When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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What does bondage mean? Thanks. (link)
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http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bondage
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So me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two monthss and alittle more. We've broken about 6 to 7 times. And he was only sad the first 3 times we broke up after that he made it seem like it was whatever. And he is a jerk! He always says things to me like if he doesnt value what he has but at the same time his a sweet guy and i love him alot because thats the first guy i ever really really liked and had a connection with him. Every night i cry because he makes me feel like the bad guy which am not because i always try to work things out but when i tell him about my feelingss all he says it whatever or wow bye or something immature like that. I dont wanna let him go what can i do to change the way he treats me? (link)
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wow hey,its apparent that he doesn't love you or care about you, and i'm saying this for your own good, he doesn't seem like he has major feelings for you and that he wants to be with you, and it doesn't have to do anything with you or that there is something wrong with you, or even in him, but sometimes people just lose interest or eventually grow apart, it comes by time. And what you are doing here, is that you are wasting your time and your dignity and respect pretty much. Because you are giving him feelings and a lot of your time which he doesn't deserve and doesn't give you anything in return. And i know how it must feel that he's the first one, and that you really like him, but baby you have to let go, and you know what, maybe when you finally let go for good, he's gonna start feeling that he really did lose something valuable and he's gonna regret it, and who knows, maybe HE'LL come running after you and wanting you back. Just don't stoop down to anyone or run after anyone, he either loves you as much as you love him and he's there and he cares, or either just back out cause this is apparently a one-sided relationship, and why on earth would you do this to yourself and cry every night, for someone who probably while your crying is doing whatever somewhere and not caring, i mean, if he doesn't care when you are with him, i'm sure he wouldn't care when you are not together. So really girl you deserve better and you deserve someone who would love you and give you back feelings as much as you give him, and there are many other guys to come, this is definitely not the one. And when you meet others later on, you'll look back at this, and laugh or feel immature or not care or say he's an a-hole, and right then, you will have someone else and you'll be happy, and he'll care, and he won't make you cry. Cause crying every night over someone, that's not called love, at all. Think about this and reconsider.
If you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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18/m.
Last saturday it was my friends 18th birthday, and we went to this restaurant for dinner, then hit a few clubs. During the restaurant, my friend introduced me to her friend (kate), who was at the restaurant, but for another party. My friend gave me kate's number, and i was texting her for awhile, and we've been talking on facebook abit since.
Today however, our mutual friend (who introduced us) arranged a sort of first date. Me, kate, and out mutual friend, all going to see a movie? My friend rang her, and asked if she wanted to see a movie, and then she told kate i 'might' be coming. Kate then said "should i be scared?", my friend said "no, dont worry, i'll be there". What the hell does "should i be scared" mean!?
Now, i dont know what to do...ive never done this sort of '3 people on a date' thing? its kind of wierd, but i suggested it, because i didnt want kate to feel awkward, or wierd.
Any advice for the night? do you think she got the wrong idea or anything, she might think i just want be friends? what did she mean by "should i be scared?" Any advice would be good, thanks in advance. (link)
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I guess it means 'Should i start freaking out, because i'm actually going on a date with him,whom i totally have a huge crush on'! I don't think it means anything else. And i think all parties of the story have good intentions, and i don't think that she thinks you only want to be friends, i think its a good idea, and you don't have to call this outing a date, its probably just getting to know each other, hang out, see what you have in common, and that's a way of taking things slow and not rushing, cause you haven't known each other for long, and you met through someone, so maybe its a better idea that this someone would be with you, cause other than that, although you texted and stuff, it would be weird, like going out with someone you don't know, cause you probably still don't know anything about her.And you know what, maybe that's good, cause maybe you wouldn't like her that way when you actually get to know her, so this way, you don't have to say that you went on an actual date with her, you just hung out you know. Just be cool, and let things fall into place, be yourself and go out and have fun, and whatever is meant to happen will happen, right? So if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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What can I say to my friend who had a miscarriage last week? It's just now hitting her and I dont know what to do. She has one child already but wants another one. I have 2, and feel bad bringing my baby around her because I dont want to rub it in that mine was ok. (link)
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If she's really your friend, she would never feel jealous of you or envy you or wish that she had a baby too like yours, and if you usually do bring your baby around, then its cool, its not like your doing something intentionally unusual that could make her think that your rubbing it in her face ,you know.
