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I've recently assumed the duties of a treasurer for a career-related organization. Recently, I received a spoofed email allegedly coming from our organization's president asking me to send money to a vendor. It turns out that this was fraudulent, and unfortunately I transferred the money to a potential scammer. I don't know if I can recover the money or not; there is a strong possibility that I may be unable to do so. The organization is aware of this, and so far, they seem to be okay with it. However, as a result, I believe that my credibility and judgment with this organization are ruined permanently, and I think it would be best to submit my resignation from the treasurer position of this organization. Please let me know what some options are and if resigning is the best course of action that I should take. (link)
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If you do not trust this organization, don't stay.
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My 63 year old dad was recently diagnosed with early on-set Alzheimer’s. My family dynamic is not exactly easy to mobilize to help with the long haul we’re in for. I don’t live in the same state & my sister (who does) hasn’t been much help (outside of directions ive tried to put in place from time-time).
Making matters worse is my dads 20 year girlfriend. They own a house together and are technically in a legal “domestic partnership”). She has never been very supportive in any matter, let alone something like this. She still works and travels almost half the month for business leaving him at home for 2-3 days at a clip. All the while interacting with every man on social media when out of town. If you saw her FB, you wouldn’t even know he she is with anyone. No pictures of them. No check-ins, likes. They’re barely friends.
They have never really been too in love...more like convenient partners after each of their first divorces. We’ve begged him to leave her several times (prior to the his health concerns) to no avail. Even when we see the frustration & depression sinking in through the years. He does not want to be alone (which i fully understand).
My sister has always said they’d take care of him, have him live with them if ever needed but he has always been a stubborn one & would never agree.
Neither my sister or my dad’s gf have helped with the doctors, appointments, paperwork...
My father is getting worse. Is on medication (when he remembers to take it) and conversations are slowly becoming harder and harder with everyone.
I don’t know what to do.
I feel like I’m the only one that can diffuse the situation & lead things on the right path. It’s pretty impossible for me to move back home & every time i start the ball rolling with everyone, it always gets dropped and nothing progresses. It pretty much digresses every time and i have to start all over. My dad has alienated his friends and family over the years. Mostly because of the girlfriend. She always finds a way to piss them off one-by-one until they eventually stopped coming around completely.
He is on disability (gets something each month to live), has an ok (not exceptional) amount of money in savings, retirement plans that he can use (but hasn’t drawn from).
The main problem is the girlfriend. If we forced her out, it would lead a path for destruction. First, my father would be devastated if she ever left. They own a house together. Believes that he is and has always been in love with her. I’ve tried talking to the girlfriend, leveling with her, but she plays doe-eyed deer every time. Promising to help & take the lead, but never does. I’ve asked if nothing else if she could make sure medication is being taken & i still have no confirmation ever. She wouldn’t even take a morning off of work to drive him to a doctors appt & is completely manipulative. To her and pretty much everyone.
By not helping at all, she’s endangering my father every day. I’m trying to stay positive as much as possible, but the appearance is that she’s content with things this way. Uses it to her advantage some times, manipulating him by claiming she said or done things that i know 100% are inaccurate. She’s always been like this. And now it’s frightening to think she could be using it to her advantage every waking minute of the day because he won’t be remember most of it anyhow.
Should i be taking any preliminary legal actions at the moment (he refuses to sign a will by the way) in order to prepare for a fall-out with the girlfriend?
Should i hire a private detective to watch the girlfriend in case there is a domestic partnership battle over anything?
Has anyone had an experience like this with a difficult loved one & a manipulative spouse/partner?
Any advice at all would be sincerely appreciated! Thank you. (link)
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Have faith in your family. If you want to, pray. Just do what you can to help. And if it makes you feel better you can hire a private detective. I know what your going through if you need to talk you can always message me. Don't give up.
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This is probably jumbled and random. I'm a little upset, so I apologize. Thank you in advance.
