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Harrassment
My best friend, let call her "Jade," has been getting sexually harrassed by her stepfather (without her mom knowing). After she told me this, I told her to call the cops and she said "it's not as bad as it seems." When I tried to call the cops, she told me to relax and not call the cops because "it's not as bad as it seems." Then she said if I ever told the cops, her mom, or anyone else, she would never speek to me ever again (I also can't tell her mom because she dosn't speek any English and wouldn't know what I'm saying). What do I do?
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Tell the police or your mom right away. You might loose a friend but wouldn't you rather that then living with the fact that she is getting hurt? At least this way she will be safe. Tell her your sorry but it had to be done. She will probably be mad but eventually she will thank you.
I hope she will understand. =)
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Okay, I'll agree with what the others have said. You should definitely call a non-emergency police line and report this. It seems like a difficult thing to do, but you won't regret it. You're doing your friend a HUGE favor, and helping to prevent further sexual harassment, and even rape. It IS that big of a deal, and is as bad as it seems.
Calling the cops would be so much better than letting something happen, and dealing with the consequences later, then regretting not calling or doing anything about it while you could.
If she decides not to speak to you, it's a little irrational. I doubt that'd be the way things work out in the long run, though. She'll probably eventually see how much you helped, and really appreciate it.
Just think about what you would want someone to do for you in this situation. If she can't go forward and do something about this situation, she should rely on a good friend like you to do it. That way no one can blame her, either if there are any legal actions taken out on her step father (which he'd totally deserve).
Go through with calling the authorites. You're a strong friend, and you'll have helped so much, even if you're not thanked for it!
XOXO
KAT.
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I agree with the previous advisers.
Call the cops.
Do you think it's possible that she's saying "It's not as bad as it seems" to protect her identity/reputation and her step-father's identity/reputation?
Don't take her word for it.
And if you're worried that you can't talk to her mom about it, there's usually a community member that can speak the same language or dialect. A trusted professional.
Call Child Protection Services too. She shouldn't be anywhere near someone like that.
Cheers,
stargirl
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Just call the cops even if you never speak with eachother which i highly doubt you will have saved a life. If you help her she will probably be so gratefull that she will continue talking to you. she probably doesn't think it's so bad because she lived like that her whole life so just call the cops and save your friends life.
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Yes, I agree with the guy below me. You need to call the police. SHe'll never talk to you again is her way of saying, I'm not allowed to have anyone else know, but I need the help. She needs someone to help her get out of that situation before it gets worse.
And just think of this, if you call the police now, thanks to you "Jade" will be safe tonight, her stepfather will never be allowed to hurt her again. You need to save a life, by picking up the phone and calling the police.
IF you feel very uncomfortable with the police, talk to a trusted adult, and they can make the call. Please do the right thing. "Jade" needs you.
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Simple. Call the cops. I'm sorry if she won't talk to you ever again, but that is completely immature. If she has been sexually harassed by her stepfather, he shouldn't be anywhere near her ever again, and she shouldn't be living in an environment where sexual harassment occurs and is only thought of as "not as bad as it seems". That is a bunch of bull crap.
Call the police because although she may not want you to, she NEEDS you to.
--Jack
(16/m)
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