I am currently a college student. I am studying Psychology and plan on getting my PhD or PsyD to become a counseling psychologist. I am also minoring in music because I love to sing. I have been singing and playing the piano since I was about 5 years old. I also love to ride horses. I have the most perfect boyfriend in the world and I love him so much.
I have always had a rough life growing up and that is why I am going to be a Psychologist because I think I can help people cope with the things that I had to deal with.
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Hello,
I am a male (18) and I've been having sex with my girlfriend for five months now. As the title says my girlfriend has trouble cumming. I am not sure why this is, the past five months she has never had an orgasm. I can however give her a clitorial orgasm, but not a vaginal one. I haven't yet tried fingering her to that point and she refuses to finger herself.
I wonder if there's anything I can do to make her get her orgasm. She is really getting frustrated during sex, she actually gets to the point when the orgasm should come, "but then everything disappears" she says. These frustrations occur multiple times during sex, followed by an emotional breakdown(on her side).
I real feel bad about not being able to give her an orgasm, so please, are there any tricks/tips/suggestions?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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It all has to do with her muscle. You can't just make her orgasm... she has to squeeze her muscle during the peak of sex. Try having her on top and let her do the work. Just put it in really deep and let her do the rest. This should help. Also, make sure you do a lot of foreplay, as it will excite her more and make it easier to go.
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I haven't had sex and im 15... Am I a freak? Cause it seems like all my friends are talking about having sex and I don't even WANT to until I am married.
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A lot of your friends were probably thinking the same thing you are. They probably thought that they were weird, so they decided to have sex. Don't let them pressure you into doing it because you have an advantage that they do not have anymore. I lost mine when I was 16 and I am now 20, almost 21 and still regret it to this day. I lost it to my boyfriend, but I still regret it because I didn't do it because I wanted to. I did it because my older sister and friends were doing it and my boyfriend, who was 19 at the time wanted to do it. I have now been with a different guy for 3 years and I love him more than anything and wish I would have waited to lose it with him. So just ignore your friends are do what your heart feels. At least wait until you are 18 and if you do have sex, please use condoms and take birth control. Hope this helps.
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im a virgin, and i want to know does it HURT alot the first time when u have sex???? how does it feel??? (link)
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It depends on lots of things. It depends on the size of the guys penis, how he works it (make sure he goes super slow) and how wet the female gets. I recommend a lot of foreplay before. For me, it hurt A LOTTT, not only the first time, but every time for about 2 weeks. My ex-boyfriend was well-endowed, so that's probably why it hurt so much for me. But, consider waiting a little longer. Do not do it if you are unsure because it will just haunt you for the rest of your life. I lost my virginity at age 16 and that's my biggest regret. I wish I should have waited because now I have been with the same guy for 3 years now and wish I could have saved it for us. Please think it through and don't let any man pressure you, ever. Hope this helps.
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I love my boyfriend but how long in a relationship do u think u should wait to have sex? (link)
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I usually set my minimum to 6 months. Then you get to know the guy and if he really loves you he will wait. Then you also know that he's not going to use you for sex. It all depends though. You will know when you are ready. Just follow your heart.
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At first i was really itchy in my vaginal area now i have a white cottage cheese lookin discharge and it feels like i have a few little bitty balls inside i have been treating myself with a yeast infection over the counter medicine can someone please tell me what i may have or am i treating this right because i am totally freaking out. (link)
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You may have a bacterial infection. This happened to me and I used an over the counter yeast infection medication and it wasn't helping so I went to the gynecologist and found out that the over the counter drugs weren't helping because I didn't have a yeast infection.
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Hi,
I'm 18/f and a college student. I'm studyin gpre-med so I'm taking a lot of science classes. So in high school I never had to work extremely hard (I studied a lot, but didn't have to stay up all night if that makes sense) and I always got A's, but since I go to this really good university and I'm taking advanced classes I'm finding that my study methods are not effective.
So...what can I do to get higher grades on my midterms? What are some study habits that are really effective that I can try?