When I was little, my maternal grandmother lived with us a lot. I had a very close relationship with her, as I do with my mother. Her whole life she's had a hard time with personal relationships, and she's moved around and met different men, none of which have been pleasant. Right now she lives with an old man with a farm, and he's a little off his rocker, and doesn't like to go out or be around people, and besides getting anxious sometimes, he isn't that bad of a guy. However, they have this idea that they just cannot leave the farm unless they need something because they might get sick, and of course, they can't afford that. I haven't seen my grandmother in around a year, even though she lives about half an hour away. My step dad and 8 year old brother saw them from across the street at a gas station. They all made eye contact, but couldn't even be bothered to wave. Just last year, when I was still in highschool I had a lead roll in our winter musical, and we were doing South Pacific. It's my grandmother's favorite, and she promised she'd come see. It was the only thing that kept me from dropping out. She didn't come. Graduation rolled around, and I sent out invitations. She sent me a letter saying that she and her boyfriend or whatever he is would "be there in spirit." I cried both times. I know she's never had the best mental health, but it makes me angry. I want to write her a letter, but I don't even know what to say to her. My mother hasn't really ever had the best relationship with her, and it's at it's worst right now. They haven't spoken in months. Grandma sends occasional cards. She doesnt know what my siblings are up to, she doesn't know I moved out, or that I'm seeing someone. I'm so hurt by her lack of action, but I miss her. I know where they live, and I want to go see her, but I don't know if that would be the right course of action. I'm upset right now, so this whole thing is probably very jumbled. I also don't know if I should take how my mom would feel if I went to see her into consideration. I'm 18 and it's not really any of her business, but I love my mother very much. Also, I don't see or talk to my family much, despite living 8 blocks away, and I don't want another confrontation about it..
I want to see my grandmother again. What should I do??? (link)
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If it makes you happy, you should see her. Bring your mother if you think you should or if it makes you comfortable. Your grandmother is still the same person. Follow your heart!
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in 2013 Adult Swim added Rick and Morty a sci fi cartoon that people are calling the smartest tv show and mostly when you type something in that show constantly gets suggested and most of it's fan pay too much attention to it saying you need to have high iqs to understand the jokes but i think that is ridiculous so how can you ignore Rick and Morty i just don't like seeing those characters everywhere i look. (link)
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Take your mind off of it. If that doesn't work you could block it.
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How do I get a guy to like me enough to ask me out? (link)
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Be yourself
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My so called best friend.. I cannot stand right now. Her attitude towards me has been real shitty. She blew up on me because I didn't want to be a stalker and take a picture of her crush. She kept digging her fingernails into my arm that whole day and it was pissing me off. She has a few disorders and whatnot, i never put that against her. But she says she never takes her meds. I honestly don't know. She says a lot and acts really weird and seems to do it for attention.. Just to make herself look even weirder, if that makes any sense. Now she's acting strange and keeps clinging onto me, I don't know why it's upsetting me. She dug her fingernails into my arm and started to bend my arm [it hurt] .. mumbling stupid things like "I want to kill something" and.. she keeps pulling on me and twisting me around. Why would this be pissing me off? I don't understand myself. We are alike in so many ways but now, I want to slap her. She's been giving me attitude and it pisses me off. "What the hells wrong with you!?" when I didn't take a picture of the guy and she threw something at me.. and kinda put me in a choke hold. [Something she always seems to do]
Today she said in a snotty voice. "Why didn't you take a picture? Did your camera have low battery? Why? You didn't want to..? *YOU HAVE NO GOOD EXCUSE DO YOU?*" that part made me angry. I was so happy that she had to leave next period because we are in the same class..
I don't know what to do.. or what to say. She always wins. I don't know why I'm suddenly feeling like this either. (link)
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Don't be friends with her if she is going to hurt you. She should just take a picture of him if she wants it so bad.
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I'm a 32-year-old female who has been having an affair during the last year with my 59-year-old married boss. I am madly in love with him and divorced my husband eight months ago to marry him.
He promised to divorce his wife, but so far there is no sign of divorce. I'm beginning to think I'm a big fool. What do you think? (link)
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Look into it. Maybe confront his wife about it. Or him.
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Well this problem was solved for about 6 weeks. Now I have found the same teeth marks on my boyfriend's armS. He told her to stop before and she did. But now she's all over him again [she's single again], like surprise attacks so my boyfriend can't say no quickly. She wrote on his binder and hand.. "I (link)
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Confront her about it. If it gets serious your bf can file a restraining order because of harassment.
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From a guy's perspective, what would you want for your 1 year anniversary? Nothing sexual. My boyfriend is going to buy me a $200-$300 necklace. I'm afraid I won't be able to measure up with gifts. I was thinking of making a scrapbook but we don't have much pictures together, so i wouldn't know how to fill up the pages. i would only have about 5 weeks to put it together. is there anything else i could make or buy? i've made him a scarf and a stuffed animal bear by hand before. I was thinking of scrapbook and a striped scarf. But, what else? And guys, would you actually want those two things ? =/ I need some other ideas.. something.. meaningful, you know? No cologne or watch things.. He's not that type of guy. So I'm kinda at a loss with ideas. He's into hip hop and MMA. (link)
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Get him something that will remind him of you.
