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i'm currently a us citizen and i am thinking of attending college in greece at the american university of athens. would i have to become a greek citizen to stay there? what about taxes and stuff lke that? and what about my driver's license? and if you can think of any other related questions it would really help a lot! :] (link)
No, you wouldn't have to become a citizen, you'd just be a student. I'm sure theres some steps you have to take and papers filed, etc. I'm not sure about all that, you'd have to get in contact wit the school and find out. You can get your license traded out. Basically, the school should be able to tell you everything you need to know and will be much more help.


Ok I'm 13 so this is pretty typical... There's this guy named Josh. I like him a lot, but he's dating my best friend, Angela. Today he just told me that he likes me but he just realized this. Angela is getting tired of him and I only know this because she told me. Josh really understands me, and I feel like I can really open up to him which makes this even tougher! I don't want Angela to be mad, but I really want to be with Josh! What do I do??? (link)
First off, you talk to Angela, tell her how you feel about Josh and since she is getting tired of him she shouldn't care BUT if she does care then you have to go to Josh and tell him that although you like him, he probably won't be there forever and Angela (your best friend) will be!!!

Remember Plenty more fish in the sea... and Boys are for whenever girls are for forever ;-)


Our class trip is going to Poland and Israel for two and a half weeks
we fly from chicago to Poland, Poland to Israel, Israel back to Chicago. One of the main reasons I do not want to go on this school trip is because I am scared of flights and I suffer from panic attacks. I don't want to embarass myself from getting a panic attack on the plane flights and I'm thinking of taking adenine I think it's called. But the longest plane ride I've been on was six hours and I never traveled over seas before. I need some advice how to handle this situation whether i should go or not.
And to add
How long is the plane flight from Chicago to Poland and how long is the plane flight from Israel back to chicago
And what's the food like in Poland I heard it's really bad and I am a picky eater
thank you (link)
First of all...
http://www.staypoland.com/poland-food.htm

that should show you the type of food there, but since you're a tourist there are most likely some places that will cater for that!

And secondly, if you have a paper bag handy (in your hand luggage) for when you feel like you might get into a panic attack.

I find it soothes me if I have music to listen to and I just close the shutter on the window, when you're taking off just hold in your stomach to reduce the butterfly sensation!

There really is nothing to be scared of, accidents AREN'T common.

Also if you're into reading equip yourself with a good book. And if all this didn't work you could always have some sleeping pills or ask your Doctor what calming remedies he could recommend


what do you do with your hands while sex, im a girl..and also how do i initiate sex without actually saying 'lets have sex (link)
ok well during sex... if you're on top you can either pin his hands down to the bed, or put them on his chest. if you're on the bottom you can move them up and down his back, or through his hair.

Also if you want to initiate having sex you start by making out (duh) then you move your hands around his legs.. if that doesnt work you can unbutton his OR your own shirt... he should get the idea then


im13 and wanted to know what a 13 year old girl likes about guys and how they like them to kiss. Any help? (link)
Its different for every girl, basically if its your first time you do what feels right for you, you should be relaxed and umm idk if you're standing up put your arms around her waist but NOT on her ass mmmmmk? and then just tilt your head and kiss her bottom lip... then it should carry on from there. If you wanna know more just send me a private message


Can anyone write me an ode poem??? or justa poem based on anything? friend mom dad family make up whatever it can be sarcastic! (link)
Idk if this is what you mean but...

We all need someone
To talk to in our life,
A friend to whom we run
In times of stress or strife

A friend who's always there
Throughout the years,
A friend we know will care
And take away our fears.

A friend who's always near,
Waiting for our call,
To wipe away our tears,
And lift us when we fall.

A loving friend indeed,
On whom we can depend
To fulfill our every need -
Thank you, precious friend


for baby names can anyone think of any names that start have an "on" or "en" ending like :

braylon
brighten
lyndon
aiden


any other names like that boy or girl?
or just any unique cute names you can think of could help
thanx (link)
I personally think Lyndon and Landon are the best.

