Hi I'm Jeannie.I would love to help you with any questions you may have, so feel free to ask, no question I would ever consider stupid or embarassing so don't worry. Also, I am a college student, and I have been through a few things, so if you would like my opinion just ask, if not then please specify. And remember that you are beautiful no matter what you feel or what you are going through. :)
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alright so i dated this guy for almost 2 years, and i REALLY loved him. but he started changing and he became a complete asshole and treated me like shit. he broke up with me about 3 times and then came back, it was the hardest thing ever.. i just wanted to get things back the way they were but it was too late beacuse he was already soooo different!! it hurt horribly, but i realized he wasnt a good guy anyway and that i needed to move on. its been 3 months since we broke up, and 2 whole weeks sice weve talked AT ALL, its the longest weve gone without talking! and i knoww hes not coming back this time, i really hate him for evrything! but anyways back to the point!! i met this new guy and weve been hanging out a lot and i know he likes me because he pretty much told me strait up. i think i might actually like him, which is awesome beacuse i havent liked anybody else since my ex! eventually im sure he's going to ask me out, and im just not sure if i should? do you think it would be wrong to him since i dated a guy so long and probably still have feelings for him?? or do you think i should just go for it?! it might help me get over my ex?! (link)
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I actually think you should give the new guy a chance, because your ex has broken your heart enough times, and he will just keep doing it. If your concerned about your felling for you ex, then maybe taking a little time to get over it wouldn't be such a bad idea. I think you should give the new guy a chance b/c he may be the one for you, he may not break your heart. You know. All Im saying is your ex, will just keep breaking your heart, I know a guy like this, its so hard to walk away, but trust me you have to, itll be the best for both of you.
Best of luck :)
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Does anyone know what the song is where they say something about getting in a car and having something new, something blue, and something borrowed. I think it talks about forever. I know a girl sings it and i think it sounds like carrie underwood kinda. But i'm not sure (link)
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Its Just a Dream by Carrie Underwood:
It was 2 weeks after the day she turned 18
All dressed in white
going to the church that night
She had his box of letters in the passenger seat
six pence and her shoe
something borrowed something blue
And when the church doors opened up wide
She put her veil down trying to hide the tears
She heard the trumpets from the military band and the flowers fell out of her hand.
Chorus:
Baby why'd you leave me,
whyd you have to go
I was counting on forever now ill never know
I can't even breathe
Its like Im looking from a distence standing in the background
everyones saying hes not coming home now
this can't be happening to me
This is Just a Dream.
Thats the first verse and chorus, if you want to know the rest of the song email me.
Hope I helped :)
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is kyle xy over? was the last episode (the prom episode) the series finale? or just the season finale.. (link)
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They may not be bringing it back, because they are having contract issues. Some of the actors I guess want more money. So they are pretty much butting heads as whether to go on or not. I sure hope they bring it back. The show is awesome!!
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I am a 25 year old woman who for the past year has been involved with a married man. He is 20 years older then me and has 2 kids...both of them in their teenage years. He has been married to his wife for 20 years. Our affair started off drunken sex and now its I love you, I wish I could be with you. I do have very strong feelings for him and I believe he has the same for me. He says his wife is pulling away from him and he feels like she wants someone different, as does he. He says that once his youngest kid goes off to collage he really thinks things between him and his wife will end and that the only reason he believes they are still together is the kids. I don't know what to think.. Can there ever be a future between us? Is he using me for my body? Is he seeing other girls too? Also, I'm still very young, I want children and marriage. He has already done all that, will he be willing to do it again? I'm just very confused..And I know I brought this on myself but please any advise would be great!! (link)
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Truthfully, being invovled with a married man is very bad. I'm not just saying that cause I'm christain and its a sin, but also because I know you will end up getting hurt. Hes already cheating on you with his wife, and who says there aren't other women in the picture. I'm sorry if I'm being harsh, I'm just being realistic, whenever someone gets involved with a married person, the outcome is usually bad. You are young, you want to get married and have a family of your own. What if he changes his mind, and he doesn't leave his wife? I personally think you should walk away from the situation, I know thats hard considering you have very strong feelings for him, but look at it this way. What if you became the new wife, okay, then you have maybe 2 children together, and your taking care of the second child because shes a baby, and hes on a business trip, what if he gets bored, and begins to cheat on you, then leaves you, then your left raising those kids by yourself, while hes just walking around without a care in the world. Here comes the saying "Once a cheater always a cheater" I know that doesn't count for every person, but what if he is the 80% that is like that.
