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How do I get a guy to like me enough to ask me out?
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Why don't you just ask him out? Why are you waiting for some guy to confirm whether or not you're good enough? You are who you are, you be yourself, you ask him out and if he says no then you go OKAY NO WORRIES, ON TO THE NEXT ONE.
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Lets turn the question around because it can do wonders to give you a better perspective on what you just asked.
Lets say there is a guy, not the one you are crushing on but some quiet, nerdy, not even handsome to you guy who wants to know what he can do to get you to like him enough that you will ask him out?
Of course, if you already liked a guy, it would only be a matter of being brave enough to ask him, right?
What if the guy didn't interest you? Close your eyes and play the scene in your mind. There's the guy who you don't like or maybe even creeps you out. Unknown to you, He's had a crush on you for a while. Now try to picture him saying certain things or doing things that will make you like him enough to ask him out. What is he doing? Is he giving you gifts? Would a gift, no matter how small, be something that makes you fall for him and no longer be bored or disgusted with him but automatically have romantic feelings for or just liking him and wanting to ask him out? Would there be anything he can say? If a guy paid you a compliment or does it a lot, would that be enough to make you choose to see him in a different light? If you are truly honest with yourself, no matter how nice a guy is or even if he is pretty good looking, if you just aren't feeling the vibes, there is nothing that can make you feel them. Theres a reason for that. We all have something called pheromones and this is the one thing all mammals have and humans are mammals meaning having babies fed by milk. That's how animals attract mates. It works for humans the same except that you won't be attracted to just any old guy or any guy attracted to ALL women. The reason is the degree to which your pheromones match those of the other guy. I am telling you this now because this is a scientific fact that will mess you up in dating your entire life at any age if you don't learn to shrug off the ones you liked but had no connection and keep searching til you find one who does. Ever wonder why so many teens aren't dating long term? Its over in weeks, a month, maybe 6 months but it doesn't last because no one is choosing their BF GF with this in mind.
You also need to know that quite often, one person will feel attraction but the other doesn't. The one feeling attraction is feeling that only on some levels but not the pheromone or chemistry one as I also call it. You can have things in common, be attracted to their looks or characteristics/personality with the only thing missing, that pheremone connection. And that makes all the difference. I will tell you as an older female who's experienced this myself, if kissed by someone I liked everything else about, without the pheromone connection, the kiss was gross and disgusting like being kissed romantically by your Dad or a creep. It just won't be there. But if you have a strong enough connection, you will feel a spark and tingles and good feelings all over and want more, not want to end it.
With everything I've tried to teach you here, is there a way that anyone can actually answer that question of yours dear? I hope you see that there is no way to force this.
All you can do is be yourself. Please don't pretend to be what you think he likes because there are couples where the one fell for the fake person and later when they weren't thinking and reverted back to their own personality, the person they thought they caught, then leaves them because they are not what they first portrayed themselves to be. So just be you. It may not be enough to grab the interest of fickle immature HS boys but give males a few years and they will begin to have their own favorites of what they are attracted to in women and we're not talking media portrayals of model types but just regular females, realistic females. As males grow older, they being to learn what they like and they will stick with that unless they are a player and any gal will do.
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