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I Am Pregnant and Dont Know What to do!
My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time, and it was amazing! The only not so good part of it is I got pregnant. I used three different kinds of tests and they all said I was pregnant. I am not sure what to do. I am so afraid to tell my mom because I am only 14 and she wants the best for me. Please! I really don't know what to do and I'm scared. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
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seeing as how everyone that has answerd this is like probly older im 14 to...
i to just had sex for the first time...
we to didnt use a condom and i thought i got pregnant BUT the test was wrong...
so i already decided what i would have done if i was i think you should do the same...
ok tell your mom she will understand and help you threw it...
ok then have her take you to the doctor...
ok dont have an abortion go threw it u had sex and a baby is your punishment ok...
you are 14 you have your hole life ahead of you put the baby up for adoption... think of your future and the dads and more inportantly the babies this is a serious matter...
hope it helped
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Okay, I'm not going to tell you you're stupid. Just so you know. You can't change the past, but you CAN change your future.
If you haven't had a blood test to confirm your pregnancy - and I suspect you haven't, as you're only 14 and your mom doesn't know about this - you need to have one. That is the only absolute way to find out whether or not those other tests were right. That being said, you also need to tell your mother. You're right in thinking that she wants the best for you. She will disapprove of your situation, she will be angry, and she may lose some respect for you (be prepared for this), but she will still help you. You're still her baby girl, and she'll still love you no matter what.
If you are indeed pregnant, you must take your situation into account. You're fourteen. You're still living with your parents. Your mom probably doesn't want to be a grandmother just yet. Neither you or your boyfriend are prepared to be parents at this time, I don't think. If you're still early in the pregnancy, the fetus can be aborted. Don't listen to me if you disagree, but I really think that's the best route for all of you at this point in your lives. The ultimate decision is, of course, yours, but realize that you are extremely young for this kind of responsibility. Be careful.
If you're against abortion, or feel that you want to go through with this, you can either put your future baby up for adoption, or keep it...but if you keep it, you have to take into account the stress, the funds, the responsibility - you're still a baby yourself. You're barely in high school. Do you really think you could take care of a baby if you can't even take care of yourself? Not to say that you're incompetent or incapable, simply that you still depend on your parents/mother, you still live under her roof. There's no way for you to afford a baby, and it wouldn't be fair to ask your mother to do so when this isn't something she's prepared for.
Please talk to your mother. Sit her down, warn her that you have something serious to discuss, and tell her just what you told us. Your mom is your best advocate, and cleaning up after her daughter's messes is in her job description. Let her help you.
I wish you the best of luck, and courage. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to IM me or drop a question in my inbox. Be strong.
-Siren
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dam that crazy...dam your only 14 its up to you and the guy what you guys really want to do.. a baby is a really big responsibility..the only advice i would give is either keep the baby or abort it at this point you really cant do much about it im sorry to tell you this...i hope i could help a little..sorry..
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I'm going to give this to you straightforward. You're not going to like it, but you need to hear it.
First off, you're 14 and should not be having sex. You are too young, immature and knowledge ridden to do this kind of thing. Sex brings on adult emotions, and consequences. I don't care if you were just doing it to try it, or whether you were in the mood & couldn't control yourself - you need to use a condom.
It's too late for that though.
Anyways, you need to tell your mother. Discuss your options with her. You can keep the baby, you can have an abortion, or you can adopt. However, I believe in your case, you should put your baby up for adoption or keep the baby. Now, why am I ruling out abortion? Because you were stupid enough not to use a condom. I only see abortion necessary if:
A) You were raped.
B) Incest.
But neither of those happened, so you need to take responsibility. If you were dumb enough not to use a condom or birth control, then you need to suffer and deal with your consequence.
I'm not going to lie. Your mom is going to be disappointed, angry, sad, horrified, and shocked. There will be times where she won't know what to do with you, and there will be times where she will quite possibly ignore you. These are normal reactions.
However, you're her daughter so she isn't going to turn you away and not help you. But, you need to be calm and mature about this.
After you've discussed your options, you need to go to the doctor. If you decide to keep the baby, the doctor will give you prenatal vitamins or you can get them from the store. They will give you packets on what happens during pregnancy, what to expect, what not to eat, what to eat, and normal stuff that you should do for exercise and other things.
I wish you the best of luck. You need it.
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My friend, even though you chose to have sex at such a young age, I still sympathize with you deeply as I know you must be very scared at this point. I think that you should really tell you mom, especially if you're going to have the baby (and if so, then you would have to go about either adoption or if you wanted to keep it).
Of course, you have the option of getting an abortion, which I wouldn't say is the best decision, however, I can understand if that's what you choose to do. I do believe that either way you mom should know, understandably she will be upset, however, she will support you and help you with the decisions you need to make.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope that things work out for you.
Talk to you mom -- she will understand and help you.
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wow, well you shouldn't have had sex.
simple as that.
now you get what you deserve.
so basically you don't need a worthy answer from me.
you got yourself into this mess, YOU'RE gonna get yourself out.
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It depends on what you want to do. You could choose to have the baby, in which case you would have to tell your mom. You could also have an abortion, in which case you should find the nearest Planned Parenthood and set up an appointment to talk to someone there.
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Your mom needs to know about this. For me, when I'm trying to talk to my mom about hard stuff, I do it in the car. Its just me and her. We can concentrate on the problem instead of her trying to pretend she's just really into watching something on tv or whatnot. Idk if you want to tell your dad right away, but I'd advise you to just tell your mom first. Together, you can find a way to tell your dad.
Remind your mom that you're sorry (only if you truly are, no one likes fake apologies.) Remind her that you can't take back whats happened and that you want her help to get through this. When things have calmed down, ask her what you should do.
99% chance your mom will be angry. Most moms would be-so just be prepared.
If you need anything else, just inbox me.
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You need to tell your mom. She'll find out eventually, & you're going to need her to go to the doctor since you're underage. Getting pregnant can be scary, but that's the risk you take when you have unprotected sex (which I'm assuming you did). If you haven't told your boyfriend already, you need to do that to. You both need to take responsibility & do the best you can to be good parents.
After you tell your mom, you two need to set up a doctor's appointment so that they can verify that you're pregnant, & set up appointments for you throughout your pregnancy. Just stay calm, it's not the end of the world. And if you absolutely don't think you can raise your child, there's always adoption.
If you plan to keep it, though, you should also maybe look into parenting classes, too.
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