Be careful, I think you should just walk away, because from an outsiders point of view, your in a bad situation, where with time things will only get worse, what if the wife comes after you, if they divorce, I hate to say it, but this situation can pull you straight through hell, you have no idea the way some people are, and some people are just nuts. Trust me, I've seen enough in my short time on earth. I know the truth on alot of things.
Good luck, honestly, I hope you make the right decision.
If you need anything else just let me know. :)
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My best friend, let call her "Jade," has been getting sexually harrassed by her stepfather (without her mom knowing). After she told me this, I told her to call the cops and she said "it's not as bad as it seems." When I tried to call the cops, she told me to relax and not call the cops because "it's not as bad as it seems." Then she said if I ever told the cops, her mom, or anyone else, she would never speek to me ever again (I also can't tell her mom because she dosn't speek any English and wouldn't know what I'm saying). What do I do? (link)
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Yes, I agree with the guy below me. You need to call the police. SHe'll never talk to you again is her way of saying, I'm not allowed to have anyone else know, but I need the help. She needs someone to help her get out of that situation before it gets worse.
And just think of this, if you call the police now, thanks to you "Jade" will be safe tonight, her stepfather will never be allowed to hurt her again. You need to save a life, by picking up the phone and calling the police.
IF you feel very uncomfortable with the police, talk to a trusted adult, and they can make the call. Please do the right thing. "Jade" needs you.
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i found this question somewhere and i was wondering what would be the answer for it. i kind of have the sameproblem just a little though.
"i am WAY to shy! I am starting highschool this year, in 2 weeks and I REALLY want to make some new friends. I mean, I guess I have a lot of friends but I'm finding it more and more difficult to act like myself around them. Even my best friend in the world can't entertain me. I can't hold up a conversation at ALL so I usually find myself complaining about something as a sort of "default conversation topic", which I KNOW people find complaining annoying but it's better to be talking about something than not be talking at all right?? I just don't know how to do this. I'd like to have a little group of best friends that all like each other and then a larger group of friends to hang with and stuff. Most of my friends don't really like each other, unfortunately :( there's also this little group of friends I know that are really cool and we have a lot in common but i'm not sure how I would approach them...I just don't know. PLEASE help me!!!" (link)
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hey there.
the best advice I can give you is to just be yourself, the way you make more friends is by being positive and nice, no one wants to be friends with a crab apple. So if you don't know what to say, say something about homework. For instance, this cute guy is sitting next to you, instead of complaining and saying "I hate this I hate that" look at him and say "did you get the homework?" or "do you know when the first pep rally is?" Stuff like that is good. Then introduce yourself. Also, it is not good to always being talking. I can ramble on about anything, and its really annoying, so don't be like me. lol. Just say something if you feel is goes with the convo, if not, then don't worry about it. Just because you don't say anything doesn't make you rude. It makes you conserative, thats a good way to be.
And if you have stuff in common, mention something like for instance, if you both play soccer on the same team a couple years ago, say "so have you been playing lately?" That opens the convo, and the more things you can talk about, the more well rounded and well versed you will be become. Don't rush it, coming out of shyness, takes a little time.
Have fun in highschool! The years go by so fast, I'm already a senior. And take this advice because its the truth: Cherish each moment and year, because it flies by faster than you can ever imagine.
All the best!!
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I'm 17. I have taken swimming lessons, and used to go to the gym regularly. I stopped and havent gone in about 2-3 months. I would like to start swimming, to lose weight. I would like to become a fast swimmer.
Are there any techniques, workouts, exercises that may help me? Are there any websites that can also help?
when i start swimming, how long should i swim and how many laps/set if there are sets.
