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Boys liking me,
Ok so this is going to sound weird, but it was an expirament.. I made a fake myspace with a drop dead gorgous girl. I added kids in my town and made up some story about me possibly moving there. Well I did this to see what guys want in girls. Well, I act the EXACT same way to them. Like I talk the same way and everything. No denying this girl in muchh more beautiful, by the way. Yet the boys I can't even get to talk to me, are like obsessed with "Jen" who's really me.. So in a way they really like me, just do not know it.
My question here is, why do boys base it all on looks? Honestly, if I looked like her I would no doubt have a boyfriend and be happier with life. Yet I'm the same way both peopleee. Uggggh, I don't know what to like think. I want to so badly leave my town so I can get a fresh start, cause now I know all guys care about is looks.
Is that true? Is that all guys want. A girl with looks?
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In my opinion, No! Looks are NOT all what guys want. No doubt that guys prefer looks over personality sometimes, so just think about this for a second. Would you rather want a guy who wants looks over personality? Or a guy who accepts you for your personality and possibly attractiveness?? Honestly it all depends on the guy's mentality. Most but not ALL guys want a girl who looks TOO perfect at first. But once they get a taste of all those conceited girls who can't keep a relationship, they give girls with much personality a try. Value yourself girl, you probably have such an awesome personality but they are too immature to realize that... Once you're 16, 17, etc, you will probably see experiences that change your points of view, and guys as well. Just be patient, keep being the best person you can be, and your prince charming will see you shining at your worst moment ;)
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That's not all they want.
But remember, this was an experiment on myspace which is totally a superficial gig.
The reason they are obsessed is because something caught there eye right away. (This fake picture) But the more they talk to her, the more they like the personality, so she has more substance.
My advice? Not to look for dudes on myspace. IT's a meat market anyway. You already know you have the personality to make them dig you, so go look for them in real life. (Go to places that you like, record stores, book stores, clubs, etc and wow them with yourself.) Then you both now what you're getting into
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NO thats not what all guys want, and not all boys base it all on looks, only immature childish ones do so, those who just want sex and fun and adventure and are not looking for a real relationship and love and commitment, to them that's bullshit, they just want someone with good looks to make the sex more enjoyable.
But there are others, decent others, where to them looks are the last thing they consider, its about the personality and who you are and they become attracted to you and not to how you look.
And i know that there are too many of those boys who only want the looks, but just as many there are a few decent others, and if you stop focusing on those dirty boys, you will meet those others and you will find them and you will make a fresh start, but you'll make it here, and in your town without having to move to another.
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Some immature guys may be only concerned with looks, but that only means that these guys aren't ready for a real relationship and aren't worth your time.
When they mature, they will realize that there are far more important things. Physical appearance is important when it comes to initial attraction, but there needs to be something more if the attraction is ever going to last.
That being said, the boys you talked to very may have been attracted to the picture and, consequently, may have been more open to talking with "Jen" and getting to know her. Fortunately for "Jen," she had a person of substance able to back up her good looks and make her worth their time.
Another thing to consider is that it may not be that you aren't "pretty enough." These boys have probably been seeing you around for a while. "Jen" was someone new and exciting because they didn't know her yet and she gave them a good reason to talk to her...she was the new girl. By talking through her, you might have even had some extra confidence since your identity was hidden under the identity of a beautiful girl. Did you find yourself initiating conversation with boys you normally wouldn't start conversation with?
Don't give up hope. When these guys mature to be worth your time, they'll be open to getting to know the real you. In the meantime, don't be afraid to show them who you are. You might be surprised with what might happen if you start to even just pretend to have the same confidence as Jen. Fake it 'til you make it if you have to. The rest is sure to follow.
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