Other than that, its a really tough situation and a very hard time for her, so all you can do is be there and tell her how there is still a chance for her to have another one, and a third one, and that everything is gonna be okay, and that a couple of years from now, you'll be together and you'll bring your kids to each others' houses, and you'll think back at all this ,and you'll see how things changed,and how there is always hope and a chance to make things different,and yes we fall down and go through horrible things, but we have to move on, and we should always try, and who knows, maybe somehow god (if you believe in him, i'm saying this with all do respect) did this for a reason, maybe he knows better, i mean, maybe the baby could have come but turned out to have problems that would affect him and would hurt his mother all throughout her life instead of hurting just once for losing him, and i know its probably not called 'once' cause i'm sure she's gonna remember him all her life, but she just has to believe that somehow this might have been for the best, and no one knows the future, or what might have happened or was yet to come. So the only thing you can do, is to be there for her, nothing else is gonna make the pain go away,and make her hopeful and make her see the bright side, and there is always another chance.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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i have this cruch on a girl and i dont know what to do...... (link)
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Don't just stand on the sidelines, go up to her, talk to her, ask about her, ask people about her favorite things and try to like hangout with her, see what you have in common...so basically, just take a step forward, cause as long as 'there is a girl and you just like her but not doing anything about it' then you will never get anywhere, so take a move, just be friendly, don't rush into it. and if she seems nice, and welcoming,and you feel that she might like you back or that there could be something, maybe then ask her on a date. You know sometimes, when we see people without actually getting to know them, we think that we're totally in love with them, but when we actually start talking, sometimes you lose interest or see that you don't really like her that way or that you were wrong. I'm just saying for example, i don't mean anything. But what i'm saying is, get close to her first, get to know her, and then if she's cool, if she's what you want, ask her out.
If you need anything else, feel free to contact me.
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15/f
Well,here's my story...after so many failed relationships(I've been hit,cheated on,lied to...the list goes on),in a row,I began to realize I couldn't care less about having a boyfriend.Now,when some of my friends even mention love and relationships,I feel sick...it makes me wanna throw up... I don't believe in love anymore...the more love I gave,the more I ended up being hurt.Don't say "You're really young and you have a life ahead of you".... I know that... but I've been disappointed too many times.I've even developed a fear of entering a relationship ever again.I feel as though my heart is slowly turning to stone.Then yet,deep down,I want to find someone who will love me unconditionally...but I keep closing up,more and more as time goes by.Also,I've tried to date a few guys but we broke up because I was too suspicious.I mean,how can I trust anyone after being cheated on so many times? Am I supposed to feel like this? (link)
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Been there... done that! Every single feeling your describing, i've been through and i thought exactly the same way,and for a minute, i thought i would never fall inlove again or be interested in any other guy ever again, cause they're all just a-holes and they are not to be trusted, and they are all the same, some way or another. And yet, believe it or not, no matter how much you can try to convince me that you know yourself and that you know that you will never be with anyone else, i'm gonna tell you that your wrong and that its just a feeling and that you will move on, and once u meet someone, you will immediately forget about all this and the way your thinking now, and your gonna go through another experience and commit to a relationship all over again. And it has nothing to do with being young, or when you get older, you can meet a guy tomorrow and fall inlove with him immediately, it has nothing to do with age. It has to do with moving on, and so many ppl go through this, imagine women who divorce several times, not only breakup with their boyfriends, and yet they marry again, imagine how that feels, breaking up a marriage is much harder and it hurts more, and yet they repeat the experience over and over and over, because they move on, we all must move on. And i know how sometimes it feels that you think that you fell down and you don't believe that you can get up and go on with your life, but unconsciously eventually you move on. So cheer up and try to take it lightly, try to not think that way, and not intentionally reject guys and push them away, just let things fall into place on their own and go with the flow.