Thank you i appreciate it! (link)
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well if your planning to swim everyday, set goals on it. Like for instance, say your going to do 7 laps to start, so for 2 days do seven laps, then raise it to 10 laps for a few days the 14 etc. Thats what I do, and I feel so in shape with out pulling any muscles. You have to take it day by day, and not over do it. Otherwise, you can pull a muscle. I'm at 30 laps and I'm still setting goals for my self.
The secret is to do what oyu can and still challenge yourself. You have to exercise on a daily basis too.
Best of luck!! :)
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okay so me and my boyfriend have been on and off lately weve madeout but nothing serious. i told him i wanted to wait a while before sex but he wants to do things still and hes getting pissed any little things or ideas you can give me to help my situation. becaise im used to waiting but not him help me pleaseee ill rate you good if you help me quickly (link)
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If you want to wait, then good for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with abstience, or wanting to wait. I know your boyfriend is getting frustrated and pissed at you, but he needs to respect you enough to be willing to wait. I know this may be hard, but don't give in to him, if you have sex with him just to keep him, he will leave you (I've seen this happen to my friends). I personally am abstinent. I don't mind people knowing that, and you don't want to have sex, thats fine. That is 100% your decision, but please don't do it, because you think your supposed to, that will just lead to regret.
If you don't want to listen to anything I just said, and you decide to have sex, which will forever change the relationship you have right now with him, (you can never go back to the way things were,) please use protection.
All the best, I hope you make the right choice!
The right choice is following your heart!!
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i broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years becuz i started liking somebody else and i didnt think i loved her anymore. i didnt care for the first few weeks and she would call and call to try to win me back but i didnt want her. after awhile i started to miss her but i didnt let it get to me. after about 3 weeks of being broken up i really started to miss her but i just let it go. a few days later she got in a car crash and died. i know how much she really loved me and it was so hard because she'll never know how much i really loved her i was just very confused. i broke it off with the other girl, but i dont know what to do. how do i deal with this pain?
also does anybody know any songs about losing somebody they love and never getting to say goodbye? or something like my story? thank you.. (link)
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My gosh, I am so sorry. I really am. I don't even know what to say to fix the pain, I'm so sorry,
Some good songs are
"Things Left Unsaid" by Disciple
"Who you'd be today?" Kenny Chesney
"Better as a memory" Kenny Chesney
"What hurts the most" Rascal Flatts
"I will wait for you" Elliot Yamin
The thing I do when something happens to me or I'm feeling something, I write a song. ITs so original and raw, that it just it helps you get your feelings out. Also, if you write a letter to her, putting exactly what your feeling and wanting to say, it will help you cope. Although you can't give her the letter, don't throw it away, keep it, she will always be apart of you. I know this isn't what you may want to hear, it will get easier, although you won't fully get over it, time heals all wounds.
Please let me know if you need anything else. I'm here. Just email me.
The news, it was sharp like a razor blade wasn't it? I'm so sorry.
~Jeannie
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well one of my best friends hate me cuz me and her x kissed and i didnt know she still liked him and idk what to do.... (link)
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You can tell her you didn't know she still liked him, but what you do is your choice.
You are your own person, you cannot let other people get you down or tell you what to do, unless there like your parents or something.
SHe has no reason to hate you, and I'm guessing she doesn't, shes probably just hurt. Tell her you never meant to destroy the friendship or hurt her.
And there called exes for a reason, because you x them out of your life you know, just x them on out. Anyways, that being said, tell her your sorry, but you are capable of making your own decisions.
Have a nice day :)
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my cousin is really popular. im a guy and she is a girl. we go to different schools and i feel like such a loser. she is very pretty and has a boyfriend. i just feel like she never wants to hang out with my becasue i am her loser cousin. what do i do to hang out with my family?! (link)
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Aw I'm sure she doesn't think that at all. Don't worry about it, your not a loser. Why can't you just call her? Say hey whats up wanna chill? I don't think she turned down her own family. Maybe you should talk to her, about how you feel like she doesn't wanna hang out with you, I'm sure thats not the case, though. You need to make the intitative (sorry thats spelled wrong) and call her.
