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can a girl be actually in love with 2 guys at a time?!!!
hey, well it seems that im in love with 2 guyz(X,Y) at a time..damn dunno wot 2 do!!
(X) is 22, funny, loving, we have a lot in common, wot we have is very special, we started u can say asfriends then he said he loved me n i told him that i loved him, he's serious bout commitment but he works as IT once a week so he doesnt have a good job u know but he's from a rich family, he's open minded...
(Y)is 21, very successful, romantic, he just finished college, he's an ideal student, we have a lot in common,martial artist,u knw he's got da whole package, he walked into my life after(X), couldnt resist him, he's also serious bout gettin married 2 me, but he doesn make me laugh like(X), he's serious yet passionate, strong, loves me,he's a man one can rely on,he's jealous but trusts me, sometimes i run outta words with him unlike (X) with whome can never get enough, never stop talkin but maybe coz ma shy nature
im really confused, torn apart,can't give up on any of them..
(X)knows dat(Y)is just a close friend but (Y) doesnt know dat(X) even exists
da problem is if any of them finds out about the other i mean me lovin both it's gonna be da end of it, im gonna lose them both..
so is it considered betrayal? am i unfaithful? am i a bitch? what should i do? it's out of ma hands!!
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Betrayal? Ya definitely.
A bitch? That's only if your makin each one of them understand that you love him and he's the one and you'll spend the rest of your life with him.
Unfaithful? That's if in your own mind, there is actually only one of them that you see yourself with and do really love and do know that he really IS the one and you will marry HIM and not the other, so that's you being unfaithful then to that other one.
And this whole thing being out of your hands, that's one hell of a lie or maybe an excuse to try and deny that its your fault that your involved in such a problem now.
Here is the thing, no matter how your feelings are so strong and similar, or no matter how many excuses or reasons you can come up with, there is no possible way that a human being can be inlove with two people at the same time. So either one of those feelings is not real love or its that both feelings are just simply false.
Sometimes, its the excitement we become overwhelmed with or words of compliment or admiration to the being infront of us, or impressed by the fact that the more you know this person the more of an adventure it becomes, and one hell of an adventure it always is. But when you stop, stop right there, stop for a second, and put all this shit at the back of your head to give yourself a moment to really think about what's going on, like think of the future, which one is more logical and reasonable and better to spend the rest of your life with, to really love and cherish, respect and be there for him, and marry him and make love to him and have kids and build a family with him, a whole entire new life,and this has nothing to do with who would be rich or whose still looking for a job to earn his living or who you'll have to stoop down to lend him money, it really has nothing to do with all that. It's love that matters, the feeling, the emotions, the character, the personality, even appearances are definitely out of the picture.
So here is what you should do, and oddly, it may strike you funny, what you should do is something that you should figure out on your own, cause right here, we are talking about love, about emotions,about your future and its you and no one else who should decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and not even your parents should make that decision for you, and when you make the decision, you get to deal with the consequences of that decision.
So decide who it is, and when you do, make a confession to the one you don't really love and be honest with him, come forward with the truth,tell him that this is what you want, and how you feel and how that all what was between you was amazing and special, but you just never saw that it could actually go somewhere, so this is where it ends and where you must stop. Its a feeling , you just can't help it, you can't change it, and you can't fake it, and if he suggests sticking as friends only, i'm advising you from now to not do this, cause then you'll both be kidding yourselves and how ackward and confusing it'll be.
On the other hand, make a confession to the other guy that you love him, real love, and that he's definitely all you've ever wanted and that your ready to spend the rest of your life with him and him only.
I really hope i was of help, and if there is anything else i can advise you with, please let me know :)
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