HOpe i helped, feel free to contact me anytime.
Goodluck!
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I'm going to try to keep this from getting too long, but I don't know if that is possible! I'm 20 years old, in school and working while living with my mom. My parents just got divorced in January. My dad cheated on my mom with two different women- both were ongoing affairs and he is still seeing the last woman. My mom has been with him since she was 16 and is devistated. My dad was not involved in my life while I was growing up. He didn't show any interest in me and was very verbally abusive. Now that he is divorced, he sees what he lost and now is trying to be a part of my life. I appreciate it... however, I'm just so incredibly disgusted by him and seeing my mom so upset and depressed really makes me resent him. I don't know how to move forward with this and how far into my life I should let him. It's a tough situation. Thoughts? (link)
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You have all the right to be mad at him and resent him and hate him because he hurt you just like he hurt your mother, not only because you love your mother and your hurting cause she's hurting, but because he should've thought of you too,not only your mother, when he cheated. And i know how it must feel. But here is the thing,in life, no matter what our parents do, or how wrong they are,or how bad they treat us, or or or..etc they are not your friends, so you can't just snap at them and break up with them, but they are your parents, and no matter what, you must show them respect, even if inside of you, you've lost all respect to them, you still must show it and act it, and simply be diplomatic. You're not expected to do anything more but be respectful to them. And don't even fight with your dad or tell him to stay away or fight with him because of what he did, cause what he did is done and nothing is gonna change it,it would only make matters worse if you fight with him. So you just be respectful and talk to him in a diplomatic way.
If you need any other help, feel free to contact me. Best of luck!
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I'm 14 and a guy and I've been really friends with a girl for 5 years or so. The things is I really like her and i feel it wont go anywhere unless she knows but i dont know how or if i should tell her. I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship but i think it'd be fun to go out with her. What should i do? (link)
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Okay here is the thing, you shouldn't say, you 'think' it would be 'fun' to go out with her. Cause its not a game or a toy, and i am saying this with all do respect, because if you go out with her once, and then see that she makes a better friend that a date and things don't work out, and then you would feel ackward later on, and then everything would change in your friendship cause you dated and you saw each other in a different way, and then things wouldn't be the same, and you'd lose each other as both friends and lovers. And i'm sure you've heard of these things happening before. So ONLY if you really do love her, and have strong feelings for her, and it shouldn't only be about being really curious to experience a date with her, you should really be inlove with her, and have true feelings for her to make this right and to make things work out.
And hey, do you know if she has ANY kind of feelings for you that way? has she ever dropped hints?
So just make sure of your feelings and if you're ready to get involved in a relationship and if she's the one you want to be with, and be with in this way, your date, not your friend for years.
HOpe i helped, feel free to contact me. Best of luck!
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Im 13 and a girl. A couple of months ago my friends asked this boy out for me. For about a month we avoided eaachother then we became friends. Now he will ocassionally bump into me. We sit next to eachother in one class and when im listing he pretends to scratch his head and looks at me, ALOT. he askes my friends if i still like him(they say yes).He flirts with some other girls at school(that are my friends) in front of me. Does he like me? What should i do(if he does) just to make sure? (link)
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Yes he seems to me that he likes you and has a crush on you, and is regretting that he once let you down. But that's okay, because he probably didn't know u and not everyone goes out with someone they don't know well. So here, just play along, flirt if he flirts, get closer, like talk more, hang out, in school i mean, see what he's up to and he's intentions, what is he really throwing at, and if it works out, i mean, if he asks you out, cool why not, but if he doesn't, maybe he just wants to be friends, and who knows, maybe he'd make a better friend than a date, you know? so just play along, and let things fall to place on their own.
Hope i helped, if anything happens, feel free to contact me. Best of luck!
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I'm 16 and 6 months ago my boyfriend and I decided to break up after a 1 year relationship. The problem was that he didn't make any effort to make time for me, whereas I would change my WHOLE schedule just to see him, and not once could he reciprocate.
Lately we've been running into each other parties, friend's places etc. and we'd always be the last two people awake, still talking and he'd bring 'us' up.