Good luck, and your not a loser :)
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hi am a 13 year old guy and ve like only made out wit a girl 1 befor and dont want to ambares my self if im bad or anything wit my g/f now whos had expierence. u have any tips or anything thanks (link)
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honestly, making out comes with experience. Theres no way really to enhance your performance or make it worse. With each new relationship youll learn a little more and gain more experience. And just because shes more experienced than you, doesn't mean anything, your time will come, so don't rush it. If anything, lack of experience is more of a turn on then someone whos been around and around.
Good luck! Just relax youll be fine :)
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Okay, so there's this guy in my class who totally hot but he was going out with another girl and pretending to like one of my best friends(he's a playa). I like him but so do a lot of other girls. I don't even think he looks at me unless he's calling me byu the nickname that I hate. What should I do? (link)
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To be truthfully honest, I've fallen for this type of guys so many times before. Truth be known, he likes attention, and he will just talk to you and play you. Luckily for me I've gotten out before I got in over my head. I'm not saying you shouldn't like him, but just know when your with him, because he's used to attention, he will be looking at other girls. Maybe not right away, but thats what a player guy does, he sweet talks every girl til he gets what he wants, thens he leaves. I've seen this happen to my friends, and to be honest, it could happen to you too. I know that may not be the answer you want to hear, but I'm not gonna sugarcoat the truth. Just be careful, I've seen people around me get hurt, I wouldn't want that to happen to you or anyone else. Its okay to fantasize about him, but if I were you I would keep him at arms distance, he knows how to play people around him, and thats what he does.
Best of luck to you, just say hi to him, but don't hold out for him, you'll have to wait a long time like forever, or youll just get played. Please be careful.
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why do people get offended if someone says something like, "oh my god!" or "jesus christ!" ? this question has always bugged me. i know it has something to do with "not using the lords name in vain" or something? but i dont get that either? cheeers:) (link)
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people don't like you saying that because its a part of the first comandment that you don't take the Lords name in vain. Which means, only when you're praying you can say Jesus or God, but not cursing with God's name. I say Oh my God but its a force of habit. From a religious point of view, it is offensive if someone says god******, because swearing is a sin, and your putting God in that category. Does that make any sense?
Sorry if I confused you, I hope I helped explain it a little better. :)
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what advice could i give people about contraception? (link)
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You could tell them about birth control, condoms
Abstinence is probably that best, safest route. Personally, I am abstinent. I don't worry about haivng sex or getting pregnant, because I choose to be abstinent, you could advise people about that too. Teen pregnancy is 100% preventable, and people realize it a little too late, so by practicing abstinence, you never have to worry about skipping a period, or anything. Abstinence is 100% successful.
I hope that answered your question, let me know if you need any more advice. :)
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My grandfather past away
in april and I am having a quinceanera
in janurary. I want play a song for him but I cant think of any songs. Any Suggestions?
Thanks :) (link)
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I am very sorry about your grandpa, I understand how you feel, and with time it will get easier.
That being said, you should realyl think of how he made you feel and think of songs that incorporate your feelings.
I lost my grandma two years ago, and the song that reminds me of her is Because You Loved Me, by Celine Dion. Its a really pretty song.
Also I Hope you Dance, When I get where I'm going, Better as a memory(maybe), I need you, This is God. Just to name a few, there are so many songs out there, you just have to find one that relates most to your relationship with him
Again, I'm sorry about grandpa, it'll get easier, I promise.
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I know there's a million of these questions, and I'm really sorry for that, but I need to loose about 10-15kg by December.
I don't have much time to exercise, but I can eat healthy.
The exercise I do right now is an hour of squash every other day. Also tennis couple of times a week, depending on the weather, and my plans.
Any advice on how to loose this weight would be much appreciated.
15/F
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Good for you on at least doing some exercise during the week, that really helps.
AS for eating, all you need to do is eat fruit in the morning, with maybe an egg or two and some toast. Have a salad for lunch, thats your vegetables for you, and make sure you eat a some kind meat a day. All you have to do, is just cut back a little of your meal proportions, and eat more veggies and fruit. That will knock off lbs for you really soon, b/c your body wil adjust to the healthy food and exercise, which in turn will take off lbs in like 2-3 weeks.