Kaden
Jaden
Braydon
Mason
Preston
Haden
Dalton
Payton
Brenton
Devon
Brendon
Brandon
Ryon
Trenton
Dylon
Branden
Jaron
Jaxon
Ayden
Braden
Tristen
Cameron
Layton
Kamryn
Roselyn
Jaelyn
Madison
Kaylen
Madelyn/Madelen
Ashlyn/Ashlen
Kaitlyn/Kaytlen
Jaclyn/Jacqueline
Lauryn/Lauren


the other afternoon, after school, i stayed back to finish my art project. i've done it before so the teacher just gets me to lock up when i go. anyway, i was standing at the desk and someone hugged me from behind. i naturally figured it was my boyfriend so i let him feel under my skirt. he got me hot and pulled down my undies and bent me over the desk. we had sex right there and although i was kinda scared we'd get busted, it was so good! but then i turned around and it was my good mate, ross. he'd said hi when he first got there but it sounded like my bf. i was major shocked but it, like, made me realise how hot ross is. i now have a major thing for him and we've slept together a couple of times.
i just dont know what to do about my bf. we've been together for four years and he wants to marry me and stuff. but it's just not the same with him anymore. what is the best way to break it off with my bf? i really need advice. (link)
Umm...you didnt even look at him once while all that happened? That seems kind of sketchy...Sound like a sense from a cheap porno or something.

But anyways, you're just lusting over him and you need to stop and think if it's worth it. DO you wanna have fun or do you wanna stay in the serious relationship? You seem pretty young so you probably want to have fun. If that's the case, either break up with your boyfriend or tell him y'all need to slow down by ALOT. Even if you're in a relationship for four years, there's no need to be thinking about marriage at a young age. You can decided whether to tell him or not...I'd tell you to but it's all on you. As for Ross, stop having sex with him because if you don't stop he'll always expect it and will come to you every time he wants it which might actually cause you to continue your cheating and possibly cheat on any future boyfriends.


how do i edit my xanga i know its in look and feel section but how come thecodes i put in the header html onlyworks when i preview it and when i save changes it it doesnt llook like it when i view myprofile



HELP (link)
http://edit.xanga.com/signin.aspx?ReturnUrl=%2fDefault.aspx


in fca, like a church service at school, he was there for like the first time EVER and when i walked in he stared at me and then i sat down and he smiled and i smiled back, then he kept on looking at me and then after like 5 times he talked to his friend Fitz and Fitz looked at me then turn around and patted cj on the back... he also brushed against me on the way out of the room...

now when i had class with cj he flirted with me BIG TIME but he had a gf..

well they broke up because she didnt want a relationship and now they are dating again?!?!

so whats going on??
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Cj is the same guy at FCA right? Well if so..and if everything else say is true (about them ending the relationship because she wanted to and then getting back together...) then I'd be very careful. He does seem like he's interested by the FCA incident BUT any guy that tries to get other girls while he has a gf is bad news. If he's doing this to this girl, then who's to say he won't do it to you if y'all date? Along with that--he seems a little...attached to her. She ended it because she didn't want to be in a relationship but when she decided she wants one he was there to be in one with her. Does that make sense?

What I think you should do--if you like him and only if you REALLY think it's worth it--keep acting interested but if he tries to make any advances or start anything, call him out on it. Tell him you've heard that he's dating that girl again and you won't be the girl he cheats on her with. DO NOT GO FORWARD IF HE IS IN FACT STILL DATING THIS GIRL

But again, be careful because if he's doing this to his current gf, theres a big chance he'll do it to you. Goodluck :)


what are some things that make a 15/16 yr old guy start thinking things? like ok so my ex still likes me but im moving so hes like pulling away thats why we broke up--so we barely talk but i see him at youth group and stuff so i want him to be thinking of me...so what can i say/ do that will make him think of me? i already wear short skirts and tight tanks that show cleavage [hehe what little i have anyway...] (link)
I find it sad when girls think they need to wear stuff like that to make a guy think of them. Actually--you're right--he will think of you. But what he'll be thinking is he wants to get some. Usually when a 15/16 year old guy "likes" a girl that is always showing too much, he just wants in her pants. If he truly liked you, he'll think of you no matter what. You won't need to dress a certain way for you to be on his mind and you shouldn't have to act a certain way either. If he likes you then keep being yourself because he'll be more into you and wont just want to hit it.