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Ok....so there's this boy that goes to my school he really likes me and I like him too...today we shared our first hug together and it was amazing...lol...but anyway he keeps asking me for my number but everytime I want to I just can't do it...I would say I'm kinda a shy person...but I really like him....what can I do....how can I give him my number without being so shy??? Please help me.
Thanx in advance!!! (link)
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Next time he asks say maybe later and give it through a friend.
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ok so there's this boy i like and he like me too and he wants my number...i want to give it to him but i don't know what to talk about...I'm afraid I'm going to be too scared to talk to him and I'm gonna hang up in his face...we barely talk at school we just hug most of the time we see eachother in the hallway cus i only have 1st and 2nd period with him...what are some topics we can talk about??? please help!!!...thanx in advance (link)
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1. School
2. Family
3. Each other
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well today this boy told me he was in love with me...he said he fell in love with me as soon as he saw me...that was so shocking idk what to do and i dont know how to face him at school monday knowing this...i dont like him like that and he knows i just think he doesnt get it...what do i do im only 14 and i never been in this situation...i mean he's a great guy he's smart and he knows how to treat me...but idk...please help me!!! (link)
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He sounds like a good guy. Follow your heart! Do you love him? Also consider that this might have been a dare.
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Well I'm supposed to be moving in February and I told my friends and they been sad and crying and I cant take the sadness I dont want to leave but I have no choice...what can I do what do I say...I need help badly...they made me cry I really love my friends...ughhhh I dont know what to do...please someone help me (link)
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Keep in touch with them. Just remember that you will make new friends and so will they.
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Ummm I'm 15 f and I have a bf and he wants to know when I'm going to kiss him and I told him he has to earn it first...I dont know why I told him that I guess its because I'm shy and I didnt know what else to say at the time but now he wants to know how can he earn it and to tell the truth I'm kinda nervous because if we do kiss it will be my first kiss but what do I tell him??? And where do I kiss him??? and how do I kiss him??? sorry if some of these questions sound dumb but I need to know. (link)
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Kiss him on the cheek if he does any of the following:
1. Gets you a gift
2. Kisses you on the cheek
3. Is crying
4. Is leaving for a while
5. Finds out anything
Kiss him on the lips if he does any of the following:
1. Fights for you
2. Stands up for you
3. Says "I love you"
4. Kisses you on the lips
5. Chooses you over his friends
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Well i broke up with my exboyfriend about 2 weeks ago because there were rumors that he was playing me which i kno y people thought he was playin me but he wasnt i figured that story out but it made me get more aware and my eyes became more open well i broke up with him because another girl messaged me and told me he was goin out with her too but he says he wasnt and that the girl was just obsessed with him i really dont know who or what to believe i miss him and he tells me he misses me but i dont know what i should do i really need help im soo confused what do you think i should do? what would you do in this situation? (link)
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Look into it. Get back together with him then find out if she is telling the truth. If she is dump him.
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I’m a young professional (25) working in an office where we have a few high school co-op students. One of them has been very stressed out and upset for days, and another told me it was because he broke up with his girlfriend, and then she had told him that she was 2 weeks pregnant, with twins, a boy and girl.
Problem is this: I know the ex-girlfriend is lying. Multiple births can hardly ever be confirmed before 6 weeks, and I live in a place where it’s illegal for a practitioner to tell you the gender before 20 weeks. It seems amazingly unlikely that she is telling the truth.
So his spiteful ex has lied to him. This is way more obvious to me then it is to him and his friends, though I imagine they suspect it. On one hand, I feel like its wrong for me to say anything since I know this will work out okay in the end and on the other hand I really don’t want to see anyone continue to suffer because of this girl’s stupid ploy. Despite being 'the boss' I'd also consider myself these people's friend... Do I bring it up with him? Or let it solve itself? (link)
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Tell him.
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So, this is a long one.
I had a guy track me down on Facebook and send me a long message about how I tortured and bullied him in school.
But most of what he said I don't remember, and a lot it couldn’t have happened. I had a rather severe anxiety disorder throughout my early teens, a few years are just emotional blurs to me, but some of things he claimed I did - like speak up in class to embarrass him, or make up a nasty song about him - it’s really near impossible for me to have done. I didn’t speak in class. I started to cry or throw up when I had to make presentations. I wouldn’t speak aloud to people who weren’t my friends. I stayed inside at recess and shelved books in the library... What I DO remember is coming home violently crying because of what this boy had a habit of taking things from me and flushing them down the toilet - to the point that my mother called the school, and had my desk moved away from his.