Good luck! Hope I heped :)
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how do you delete a song from your itunes library? i've tried everything, pressing the delete key on the keyboard, right clicking, going to the menu.. i can't figure it out. (link)
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just click on the song, go to edit and delete, when the window pops up you hit remove. I just tried it on mine and it worked. Don't use the delete button the keyboard. Just use toolbar and go to edit.
:)
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so i just turned 16 and i have only ever pecked a guy and been felt up. thats it! some of my friends have had sex and ALL of them have atleast made out. I always get the chance to kiss some guy and its perfect but I find a way to get out of it because im sooo nervous. I dont know how the hell to kiss like that! I once pecked a guy and he like opened my lips with him tongue i was like wtf is he doing so I pulled away, then realized he was trying to make out later on haha. It felt so awkward, and I wasn't even involved, which means it will be way way awkward when I am actually kissing back.
I feel so freakin prude and I have to turn down SOOOO many sweet guys because I am too scared to kiss, and theres NO way Im telling anyone I havent before, all my friends think i have because its annoying when they always talk about it. Once when i was drunk I was laying in bed with this guy and we kissed and he tried to make out with me, but i cant remember if we actually did or if i just pushed him away hah. so i consider him my first, but im not sure, i know its sad =/ all i can remember was that it lasted for like 5 secs and it was awkward =p
I know to just go with the flow, but any advice at all?! and also, what if you dont know when to stop since your eyes are closed or what if you miss his mouth should you wait to close them til your kissing? haha any personal experiences or stories are much appreciated! thanks!! (link)
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You know what dont even worry about it. I do know how you feel, I get extremely nervous too. I have a date tommorrow, and the whole kissing thing is making my palms sweat, lol. Anyways, I think you should just be honest with the guy, I think it can be a lot more special, then pretending you know everything about it, and it being awkward. What I'm getting at, is don't worry about the whole kiss thing, and the reason you turn down so many guys is cause your scared. I do the same thing, then I think there is something wrong with me. Its okay to be scared, but you have to face it. Go out with a guy, and don't think about the kiss, have fun, and when its meant to be itll be. I guarantee you, when you go in for the kiss, you'll forget everything you learned or heard about kissing, its just magic, it just happens. I don't think youll miss his mouth, just in case lean a little bit, let him lean the rest, that way it wont be your fault if he misses. lol. Just relax take a deep breath, and let your first kiss, that you tell everyone about, be the one that meant the most to you.
Best of luck. I know how you feel though, cause I do the same thing, but I'm determined to get over my kissing/ dating fears. :)
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I met a guy at the beginning of the summer and we've been spending a lot of time together... almost every day. I'm a virgin but I'm ready to have sex (save the sex speeches please, im 17 and i can make my own decisions) and I really want to with him.... i like him a lot and he likes me a lot. The other night we were getting pretty close... and he said "its up to you". After hearing him say this and knowing that it could really happen made me think... and kind of nervous. He's leaving in less than a month and he goes to school thousands of miles away. There's a chance I may never see him again... and if i did it wouldn't be for, like, a year. It makes me sad to think he's leaving and we can't be anything more than we are... and I'm wondering if sex would just make me even more emotional about it. Can I hear your thoughts and/or stories? Thanks! (link)
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Truthfully, look at it this way, you seem already upset that hes leaving soon. So wouldn't you just want to remember him with all the great memories youve already had instead of giving him your childhood. I mean seriously, once you lose that innocence, you can never get it back again. The choice is yours, but if you give him everything, it will make it even harder to move on. I watched my friend go through that, she cried her eyes out every day for months. If you do a lot with him, you will be emotional, and it will be so hard for you, maybe not today or tommorrow, but when he is gone, a part of you will be too. Just think about it, the consequences, so you don't regret your choice.
I personally am abstinent, you don't have to agree, I'm not telling you too. I'm just telling you to be very careful, b4 you get in to deep.
Best of luck, I hope you make the right choice, just follow your heart, that says it all.
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