He's made it clear that he likes me and wants to get back together. I still like him too, and want to get back together but I'm not sure if it's worth it. He's not the type to change for someone and I really don't want to get hurt like a did before. And if we do get back together where do we go from there? (link)
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The answer here is according to how you're feeling, and there is a choice of two. First of all, if you do feel that you really love him and,loving a person means accepting him the way he is and with his faults and bad qualities, just like maybe there are things he doesn't like about you or upsets him whether you know of them or not. So if you feel that you love him too much, enough to overcome however he lets you down sometimes, then get back together, BUT take it slow, don't rush into it! And don't keep looking for signs that would tell you that he changed, or don't wait for any little thing he does that tells you that he's still the same. And see, here is the thing, if he loves you,if he really does, he'll be there this time, and he'll show that to you, but don't expect him to change 100% cause no one changes fully for anyone,but there are those who show the effort.
Second choice, is that if you don't think you have as much feelings as you used to have for him, then don't take take a risk and take up your time and schedule and get involved in a relationship all over again, incase it doesn't work out again and you get hurt, just because you didn't really love him enough to bear him, or he didn't love you enough to make an effort. So basically, its a matter of feelings, figure that out from inside of you, you answer your own question!
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, contact me personally or send me a msg in my inbox. Best of luck!
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Ok so this is going to sound weird, but it was an expirament.. I made a fake myspace with a drop dead gorgous girl. I added kids in my town and made up some story about me possibly moving there. Well I did this to see what guys want in girls. Well, I act the EXACT same way to them. Like I talk the same way and everything. No denying this girl in muchh more beautiful, by the way. Yet the boys I can't even get to talk to me, are like obsessed with "Jen" who's really me.. So in a way they really like me, just do not know it.
My question here is, why do boys base it all on looks? Honestly, if I looked like her I would no doubt have a boyfriend and be happier with life. Yet I'm the same way both peopleee. Uggggh, I don't know what to like think. I want to so badly leave my town so I can get a fresh start, cause now I know all guys care about is looks.
Is that true? Is that all guys want. A girl with looks? (link)
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NO thats not what all guys want, and not all boys base it all on looks, only immature childish ones do so, those who just want sex and fun and adventure and are not looking for a real relationship and love and commitment, to them that's bullshit, they just want someone with good looks to make the sex more enjoyable.
But there are others, decent others, where to them looks are the last thing they consider, its about the personality and who you are and they become attracted to you and not to how you look.
And i know that there are too many of those boys who only want the looks, but just as many there are a few decent others, and if you stop focusing on those dirty boys, you will meet those others and you will find them and you will make a fresh start, but you'll make it here, and in your town without having to move to another.
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well today this boy told me he was in love with me...he said he fell in love with me as soon as he saw me...that was so shocking idk what to do and i dont know how to face him at school monday knowing this...i dont like him like that and he knows i just think he doesnt get it...what do i do im only 14 and i never been in this situation...i mean he's a great guy he's smart and he knows how to treat me...but idk...please help me!!! (link)
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hey,listen, its totally cool,its nothing to shock you or make you panic. When you go to school on monday, and he comes up to you, just go like ' we need to talk' and sometimes, this is usually enough to give him a hint, but if he still doesn't get it, talk with him. YOu should go like, that you do like him and he's a very nice person and he's sweet and smart blah blah blah, but you just do not like him that way and it would be unfair for him and for youself, and it would be better for him to love someone else who deserves this love and would love him back...etc,this is what is usually said, and then ofcourse, he'll go like, 'okay i get it , i understand' and then he's gonna like look hurt and he might not talk to you again, but please don't go like, no, i don't wanna lose him, i want him as a friend, well then deal with it, you can't really have everything, cause if you like still have him as a friend, while you know that he has all those feelings for you, then you would be really unfair and mean to him, and it would be your fault and the blame is on you if later he comes again and he's like, i still love you and i wanna be with you and you treat me good, cause he doesn't understand that your angelic treatment is only as a friend.so just like, tell him the things i said and if he gets upset, you can go like, i'm sorry, i didn't wanna upset you, but i can't do anything about it, and thankyou for your feelings and how you feel about me, you really touched me, but i just don't wanna hurt you, and i'm not the one who deserves this love. and then just leave him, either he'll never talk to you again, and usually because he's like embarassed or humiliated because of all he had been through to confess how he feels about you and this is usually very very hard and embarassing and then you just let him down.So yes he may not talk to you ever again, but you'll see that he will move on and find someone else, or he might be mature and diplomatic, and he would say hi and hello every once and a while, and put any differences behind him, and at that point, you should act exactly the same way back, and do not like
go and make conversations and try to win him as a friend, don't do that, just be diplomatic too.