i was on birthcontrol for 3 months and switched to another one ive been on this one for 2 months. me and my boyfriend have sex. he just pulls out. do you think its safe for him to not pull out ? and just "ya know" inside of me. & whwn is the safest time after your period to do it ? (link)
Ok, birth control is suppose to be 99.9 percent affective just like condoms and other kind of pregnacy prevention.... sooooo what i am getting at is it kinda would not matter the diffrence if he came inside of you or not, as long as u are on a perfect! birth control sequence.... and if it is perfect, then it is just as effective as a condom..... but with sex like that u are not protecting against any std's so be sure that both of you get checked out before hand..



can you get pregnant if you have sex on your period? (link)
yea but your chances are less likely. but you still cannn, so use a condomm or some other form of birth control


what are the chances or me getting cancer if i smoke marlboro? aka cigs. i mean i'm 14. and i kinda got into doing them...and i dont do it alot but i wanna stop but i dont....help! also i have a "drink" like once every two years.. (link)
very high, since your only 14. you will probablyy be a marlboro customer for the next ten yearss :( but thats what the industry tries to do. its bad.
anyways you should deffinantly try to stop. i dont smoke cigarettes, but some of my friends do them like once a month. thats bad too because you could still get hooked, but at least theyre keeping it under control.
dont worry about having a drink every once in a while, as long as you dont feel reliant. theres statistics saying that if you drink 1 beer/shot, once a month, you are likely to become an alcoholic within 5 years. i've been drinking about twice a month for three years now, and its not getting bad, and im no where near becoming an alcoholic. i dont even get drunk, just tipsy, and its always been that wayy. but maybe thats just me haha. but you can get some diseases from alcohol, like alcohol poisoning (drinking too much & busting up your liverrrr) and alocoholism (being addicted) and more.
anyways you should deffinantly try to stop smoking cigarettes. even if you dont get cancer when your older theres still a tonnnn of other gross things that can happen to your face/skin and mouth (teeth become yellow, gums rot, cativies, bad tongue, etc).
good luck :)


what is a cute affordable between $15,000 and $20,000. i kinda want an SUV type. if not i want a very cute car like honda civic or bmw. tell em your feedback on hybrids as well. what would be safe as well? (link)
ACURA integra


its super sexy
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alrighty so i'm 15/f and i'm still a virgin, never had a bf and never fooled around before. so basicly i'm totally unexperienced. but it's not cause i'm ugly or something, in fact a couple of guys liked me but i'm probably the shyest person ever: i cant even look boys i like in the eye :/. so yeah nothing ever happened.
so all my friends and classmates already did stuff like fingering, blowjobs handjobs sex etc.
theyre also around 15 years old. i'm like a total outsider and i cant even imagin a guy seeing me without a top or anything. i'm just extremely shy as i said before. and i'm NEVER gonna make a move. the only guys i can talk to are ugly guys cause around them i dont feel nervous obviously. (sorry if this is a bit offencinve)
and also, is it normal that everyone is already doing this stuff at this age??? i feel so weird. i mean yeah i like imagining me doing that stuff as well, but i CANT in person. and yeahyeah i know its not all about physical stuff but i cant even TALK to a hot guy or a guy i really like.
is the behaviour of my friends normal at this age?
and is there something wrong with me?
and as i said it'S NOT my looks because i've been told i'm one of the prettiest girls in school. and i SERIOUSLY dont wanna brag or anything, i just want to give you the facts so i can get good answers :P
well thanks for reading. :) xxx (link)
dont be pressured into doing something your not ready to do. If you feel like you have to have sex or other "things" to feel comfortable, your wrooooong. If a guy only wants that, he's a jerk, and isn't worth your time.
Well, in other words, dont worry bout sex, and stuff, just do it when it feels right.

Yes other people are doing that at ur age, but there skanks. SNANKYS


ok so theres this guy i reaaally like. but the thing is, that we actually never talked to eachother before. haha and now dont say i cant like him because i DO know him, just trust me on this, i dont wanna tell you the uniportant details. so he's a grade higher than me as well. and yeaah i've been getting the feeling from him that he likes me alot. and well today we were both in the halway at school and he was just doing shit with his friends but then he stopped for a few seconds and looked me in the eye&smiled. it was just sooo adorable and he looked so gentle. but well no I have this problem. i'm extremely shy and i just cant smile back. i TRIED but it just turned out to be this really weird fake smile which confused him.
and i cant even look him in the eye when he walks by, and my heart starts racing so fast i can hear it in my head. but i ALWAYS ignore him. and we've been liking eachother for a year now but only talked ONCE which was really awkward and didnt last long cos he was in a hurry and had to go. and that convo was like half a year ago now :/
he's also quite shy and probably VERY confused by me since i'm just the weirdest person ever around him. like when i feel more confident i DO look at him but when i'm not i ignore him like i dont even like him. i dont WANT to be that way but i just cant control my actions. i really wannatalk to him :/ but how am i gonna give thim the right signals??? pleaaase help. and sorry ifd this was long xxxx (link)
Stop reading into things to much. If you like him, stop being shy, and tell him. Otherwise your never going to get anywhere. You never will be able to be in a relationship with him, if ur to afraid to talk to him.


