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this was shocking
well today this boy told me he was in love with me...he said he fell in love with me as soon as he saw me...that was so shocking idk what to do and i dont know how to face him at school monday knowing this...i dont like him like that and he knows i just think he doesnt get it...what do i do im only 14 and i never been in this situation...i mean he's a great guy he's smart and he knows how to treat me...but idk...please help me!!!
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He sounds like a good guy. Follow your heart! Do you love him? Also consider that this might have been a dare.
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Just let him know you aren't looking for a relationship at the moment. That you find the two of you better off being friends.
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hey,listen, its totally cool,its nothing to shock you or make you panic. When you go to school on monday, and he comes up to you, just go like ' we need to talk' and sometimes, this is usually enough to give him a hint, but if he still doesn't get it, talk with him. YOu should go like, that you do like him and he's a very nice person and he's sweet and smart blah blah blah, but you just do not like him that way and it would be unfair for him and for youself, and it would be better for him to love someone else who deserves this love and would love him back...etc,this is what is usually said, and then ofcourse, he'll go like, 'okay i get it , i understand' and then he's gonna like look hurt and he might not talk to you again, but please don't go like, no, i don't wanna lose him, i want him as a friend, well then deal with it, you can't really have everything, cause if you like still have him as a friend, while you know that he has all those feelings for you, then you would be really unfair and mean to him, and it would be your fault and the blame is on you if later he comes again and he's like, i still love you and i wanna be with you and you treat me good, cause he doesn't understand that your angelic treatment is only as a friend.so just like, tell him the things i said and if he gets upset, you can go like, i'm sorry, i didn't wanna upset you, but i can't do anything about it, and thankyou for your feelings and how you feel about me, you really touched me, but i just don't wanna hurt you, and i'm not the one who deserves this love. and then just leave him, either he'll never talk to you again, and usually because he's like embarassed or humiliated because of all he had been through to confess how he feels about you and this is usually very very hard and embarassing and then you just let him down.So yes he may not talk to you ever again, but you'll see that he will move on and find someone else, or he might be mature and diplomatic, and he would say hi and hello every once and a while, and put any differences behind him, and at that point, you should act exactly the same way back, and do not like
go and make conversations and try to win him as a friend, don't do that, just be diplomatic too.
That's it, it may sound complicated, i guess its easy with words than actions, but you'll get through it, i promise you that , and everything is gonna be alright.
If you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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