That's it, it may sound complicated, i guess its easy with words than actions, but you'll get through it, i promise you that , and everything is gonna be alright.
If you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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Umm... I'm a really shy person and I was wondering if anybody can help me become more talkative and less shy. Maybe even some reasons why I'm quiet. Well thanks to those that can help.
With love,
~!MysteriousGirl!~ (link)
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Dear MysteriousGirl,
This is not a problem at all. I was once like that and now i can talk to nearly anyone i've just met and i talk so friendly, and its totally cool, i don't care.
It just simply comes after time, little by little and it helps more when you deal with people who are more of your type, cause that encourages you to fit in easily and be comfortable there.
'Shy' is not a medical condition, and so 'shy' does not have a drug to cure it, as well as 'shy' is not a problem, so 'shy' does not have or require advice or answers. 'Shy' is a character in someone's personality, and sometimes somehow, it is a character in every single person's personality, but it differs on how each one would deal with it, overcome it, or be defeated by it. Just let go, there is nothing to be shy about, and i know that its something you can't help it, its just there, so that's why i'm telling you that by time, you'll come around. But the thing is, what are you shy about? who are you shy around? why? all those people you are shy infront of are just human beings like you and are shy too,but they deal with it, they won't bite you, they won't make fun of you, its cool, if you talk to them, they could actually once become your bestest friends, and you'll find that they are very kind and nice and decent.
Try to join in on conversations, give your opinion, even if YOU think it sounds lame or off point, it could drag another conversation, and don't think that people would like not hear you or ignore you, no ,they are not monsters, they would listen, and appreciate your contribution and would make you join in more with them, and would like you more, and say, oh this girl has a personality of her own and she speaks up her mind and stuff.
So basically what i'm saying is that, your quiet because your scared that if you speak up, people would think that what your saying is lame or would mock you or any thing of the sort, but they won't, they won't do that, so like, speak up your mind and share your opinions and don't worry, its totally cool.
Last thing, is that its not real bad for a person to be quiet, i'm a quiet person, and its sometimes actually better than being a talkative person, people sometimes get really annoyed from those who are very talkative. So your on the safe side, hehe :):):):)
If you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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Hi i'm 17 year old female and I'm pretty active, but recently I discovered that on the lower outside part of my knee there is a bump and its really hard and hurts when I poke it and the rest of my knee hurts when i run and stuff. So i was wondering do you know what that may be? Thanks (link)
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hey there,in my opinion, you should definitely consult a doctor immediately to give you the right medical diagnosis. Don't worry, it might not be anything serious, but at the same time, it might, so to be on the safe side, you should consult a doctor.
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okay, so this guy & i were i guess "hooking up" for awhile. & me, being dumb & all, got attached. i'm not sure i REALLY have feelings for this guy, but i do like him, yanno? the thing is, i know he doesn't like me, he just wants to keep playing the hook-up game, & i don't play that. i'm really not sure what to do. this guy is really not that great at all, & he tried to fucking get with one of my bestfriends, i mean, how does that? anyways, i don't want to be attached to this guy, but i am. what do i do?
oh yeah & i'm fifteen, if that helps. (link)
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Well if you do know yourself how much of an asshole he is and how he even tried to fucking get with one of your best friends like you say and how he's just playing around with you and like i'm gonna say, exactly treating you like his bitch, no offense ofcourse, but that's how it sounds like and how it seems like and i'm sure what his guy friends say about you or even anyone who sees you and him or hears about you.