okay, so on the 12th of May I will have been with my boyfriend for 1 year..
It's not my longest relationship but it's the longest he has ever been with someone.
I was just wondering what to do?
Presents... going out etc
What would you do?
I'm never very good at this stuff..
But i wanted to make it a nice day.. so I was just wondering about presents and stuff..
So please help!
Thanks x (link)
Did you see the movie Juno? Her boyfriend loved orange tic-tacs so she filled his mailbox full of them. You could do something like that.
Or get a huge clear glass jar and fill it with his favorite candy and put a rose in the middle.
Or if he likes a certain team, get him a jersey or picture or something of that team.
Or you could do something cute and weird like get a teddy bear and make it a birth certificate haha.
Or make a scrapbook of pictures of ya'll, if you have enough.


seems like everyone in this world can not just be with one person. they end up cheating. why are people like that? (link)
Not many cheat. Only the people without a conscience or a heart do. If someone does cheat, it's a given that they never loved the person they were with. Or they were just pressured.


18/F

I dated my current boyfriend for almost a year before, but he broke things off, and we were apart for a little over six monthes. We had a lot of problems the first time, but when we got back together this past August my boyfriend seemed to have cleaned up his act. He was much more apreciative, respectful, responsible, and attentive. He said that breaking up with me was the worst mistake of his life. Things were great for around six or seven monthes, but especially in the last month or so he's been slipping into his old habbits: not calling me all day, calling me back two hours after he said he would, showing up late, taking forever to do anything, calling me names(mostly jokingly, but it still bothers me), hitting back when I smack his arm or something(also pretty much jokingly, but still), etc. He also lost his job not too long ago, so he's always broke and when he does come into some money he blows it on stuff he doesn't need rather than pay some bills or buy parts for his truck that's falling apart. He's not working very hard at getting another job either. He's been so good to me up until recently and I care about him so much, I just don't know if I can put up with his bs for much longer. I really feel like I need to brake things off, but it feels wrong, like I'm going to leave him just when he needs me most. I don't want to loose him forever or cause him to do something stupid(he's not the most stable person), but I can't take anymore of the stuff he's pulling. There's also another factor, my bestfriend. He's this amazing guy who's been right in front of my eyes for the past year, but I'm just now relizing how good we are together and what a great boyfriend he would make. I've been having a lot of feelings for him lately, that I probably shouldn't be having, but I can't help it. He's such a sweet guy, he's never taken advantage of me in any way, he's there for me when I need him most, he's a great listner, he makes me smile, and he always keeps things interesting. Best of all we're always in sync, and we can never stay mad at eachother for more than a milisecond. Lately when I'm with my bestfriend is the only time that I feel comfortable, and can relax. With him there's no pressure what so ever. The only problem is that I'm scared that if I do break up with my boyfriend and things do go past friendship with my bestfriend I might mess everything up and lose the best friend I ever had, plus my boyfriend used to be very paranoid about something happing between my bestfriend and me, so he'd probably freak out big time. Not to mention my bestfriend would feel incredibly guilty if he thought he was even one of the reasons why I broke things off with my boyfriend. Help! (link)
Edit-- ....why did I get a 1


Okay. He's a typical guy. The first six months from August, he was being fake and trying hard to impress you. Seriously you can't change a guy. I mean what's so bad about not calling you all day or two hours late? My boyfriend does that stuff too and I don't have a cow.

About the bestfriend. I'm gonna say this. You've probably heard it a million times but it's true, think about it. Don't leave the one you love for the one you like. Yeah, he's a good friend, but what if he's a terrible boyfriend. You're boyfriend is good seriously you just expect him to be perfect. Things WILL get better. You need be nice to him and try being shy around him like at first, or something, make him want you again. He's probably getting fed up with your strictness. No offense...




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