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how come there are some families that dont really care what their kids do? they'll let them have sex and just do whatever they want to do. do they not think that they will get in troulbe?
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Here is a psychology approach to that answer. There are four types of parenting styles:
1) Indulgent parents ("permissive" or "nondirective") "are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional and lenient, do not require mature behavior, allow considerable self-regulation, and avoid confrontation" Indulgent parents may be further divided into two types: democratic parents, who, though lenient, are more conscientious, engaged, and committed to the child, and nondirective parents.
2) Authoritarian parents are highly demanding and directive, but not responsive. "They are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation". These parents provide well-ordered and structured environments with clearly stated rules. Authoritarian parents can be divided into two types: nonauthoritarian-directive, who are directive, but not intrusive or autocratic in their use of power, and authoritarian-directive, who are highly intrusive.
3) Authoritative parents are both demanding and responsive. "They monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. Their disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative".
4) Uninvolved parents are low in both responsiveness and demandingness. In extreme cases, this parenting style might encompass both rejecting–neglecting and neglectful parents, although most parents of this type fall within the normal range.
The kind of parents you are describing are the uninvolved parents.
If you are asking what drives the parents to adapt a certain style, it can because it was a learned experience (your mom will raise you the way her parents did), or they DON'T want to raise you the same way their parents did (your mom thinks, I don't like the way my mom raised me, look how I turned out, I will NOT raise my child like that).
Some parents will just spoil their children or let them do what they want because 1) They love them and want to give them the world, 2) They have given up on their children, they will give the child what he wants to make him stop whining.
My parents are authoritarian. however, I kept disobeying them and kept going out. They eventually gave up on me. I don't even tell them when I got out and they don't really care. They know I won't listen.
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Keep in mind I am old school. I mean no
offense to those special few women who
do a good job at both career and motherhood.
I do believe they are in the minority though.
Some parents are so busy with their careers
that they just don't take the time. I know
that won't be a popular answer with modern
women but I do believe its a lot of it. I
think being a parent is a full time job and
one of those parents should be taking care
of the kids full time.
But, they don't anymore. So kids are left to
run around in a lot of households while the
parents do their own things. It isn't that
they don't care, they just don't have the
time.
When they do have the time, they are more
interested in being their child's "friend".
They feel guilty that they don't spend time
with them, so they don't want to spend what
time they do make unpleasant. Kids aren't as
stupid as they may think. They know this and
take full advantage.
I still don't understand the 14/15 year olds
who are allowed to have their boyfriends spend the night.
Thats just bad parenting to the extreme.
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Well, they probably think that if they control their kids too much, then the kids will want to do everything bad, but if they let their kids be, then the kids won't be interested in ''rebelling''.
My friends mom doesn't care if she has sex, but she would get slaughtered if she got caught smoking, or got a piercing and so on.
So it depends, I guess some parents find some things more important than others.
Hope this helped :)
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i guess some parents have the mentality that their kids are going to do it anyways, so why not let them do it. i'm not really sure, but that could be a reason.
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i guess they are just to busy or they probably think that if they dont intefere, everything will be fine. plus i'm sure those kids realize that the parents aren't going to do anything and so they end up doing more and going in thte wrong direction.
kinda makes you glad our parents care (just too much, lol)
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Well it depends on how they were raised. I think it's a shame that kids start having sex at 12 because their parents don't care, and those kids will end up like their parents because they didn't know better.
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