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sexual/emotional situations :/
alrighty so i'm 15/f and i'm still a virgin, never had a bf and never fooled around before. so basicly i'm totally unexperienced. but it's not cause i'm ugly or something, in fact a couple of guys liked me but i'm probably the shyest person ever: i cant even look boys i like in the eye :/. so yeah nothing ever happened.
so all my friends and classmates already did stuff like fingering, blowjobs handjobs sex etc.
theyre also around 15 years old. i'm like a total outsider and i cant even imagin a guy seeing me without a top or anything. i'm just extremely shy as i said before. and i'm NEVER gonna make a move. the only guys i can talk to are ugly guys cause around them i dont feel nervous obviously. (sorry if this is a bit offencinve)
and also, is it normal that everyone is already doing this stuff at this age??? i feel so weird. i mean yeah i like imagining me doing that stuff as well, but i CANT in person. and yeahyeah i know its not all about physical stuff but i cant even TALK to a hot guy or a guy i really like.
is the behaviour of my friends normal at this age?
and is there something wrong with me?
and as i said it'S NOT my looks because i've been told i'm one of the prettiest girls in school. and i SERIOUSLY dont wanna brag or anything, i just want to give you the facts so i can get good answers :P
well thanks for reading. :) xxx
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I'm glad everyone is being very supportive of you and your situation. I agree completely with what they're saying.
However, there comes a point where you need to grow up a little. What I mean is, well, you can't even talk to guys! That's not normal or okay and you're going to need to get over it. Soon! Most people get over this by age 12.
It's great that you've stayed relatively innocent and very true to yourself in today's world. I congratulate you for that. Fewer people than you think are sexually active. Sure some people do it, but most make it up or exaggerate. If you're not ready for it yet, definitely wait. There will be plenty of time for that stuff later down the road. You really shouldn't be doing much until you are 18 anyway, so there's nothing for you to worry about for a few more years.
But not being able to talk to guys? Come on. You need to work on this. It's going to be awkward at first and you're going to feel embarrassed, but you need to just start doing it. You don't have to flirt with guys and you don't have to force conversations, but seriously, just talk to them. They're people, just like everyone else. There should be absolutely no reason why you can't just talk to another person.
Another thing you should think about is that if you don't get a boyfriend in high school, it'll get harder and harder to get one down the road. I really suggest that you try out a relationship with someone. There's got to be someone that you like. Maybe a few someones that you can choose from. Relationships aren't just for sex. The emotional side of relationships is much more important than the physical. You certainly don't have to do anything sexual with your boyfriend when you get one and you shouldn't.
If you don't get the experience now, you may lose a guy in the future because of your lack of experience. Most people learn the ins and outs of communication and relationships in their teen years. If you get your first boyfriend when you are 25, he's going to think that you're immature and acting like a teenager because of some of the mistakes you will make. He may not want to deal with that no matter how much he cares about you. Not only that, but if you don't date in high school, you could miss out on some great opportunities.
So, my advice to you is to talk to guys. Just do it. You'll get the hang of it and soon it's not going to be hard. They're just people after all. Then, ask somebody out that you like. Get into a relationship and learn how to communicate with a significant other. Who knows, maybe you will end up staying with the guy for a long time, if not forever!
Lastly, my comments weren't meant to offend or to hurt you. They're meant to help. By telling you what I honestly think and using my own life experience to give you advice on what to do, I think that you will get more out of this than hearing that you're fine the way you are and there's nothing you can do to improve your life. If you were fine, you wouldn't be asking a question on here. Something is weird or missing in your life. Go out and get it.
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omg i totally know how you feel! but don't worry its okay because i am 14 almost 15 and i've never even kissed a boy, and i'm not ugly either. and it's weird because all of my friends are either not virgins or have done everything except sex andi feel so left out when they talk about it, like i'm sooo embarassed because they all know and i'm worried they will tell people. but what i've learned is just i know it will happen when the time is right it will just happen and it's not about what you've done, its about if you enjoyed it and who you did it with. and yes it is very normal,people start doing that stuff younger these days.
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take it from a person who know what your going through because i just recently lost my viriginity and to be truthfully honest with you it was the dumbmest thing i ever did and im only 14 i lost it at 14 too ... and when guys use to ask me an i a virgin i used to be soo proud of being one because most of my frends had already done it and i felt respected by myself... now i wont even let another guy get pass kissing.. until i'm confident that i'm really ready and really emotionally stable to handle sex again.
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CONGRATULATIONS for not giving up your virginity to others!!!!!!!!! IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!. engaging in sex is not to be proud of. don't be jealous of your friends because they are not "well-kept". they are not concerned with their body and their future. virginity is a precious gift that you can give to your future husband. It's something to be proud of.
PLEASE don't conform with your friends and classmates because it is really NOT NORMAL especially at your age!!!!!!! it is like treating yourself GARBAGE!!!!! wait for the right time.
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don't try to get advice on how to change your innocent persona. the sooner people start experimenting by fooling around, the sooner they have sex and usually end up having more partners in life than those who wait. you can't understand the beauty of virginity at your age through your struggle to find yourself in high school.
and from someone who's been there, i gauranteeeeee there are a LOT more girls than you think that are just like you. i'm sure you are beautiful and there is no reason to doubt yourself because other people are doing things that you aren't. i'm begging you to realize that you will be WAY more respected for not hooking up with guys. Don't be one of those underclassmen that upperclassmen are ashamed of because of poor decisions to try to fit in. there is NOTHING wrong with you and random hookups are not the answer
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dont be pressured into doing something your not ready to do. If you feel like you have to have sex or other "things" to feel comfortable, your wrooooong. If a guy only wants that, he's a jerk, and isn't worth your time.
Well, in other words, dont worry bout sex, and stuff, just do it when it feels right.
Yes other people are doing that at ur age, but there skanks. SNANKYS
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I absolutely positively don't think there's anything wrong with you. If you look in my column( I think one below yours there's a question someone asked about why people don't stay with one person anymore. If you read my response I said there is way to much emphasis on sex. Honestly I think you're completely normal. I'm not exactly a crackpot with guys either. (most of us aren't we all end up flubbing anyways.) I think that if you relax a little and remember this you'll loosen up a bit and not be so worried about how the conversation will go. Seriously I think that you should stop worrying about having sex or other sexual activities. When you become ready to do that then you'll be more comfortable. I don't know if it's normal what they're doing. I mean was in hisgh school I was not doing anything of the sort and didn't think anything was odd. I don't think you should worry about it everyone matures at a different age. Consider yourself one of the lucky few that you still have your virginity. I think it's a precious. Don't give it way because of your friends. Just be comfortable with yourself and forget people who try to change you. I think once people get comfortable with they'll be more comfortable with other people
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everyone sexually matures at different rates. tere is nothhhhhhing wron wit you trust me! its better to wait until you are comfortabl e and ready. there is notin worse than doin sometin sexually and wishing you waited. you are only 15! no worries..some people are ready to become sexually active at tat age, and some at tat age really need to slow down because a lot of people sexually active so youn g get into trouble emotionally a s well wit diseases. always stay true to your beleifs and comfort zones..never do anything just because ;everyone else is;;
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