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Meddling or helpful?
I’m a young professional (25) working in an office where we have a few high school co-op students. One of them has been very stressed out and upset for days, and another told me it was because he broke up with his girlfriend, and then she had told him that she was 2 weeks pregnant, with twins, a boy and girl.
Problem is this: I know the ex-girlfriend is lying. Multiple births can hardly ever be confirmed before 6 weeks, and I live in a place where it’s illegal for a practitioner to tell you the gender before 20 weeks. It seems amazingly unlikely that she is telling the truth.
So his spiteful ex has lied to him. This is way more obvious to me then it is to him and his friends, though I imagine they suspect it. On one hand, I feel like its wrong for me to say anything since I know this will work out okay in the end and on the other hand I really don’t want to see anyone continue to suffer because of this girl’s stupid ploy. Despite being 'the boss' I'd also consider myself these people's friend... Do I bring it up with him? Or let it solve itself?
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Tell him.
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I'd tell him. Tell him so he can stop stressing out.
Just take him aside, don't say anything in front of others. Tell him you have noticed he is stressed, ask if there is anything you can do to help. Give him the chance to say something to you. If he doesn't then you might say you have heard rumors about the pregnant ex. Then tell him like it is.
You might also go the extra yard and tell him how to avoid this kind of thing in he future. Personally, I think trusting your future to another
at such a young age is way to risky. No matter how much you may love them. Stress protection if not abstinence.
At the very least talk to his friend so he/she can pass it on.
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Dear writer,
I'd let it solve itself, that's only if it does though. Girls are crafty, and of course in time the truth shall be revealed, but she could continue to come up with things just take keep him stressed. So, I say, if this works itself out fine, but if you see this turning into a disaster, say something. Just think if it were you, what would you want a friend to do??? Hope that helped :)
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I understand where you are coming from. It's a tough situation. But I would suggest that you let it solve itself. I know that you consider yourself to be their friend, but even close friends have to step back during these times. If you get involved, then the girl might come and make a big scene, and then your involved. Just let it solve itself!
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