Thanks a lot (link)
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Flashcards are a great way to study. Also, try talking to your professors because they may be able to give you helpful tips or even make a study session. I was having trouble in my Neuroscience class and I talked to my teacher and found out that I was not the only one with a suffering grade, so he developed a study session before the test.
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Im a sparno2 with a very wide range from alto2 to a sparno1. So I can sing almost any female song that you can throw at me. Well I have a tryout next week for a musical and Im supose to be singing a song from any boardway musical that I want. But it has to fit my person. I in my late teens early 20s and Im not the romantic type. But Im a wonderful actress. Any ideas of what I should sing? (link)
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I am also a fan of wicked. I really like the song "Defying Gravity" and if you can hit those notes, everyone will be highly impressed. The song is not a real fast paced song or a real slow song, so I think it fits perfectly in the middle of the two. It is also a song that is great if you are a wonderful actress because when singing the song, you will need a great attitude because the song is about the lead character pushing forward and not letting anyone bring her down. So if you can act and hit those notes, everyone would be blown away! Good luck!
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I have been having sex a lot with my boyfriend since November of this year, recently after sex, it's burning and stinging especially when I go to the bathroom. What could this be?
Today after sex it was almost unbearable. It feels good during, but not after. (link)
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You either aren't lubricated enough while having sex or you have some kind of infection. Some infections can go on for a long time and even remain while you have your period, so I suggest seeing a doctor.
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ok all my boyfriend wants to do is have sex or have me give him a blow job just because i did it once. he tells me he loves me but i just dont no anymore...
its like we cant just hang out any more... :(
does he love me for me or dose he love me for the sex and stuff (link)
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If he really loves you, then he would respect you and not expect sexual favors from you. A relationship is kind of like a wordrobe... sex is only an accessory, whereas love and friendship are the more important things such as actual clothes. Although, it is nice to do something sexual for him every once in a while.
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Before I begin, I want to make it clear that I do love my boyfriend. I'm 22, and I've been with him almost a year.
We've decided that we're ready to have sex. I'm a virgin, and I've stayed one this long only because I have wanted to save myself for the right person. Someone I love, and yadda yadda. I truly believe that it is him.
Problem? I'm petrified of the aftermath. I don't know why, but I have a feeling that things will just go down hill. I can't shake it. I have no specific reasons to display. He treats me great. I've been sick for a while, he's here anytime I need him. He's supportive of my dream to become an author, and he's kind.. Point being, I'm sure I want to do this.
But then a part of me starts questioning what's going to happen after wards. Because he's become such a close, sincere friend.. and we have a wonderful connection, I feel as if sex may make it almost too sexually intimate.. and we'd lose the best part of the relationship that I've known.
So really.. does sex help bring two closer?.. or dismantle it? And what happens if I'm not good at it, ya know? He's not a virgin. Does sex change feelings for the worse, then it does the better??
Thank you, in advance.. (link)
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I agree with you, you should do it with someone that you love and make sure they love you back. If he's waited this long, he must really think you are the one. Sex does bring a couple closer, however, usually not the first time or even the first few times because it does tend to hurt. Just make sure he takes it slow and if you want him to stop, don't hold it in, just tell him to stop.
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when a guy says "i want you" what exactly does it mean? my bf said it to me (link)
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He most likely means that he wants to have sex with you.
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16/F
This is prob. going to sound really nasty but,
when me and my boyfriend have sex on the floor
and im laying flat down on the floor when i get up after sex my pussy makes like a farting noise and it was SO embarrassing. And I mean there is like nothing I can do to stop itt.
Any advice? (link)
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It is completely normal, it happens to many girls after sex. I know it is embarrasing, but just tell your boyfriend that you can't help it and it is totally natural. Try to laugh about it.
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I would like to ask a question because this nurse came to our school today and talked about stds and it scared me cause me and my BF have unprotectedsex and hes only been with me i was his first but im scared that i might get one even though hes only been with me and i wanted to get tested but im only 17 and i dont know where to get tested at without my parents knowing so what do i do about that? i just want to be safe and careful because i have a baby and i seen some of the disease that you get and theyre contagiouse and i dont want to end up kissing my son on the lips and give him a disease so if anyone has any ideas on where i could get this done at i would really like to know and thanks for reading this.