Its obvious how he doesn't like you at all and how he doesn't care the least bit and how he's not interested and how he's not anywhere near stooping for any sort of commitment. Just a typical guy you meet everywhere, that immature type whose still young and silly, he thinks he's cool and popular and can get chicks and hook up and stay up late and do all this shit, so don't expect him to be serious about anything he does.
So why don't you do the right thing that he so young and immature fails to do, why don't you grow up and think this out to see how dumb and a waste of time it is, and how he is definitely someone who does not deserve all the attention, thought, care or most of all the love that your feeding him.
Why don't you go out more and meet more new people, make more friends and hang out with them more to get your mind off of all this shit, and maybe take up a sport or something educational or some summer job or i don't know, what else?
This is gonna help you to get your mind of him and for you to meet more people, so maybe you would meet another guy, one who would love you for real with care and respect.
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im freaking out because me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday. it was my first time
but it wasnt like normal sex. cause his pants were still on but his zipper was unzipped so his dick was out. my whole is pretty tight so his dick was barely in me but it still hurt cuase it was my first time. but he didnt use a condom and my cherry didnt pop. and his dick was in me about 3 times which all together was maybe 5 minutes? and i know he didnt cum and he says he didnt either. but im scared that i could be pregant. i havent slept at all and ive been googling like everything and i know about precum and stufff. and the morning after pill. but im 15 and i cant get it. and there is nooo way i can tell my mom. she would like kill me
i really dont think i am but i dont want to take any chances. what can i do.
and does anyone think i am pregnant? (link)
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First of all, you must necessarily were protection seeing that your still only 15 years old, and its really none of my business how old you are or if you plan to do anything again, but here is my piece of advice, wear protection next time and everytime.
Second of all, it doesn't need a genius to state the fact that there is a small percentage of chance that you may get pregnant.
Third of all, do not tell your mom anything at all right now, to avoid major trouble and problems when your not even sure at all that your pregnant.
Fourth of all, and to be definitely on the safe side and to be asured with a 100% true and positive answer, consult a doctor, ofcourse you could also use pregnancy tests and stuff, you can buy those from any pharmacy, but it's been said that they are not 100% right nor positive.
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i want to impress a girl studying in my class i luv her....so what should i do to express my feelings infront of her so that she accepts me and we should have a good relationship....but i feel scared that if she rejects me then....
i luv her so much i could do anything for her ....
*i hve ask many questions on this website but
never got an answer...plz help me this time.
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You know what you should do? And you know what always works? Is for you to simply be yourself, to act normally, and not put on a fake act where you pretend to be cool or smart or just anything which you aren't, no offense ofcourse, i don't mean anything about you. But my point here, is for you to just be yourself, and come up to her and start a normal conversation about just anything that could come to your mind right then, even if it was the silliest conversation. If she's interested, she'll respond, but if she doesn't, then she's just simply NOT interested, therefore, do not force yourself on her or fake acts or impress her by doing something or being someone which you really aren't.
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hey, well it seems that im in love with 2 guyz(X,Y) at a time..damn dunno wot 2 do!!
(X) is 22, funny, loving, we have a lot in common, wot we have is very special, we started u can say asfriends then he said he loved me n i told him that i loved him, he's serious bout commitment but he works as IT once a week so he doesnt have a good job u know but he's from a rich family, he's open minded...
(Y)is 21, very successful, romantic, he just finished college, he's an ideal student, we have a lot in common,martial artist,u knw he's got da whole package, he walked into my life after(X), couldnt resist him, he's also serious bout gettin married 2 me, but he doesn make me laugh like(X), he's serious yet passionate, strong, loves me,he's a man one can rely on,he's jealous but trusts me, sometimes i run outta words with him unlike (X) with whome can never get enough, never stop talkin but maybe coz ma shy nature
im really confused, torn apart,can't give up on any of them..
(X)knows dat(Y)is just a close friend but (Y) doesnt know dat(X) even exists
da problem is if any of them finds out about the other i mean me lovin both it's gonna be da end of it, im gonna lose them both..
so is it considered betrayal? am i unfaithful? am i a bitch? what should i do? it's out of ma hands!!
