sick or not doesn't matter. It is your duty to be unselfish and stay on this painful planet, and fight through depression, illness and whatever else may hit you because what matters are your children. It is your responsibility to set an example. Will you teach them to run away from their troubles, or get tough and fight through them?
Good luck, we're all routing for you.
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please don't kill yourself. you'll regret it later.
I know what it's like to almost kill yourself, as I have been there before.
Your wife and children need you! Think of what it would do to them if you killed yourself. They would be scarred for life. PLEASE DON'T KILL YOURSELF!!! You just have to be strong and hold out for the better.
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Dont do anything stupid our family needs you and they love you and im sure that what ever your planning on doing its not better for da family bcuz they need you.....all you have to do is get help go to a Phycoligist that way you get through your depression
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Sir your family loves you, no matter what you do. I love you Sir. I would completly hate it if you were gone. What if somthing great is soppose to happen to you, like your the man to disscover flying cars. Sir I love you and I have faith in you not to end you life. Once I was about to kill myself but I realized I didnt even have a real life yet. God created you for a reason. I'm sure killing yourself isnt the reason. Please Sir I want you to stay I really do. I love you like I would love a best friend. So please pay attention to me when I say dont end your life, your a great man and you dont deserve that. Good luck, I hope you stay here as long as God wants you too.
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I know Im only 13 and I know you probably wont take my advise but Im on a mission to change the world and touch many peoples lives I hope that you know that someone out there will always care someone out there is going through the same thing that you are and I want you to know that if really you think no one cares I do I hope you think this over long and hard you have a family a wife and some beautiful kids, you have so much to live for and suicide is not the solution your kids need you in their lives especially if thei boys imagine if your dad did this at your age could you live without him? I dont think so. well think this over read the poem and think about all the people in your lives who DO care,
I want you 2 know that at this moment...
someone misses you
someone wants to talk to you
someone hopes you are happy
someone hopes you are not 2 hot, not 2 cold
someone is thinking of you and smiling
someone would do anything 4 you
someone remembers u and wishes you were there
someone wants to stop time bcause of you
someones lost with out you
someone hears a song that reminds them of you
someone stayed up all nite thinkin about you
someone misses your crazy advice
someone wishes you would come back
someone loves you
now think about all the people in your live who's lives you have changed. think about your wife your kids your family and friends what would it be like for them. If you are not willing to live for yourself then do it for them do it for all the people who do care if you cant do that do it for me, Im on a mission to change lives... I hope I changed yours if you need Help there will ALWAYS be help talk to peoople butending your life is not the solution I hope to hear from you soon!!!!
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my best friends father just took his own life last night and now i get to see from first hand how it tears a family apart. please dont do it, get help. ending your life will make things worse for your loved ones
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first off-i think its pretty stupid that you're posting your suicidal thoughts on the internet. you either need medical help of you just are asking for attention in the wrong ways. not to be a meanie or anything.
and secondly, um ending your life is not the answer. you only get one life to live so make the best of what you have. once you go off this earth you can never come back so dont you wanna contribute something? even if you dont have your wife or anything that u say is "oh so important" to you. so what if you've lost a few things? it was meant to happen this way. for whatever crappy reason, it was just meant to happen like it did. but maybe that means you are suppose to be destined for something different than what you thought. it just might take a little while to find out what that is...but dont worry, you'll find it soon. dit gets better. i promise :)just do things that take your mind off the "bad" situations brought to you. go run, swim, hike, listen to "pump up" music, go to work and work hard. take a vacation someplace really nice, go have fun.
life is like a movie, except your are the main character. (funny thing is, movies always turn out okay in the end> just like your movie will)
here's a couple quotes for you from some of my friends that might be helpful:
"everything turns out alright in the end, if its not alright then its not the end."
and "dont take life too seriously.no one gets out alive anyway"
so basically you might as well just forget about the past. so some things are screwed for you...so what? some things are screwed for me too. just like anyone else. everyone goes through terrible pain and losses, trust me. and if you are sick then just keep holding on, b/c things will get better. you just have to try for you and everyone else...
what's done is done, move foward. dont think so much and keep your hopes and attitude high b/c if you give up on yourself then you're giving up on everyone else too. we are meant to be here for some reason. and we all seem to be insignificant b/c we are all just little specks in this huge world. but think about it, if there was no reason to be here...why would we be here? im not religious but just think about it. you are destined for something. just dont let go.
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"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem."
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NO DONT END UR LiFE
GO TO GOD
HE iS OUR FATHER iN HEVEN
HE WiLL HELP U
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First of all, please, please, PLEASE do not end your life. It will not make anything better.
I know you're probably reading this thinking, What does a 15 year old girl know?
What does ANYONE on this site know?
They don't know about me or my life!
They don't even really care.
What I DO know, is that you deserve to be living.
You deserve to be alive.
You have the rest of your life ahead of you!
What we DO know, is there are other options.
And that's the thing, we DO care.
There are people who care about you, who want you alive. It's ok to feel down and out and as though you've lost everything, we all feel like that at some point. What's not ok, is how you're planning to deal with it.
There are options other than taking your life.
You can go to your doctor, and ask for something to help subside the physical pain.
You can talk to someone, tell them how you feel, and this can help your mental pain.
It will be worse if you take your life for both your ex wife and your sons.
Don't you want to be in the life of your children? Please, take a moment to think about it. Taking your life will cause you to miss out on everything. Their first words (if they haven't spoken them already), their first day of school (if it hasn't happened already), their graduation, their 16th birthday, their wedding, their entire life! You need to be a father here, and continue living. If not for yourself, for your children.
I hope, honestly, that your views have changed after reading this. PLEASE talk to somebody. PLEASE go to your doctor and tell him/her how you're feeling.
PLEASE GET HELP.
I wish you all the best.
When you feel as though you've hit rock bottom,
the only way you can go is up =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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dont spend the rest of your life doing nothing go out with your wife and kids have fun
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I think you would be much better off
getting some help for your problems.
Your ex will have no more options open
to her with you dead than she has with
you living.
If you killed yourself your family
would be much worse off. The damage
you would do to them mentally would
be something they had to live with
the rest of their lives. Your children
may feel they were to blame. Not a
good idea at all if you are wanting
to be helpful.
I know it sounds rude but it can't be
helped. You need to stop feeling sorry
for yourself and get to work trying to
find answers to your problems. THAT is
the best thing you can do for your family.
If you are sick and unable to work then
discuss options with your doctor. They
can point you in the right direction.
If you are in pain they can give you
something for the pain. If you need some
help coping they can refer you to a
mental health professional.
If you feel you can't afford it talk
to your local social services department.
They may be able to offer some help until
you are on your feet again. They can also
steer you to other services you may need.
Do not give up. It only causes those you
leave behind a lifetime of pain.
Good luck.
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