♥brown3y3z (link)
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Find the nearest Planned Parenthood and get tested. I believe testing for women under 18 is free and they won't tell your parents, but make sure you call and ask first.
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My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time, and it was amazing! The only not so good part of it is I got pregnant. I used three different kinds of tests and they all said I was pregnant. I am not sure what to do. I am so afraid to tell my mom because I am only 14 and she wants the best for me. Please! I really don't know what to do and I'm scared. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks. (link)
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It depends on what you want to do. You could choose to have the baby, in which case you would have to tell your mom. You could also have an abortion, in which case you should find the nearest Planned Parenthood and set up an appointment to talk to someone there.
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how do make my girlfriend feel special (link)
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There are many ways to make a girl feel special. If you love her, tell her at least once a day. Look into her eyes and tell her she is not just pretty, hot, or beautiful, but tell her she is gorgeous and really mean it. You could also buy her flowers, but on a special day so it doesn't look like you're trying to suck up to her. Maybe buy them for her on your month or year anniverseries. Try to take her out to a nice place for dinner one night. It doesn't necessarily have to be an expensive place, just don't take her to McDonalds though either.
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17/f
In like the last 6 months I have become really really self concious and not confident at all. I used to be much more confident and I could just do stuff in front of people and now I can't go anywhere without another person.
Can anyone help me this is ruining my life. (link)
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all young women get that feeling like everyone is looking at you. I get that all the time and I just think there's nothing better about the people looking at me and there is nothing wrong with me. Just think... there's nobody better than you, you are just as good as everyone else.
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okay so i have always been turned on by a naked female but i always thought so did everyone period and that it didnt mean i was a lesbian. but lately i have been craving more and more to be with a girl sexually and emotionally. i end up catching myslef having a crush on a girl and wanting to hook up with her but i cant bring myself to actually do it. idk if its because i really am not a lesbian or if i am and dont know how to get something started with a girl. can somebody help me? (link)
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I agree with the other answers... it is normal to be attracted to other women. Sometimes I think omg shes hot but then I'm like I could never date a girl. You can tell if you are gay by thinking in a sexual way like... would I want to fool around sexually with a girl and feel comfortable? It sounds like you wanna have a little bit of an experience with a girl and that's pretty normal bc it goes through all girls minds but most don't go through with actually doing it.
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hi i have a question about shaving down there. i'm f/18 about to have sex for the first time. i usually shave my bikini line, but i was wondering what you think i should do. should i shave it more? i don't want to shave it off completely, since it always grows back thicker and coarser. but i need help w/ what to do and what guys like. (link)
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it depends on the guy. most guys like it either completely shaved or trimmed really short.
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My sister has really strange eating habits, but it doesn't sound like an eating disorder that I have heard of. She eats less than 100 calories for breakfast. At school she eats grapes for lunch and throws away her sandwich. She tries not to let anyone see her do it, but I have seen her do it all week. At supper, she eats normally because my parents saw that she wasn't eating as much and she doesn't want them to know.
One day at lunch I saw her eating half of her sandwich. But when we got home, I heard her trying to make herself throw up in the bathroom. She didn't succeed, but maybe that's because she is afraid of throwing up.
Maybe I am making too much of things, but what does this sound like to you? Any help is appreciated. :) (link)
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It sounds like she definitely has an eating disorder such as bulimia or anorexia nervousa. All you can really do is make her feel better about herself and talk to her. The rest she has to do on her own.
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I have been trying to kill myself sense I was ten. It never worked out right, either there was some-one to stop me or they found me before I could finish. I really don't want to live any more. But I don't seem to have the strength to go on. I don't want to feel this way any more. It scares me and each thought is stronger than the last. I want these feelings to go away. What can I do? Nothing ever seems to help me. I feel that my only option is to kill my self. I still WANT to live though! I'm scared that I might take this to far. Please help me, I don't think I can hold on much longer! (link)
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Don't do it. Something will come along someday and make you very happy. I had the same problem until I met my wonderful boyfriend. He practically saved me and makes my life a lot better. Something good will come along toi those in need so just stick in there.
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