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Betrayal? Ya definitely.
A bitch? That's only if your makin each one of them understand that you love him and he's the one and you'll spend the rest of your life with him.
Unfaithful? That's if in your own mind, there is actually only one of them that you see yourself with and do really love and do know that he really IS the one and you will marry HIM and not the other, so that's you being unfaithful then to that other one.
And this whole thing being out of your hands, that's one hell of a lie or maybe an excuse to try and deny that its your fault that your involved in such a problem now.
Here is the thing, no matter how your feelings are so strong and similar, or no matter how many excuses or reasons you can come up with, there is no possible way that a human being can be inlove with two people at the same time. So either one of those feelings is not real love or its that both feelings are just simply false.
Sometimes, its the excitement we become overwhelmed with or words of compliment or admiration to the being infront of us, or impressed by the fact that the more you know this person the more of an adventure it becomes, and one hell of an adventure it always is. But when you stop, stop right there, stop for a second, and put all this shit at the back of your head to give yourself a moment to really think about what's going on, like think of the future, which one is more logical and reasonable and better to spend the rest of your life with, to really love and cherish, respect and be there for him, and marry him and make love to him and have kids and build a family with him, a whole entire new life,and this has nothing to do with who would be rich or whose still looking for a job to earn his living or who you'll have to stoop down to lend him money, it really has nothing to do with all that. It's love that matters, the feeling, the emotions, the character, the personality, even appearances are definitely out of the picture.
So here is what you should do, and oddly, it may strike you funny, what you should do is something that you should figure out on your own, cause right here, we are talking about love, about emotions,about your future and its you and no one else who should decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and not even your parents should make that decision for you, and when you make the decision, you get to deal with the consequences of that decision.
So decide who it is, and when you do, make a confession to the one you don't really love and be honest with him, come forward with the truth,tell him that this is what you want, and how you feel and how that all what was between you was amazing and special, but you just never saw that it could actually go somewhere, so this is where it ends and where you must stop. Its a feeling , you just can't help it, you can't change it, and you can't fake it, and if he suggests sticking as friends only, i'm advising you from now to not do this, cause then you'll both be kidding yourselves and how ackward and confusing it'll be.
On the other hand, make a confession to the other guy that you love him, real love, and that he's definitely all you've ever wanted and that your ready to spend the rest of your life with him and him only.
I really hope i was of help, and if there is anything else i can advise you with, please let me know :)
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Im 19 years old and still a virgin and kinda want to stay like that but then again dont want to cause i want to enjoy my life What you think i sholud do ?` (link)
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Losing your virginity is not the only mean of enjoying your life, you can enjoy it in any other way while still being a virgin, and losing it is not something that you plan or intentionally do to intentionally enjoy your life, it just happens, and you feel that your ready to do it, and its usually with the person you would really love and trust, and you'll do it then cause you'll really want to that it wouldn't matter to you that you wanna stay as a virgin, and your going to enjoy it alright.
So live your life and enjoy it, no one is stopping you, and when its time for you to lose your virginity, you'll know and you'll do it and its gonna be okay. But don't think about it or plan it or let it bother you at all, that's not something to be planned there.
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OK WELL HERE'S THE PROBLEM. EVERYTIME I CLOSE MY EYES AND TRY TO GO TO SLEEP. YOU KNOW? WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO MAKE YOURSELF GO TO SLEEP. WELL WHEN I DO THAT. MY BODY JUST FEELS LIKE IT SHUTS DOWN ON ME. IT MAKES IT FEEL LIKE I CAN'T MOVE OR EVEN BREATHE. THEN IT'S COMPLETELY DARK. [EVEN WHEN I KNOW thee LIGHTS ARE ON IN MY ROOM] && WHEN I FinaLLY ABLE TO OPEN My EYES. I'M SWEATING.
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I think that here we are in no state to diagnose you, so the best solution is definitely to consult a doctor. It may not be anything serious at all, but to be on the safe side, you should consult a doctor.
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