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should i do it?
I met a guy at the beginning of the summer and we've been spending a lot of time together... almost every day. I'm a virgin but I'm ready to have sex (save the sex speeches please, im 17 and i can make my own decisions) and I really want to with him.... i like him a lot and he likes me a lot. The other night we were getting pretty close... and he said "its up to you". After hearing him say this and knowing that it could really happen made me think... and kind of nervous. He's leaving in less than a month and he goes to school thousands of miles away. There's a chance I may never see him again... and if i did it wouldn't be for, like, a year. It makes me sad to think he's leaving and we can't be anything more than we are... and I'm wondering if sex would just make me even more emotional about it. Can I hear your thoughts and/or stories? Thanks!
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I heard you say you like him, but not love him. Does that matter to you? I really believe that it is better when you are in love with someone and it is mutual without a doubt. You only have one first, and you will never forget it. Make it what you want it to be. Don't ever settle for less. Better things come to those who wait...you can't rush it if you want the best.
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personally i think you shouldnt. He could meet someone new while hes overe there and you would have just gave up your virginity to someone who isnt going to be with you. It will make him gone so much more worse. I think you should wait some time, maybe he'll come back you never know. Idk i just feel if your going to give yourself up to someone you should atleast have the security that they will be with you afterward. But then again its all up to you. hope you the best of luck on what you decide. =]
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It depends. Ask yourself what if he meets someone else while he's away. It's up to you but I think the 6 month rule is good to follow.
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Well before I say anything I just thought I would tell you, that if it were me, I most likely would decide to have sex with him. Just because I have the "act now, think later" curse.
The advice I could give you is, if you like him and want to do it, then I think you should do it. But, to answer your question, having sex would probably make things more emotional for you when he leaves. But, if you're serious about him, and want to see him again and keep in touch, then I don't think it will be too bad. If you don't do it you could look back and regret it. Or vice versa, really. This is a tough situation but the best I can say is follow how you feel, and if being emotional in future months while hes gone would be worth it?
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Truthfully, look at it this way, you seem already upset that hes leaving soon. So wouldn't you just want to remember him with all the great memories youve already had instead of giving him your childhood. I mean seriously, once you lose that innocence, you can never get it back again. The choice is yours, but if you give him everything, it will make it even harder to move on. I watched my friend go through that, she cried her eyes out every day for months. If you do a lot with him, you will be emotional, and it will be so hard for you, maybe not today or tommorrow, but when he is gone, a part of you will be too. Just think about it, the consequences, so you don't regret your choice.
I personally am abstinent, you don't have to agree, I'm not telling you too. I'm just telling you to be very careful, b4 you get in to deep.
Best of luck, I hope you make the right choice, just follow your heart, that says it all.
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This is a difficult one to answer but here goes:
Would you regret it more if you did have sex with him and never saw him again, or would you regret losing your virginity to him and never seeing him again? That's a tough one to answer isn't it?
My personal opinion on this would be to not go all the way with him simply because I believe you would regret it. I know you are saying you are ready but because you have doubts I think you should listen to what your head is telling you.
My own situation is very different to yours - I have never had sex with another man other than my husband and I have not regretted it for a moment. However, that does not stop me wondering what it would be like with someone else, but it is something that I would never do because I believe in total monogamy.
Everyone is different and only you can tell whether or not you would regret it. I hope that you make the right decision for you. Good luck.
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it seems to me like you already know what you waant to do. i think u shouldnt. which is the obvious answer but honestly your not really gonna listen to me just do what your heart tells you to
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well personally for me, i think that would get me even closer to him and i would become alot more depressed. i don't know if you're the same way though, but if you are i wouldn't do it. also, please correct me if i'm wrong, but he might just be using you for sex, is he on vacation? i know that alot of guys do that on vacation, just to go home and tell all their friends that they did it. im definetly not saying that he is, because i don't know him, its just a possibility to think about. in my opinion, if i knew i was never gonna see someone again, i wouldn't have sex with them, but thats just me. have you tried talking to him to make a time for you guys to see each other? well i'm sure your tired of hearing my bs haha, but if you have to ask this question to people because you're not sure, i would just say, don't do it.
good luckk =)
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