In high school we never had a single class together and were in different academic streams. But in grade 11, he tried to make himself useful to the drama club, the rest of the stage crew holding a meeting on how to politely kick him for his incompetence and arrogance. I defended him. Sure, he’s was a bit of an ass, but he was obviously trying to be useful; we should try and create tasks for him. But the senior stage manager decided to ask him to leave. I wasn't there, and we never spoke of it.
I haven’t responded to him. I didn’t know what to say. Maybe he is confusing me with someone else as well. It doesn’t seem worth it to argue with him and tell him he has a whole bunch of it dead wrong. Maybe I should message him and say like "I’m sorry you had a tough..." What do you think? (link)
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"I'm sorry you had a tough childhood but I didn't do the things that you are accusing me of." Then explain how you couldn't of done this.
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18/F I'm a greeter at Wal-Mart, so I interact with a loooot of different people on a daily basis. Well this one time later at night, this guy who looked to be about 30 and frankly, like a wannabe gangster pot-smoker, came in. I turned around when I heard the automatic door opening and kindly greeted him. He gave me a slight smile and walked past me, but he turned around and said, "You know, you have REALLY pretty eyes. Just thought I'd tell you that." Stunned, I said "Haha, thank you very much! Have a good night." and he walked away. He comes in about 2 or 3 times a week, and ever since he said that, I'd always smile at him when I walked past him, or greet him all friendly-like when he walked in. I just thought he was a nice guy, and I greeted him just like I greet the old people that come in. WELL, tonight I was returning some garlic bread back to where it belongs, when I saw him. So I smile and give a nod as I walk past. Well, I put the bread back, turn around and there he is. He says "Hey, do you have a number I could have so we could get to know each other?" I've never been asked for my number before, and he was so outright, I didn't know what to do. So I said, "Uuuummm... I don't know... How about YOU give me YOUR number?" So he asked if I had a pen and some paper, I said I didn't, but that we might have some up front. I start walking, and he follows me across the whole store to the front. I give him some paper, he rips it in half, writes his number down, and says "Give me your number too." I panicked. I've never dated anyone, let alone been asked out before. He seemed like the type that would call me a ton. SO, I wrote down my dad's old cell phone number which doesn't work anymore. He then asked me if I liked cage fighting. I said "Uh no, not really." and he goes "Well I'm fighting at the arena downtown next week, maybe you can watch one of my fights." and I said "Um, maybe!" then he asked what time I got out of work, to which I said I didn't know. I DEFINITELY didn't want him seeing the car I drive, or possibly have him following me home. He lives in the area, and comes in all the time, and what's worse is I'm a GREETER, so I'd HAVE to talk to him again. I thought about it, and I feel really bad... I probably shouldn't have done that, but I didn't know what else to do! I couldn't just flat out reject him, I see him all the time. After thinking about it, I feel terrible. So I tried to call the number so I could say something like, "Oh sorry, I accidentally gave you the wrong number! Things are complicated, and I'm really not looking for a relationship right now..." or something like that, but his writing's REALLY messy, I can hardly read the numbers they're so squished together, and when I attempted, I got some lady's voice mail. I really wasn't trying to be mean at all. I don't know what to do, or if what I did is right or not... Please help me! Thank you for your time. (link)
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Talk to him again and give him the right number, then say you lost his and ask for it again.
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I'm a 13 year old nerd girl, and I need to know how to get a nerd boy to like me, or at least how to tell them I like them. (link)
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Just tell him.
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I'm a middle school girl, and I "suffer" from severe anorexia. I personally don't believe that it is an incredibly big deal, however there is one other problem. I can't lose weight. No matter what I do, nothing happens.Everyday, I record my weight, width of my waist, and what I ate that day. At the very most, I eat 750 calories a day. I do a hundred-cal workout however many times is necassary to work off the calories, plus 400 crunches. I eat organic cereal with milk for breakfast, resulting in 260 calories. For lunch, I have a 50 calorie container of applesauce, if anything. Then for supper I eat the smallest portion of whatever my mom cooks that I can get away with. Finally, I workout, doing the hundred-cal 3 times for lunch and breakfast, plus another 5 times for supper (I just estimate 500cal for supper cause I don't know how much it really is).
Despite all of this, I still don't lose weight. I fluctuate from 108.5Lb to 106, and from a 26.5in waist to 29. Im so tired of doing all of this, but I have to until I'm skinny. Anyone have an explanation? (Or at least some sort of appetite suppressant ideas)
If it helps, I'm a 5'2 female and 13 years old. (link)
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Most 13 yr old girls weigh around 100 to 150 pounds, so you don't really need to lose any weight. In fact it would actually be unhealthy. I have mild anorexia and tried many methods to lose fat even though I was at the point of my ribs showing.
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