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Ok i am 13 and i want to go in a chat room were i can just flirt with guys my age what chat rooms should i go to. (link)
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try omegle.com
you don't come up with a screen name or anything. it just calls everyone "stranger." you are free to say whatever you want and give out whatever information you want, but make sure you do not give out any personal information! you can even pick out a different name to use and DO NOT tell them where you live.
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i just bought condoms which is the "new trojan her pleasure ecstasy". i wanted to see how big the condom really was, but it looked pretty big to me. it doesn't say it has a specific size on it, but just wondering, are trojan condoms supposed to look big? (link)
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that kind in particular is tight at the base and looser everywhere else, so yes it should look a little big. it is still just as effective as any other condom.
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ok im 14 and my boyfriend is 16. he wants to have sex in the family bathroom at the mall but i don't know if i should do it or not. If it helps its the only place that we can atchually meet. Thanks in advance. (link)
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gross. please no.
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Okay, I have no idea about college. No one in my family has gone, I'm 19 years old and I just don't know where to start.
I mean.. what would be the first degree I'm aiming towards? Associates Degree, right?
And then what? How many credits are needed for each degree?
Thanks so much.
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Try looking around on www.collegeboard.com. They have information about all different schools, majors and careers. You can probably find the answers to all of your questions there.
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I'm 19 years old. I grew up with a very stable life. My parents are happily married, always have been. I'm close with both of them. They spoil me, care about me, and love me more than anything. I'm from a upper middle class family, pretty, smart and have a lot going for me.
The thing is, alot of guys have realized that and I have had attention from them ever since middle school. I lost my virginity at 14 and loved sex ever since. I refuse to count the number of guys I have slept with but I'm sure it is well over 30.
This is my deapest darkest secret and lately it has been eating away at me. nobody knows about this and I can't stop thinking about it. I don't know why I've slept with so many people...it just, happened and felt right at the time.
I want to know what is wrong with me or at least how I can get over this shame. I can't tell my boyfriend, my best friends. I've been tested so I don't have stds...but knowing that over 30 guys can go around saying they have had sex with me just kills me.
why would a stable girl be such a whore? how do I get over this?
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I think the last person's answer was great. I just want to stress that instead of thinking about all of your experiences in sum, as a number, think of them individually. You say they felt right at the time, so why should you make yourself feel guilty about something that was well intentioned?
Would limiting the growth of your number help you to feel better about yourself? You have a boyfriend now, so there is no need for you to raise your number much higher. You can try to only have sex with serious boyfriends (and that may mean that you wait a little while when you first start dating someone before you have sex with him).
Also, try to remember that all those guys are in the past. You are in a new moment now and what has already happened doesn't matter. You can be whoever you want to be.
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How long were you with your boyfriend/girlfriend before you had sex with them? (link)
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Eight months. But I'm 18 and he's 20 and we were best friends for four years before dating.
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ok so i'm gonna dye my hair like this.
http://i32.tinypic.com/2ik5dnt.jpg
this is what i look like.
http://i40.tinypic.com/21mdgrl.jpg
would it look good? be brutally honest, please. (link)
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Well considering you basically already have the same haircut, you will probably look a lot like that picture, but just remember that you do have dark hair, so your eyebrows are a lot darker than hers.
Personally, I think her hair is pretty cool, but it is also very well known. Might you prefer to have your own signature look instead of borrowing someone else's?
I like your brown hair, but if you really feel the need to try out a new color, go for it. It's fun to switch it up sometimes. It's really up to you. Just consider the eyebrows when going for a lighter color.
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I truly don't know where to start with this.
I would like as many opinions as possible.
and I'm sorry, but it's long and a bit scattered, so please bear with me.
I have a best friend who I've known since I was 5. I am now 20 years old. I am female and he is male (he is 19 and we will call him "M"). 2 years ago, he told me he liked me, but at the time I had a boyfriend - and I still do now (different guy from 2 yrs ago) who's now actually my fiance (we will call him "B").
I told "M" I didn't like him in *that* way and thought we would be better as friends. It didn't seem to affect our friendship after that. He still told me he liked me, but knew nothing was going to come of it. I didn't mind this, because I didn't expect him to just wake up one morning and be over me.
Throughout these 2 years after he told me he liked me, our friendship was great - we would hang out a lot and do what friends should.
but a few months ago, "M" went to university. During that time, I got a new boyfriend ("B" my fiance) and when "M" came home from uni for the Christmas holidays, a few things happened.
Bear in mind this is the first time "M" and "B" met.
We (along with my other friends who also came back from uni) went on a night out. "M" got too drunk and let's just say he did a few things which he shouldn't have (was acting flirty with me, trying to touch me etc with "B" right there) "B" hated this and I'm sure anyone else would.
Since then, "B" has tried to get along with "M" the next time everyone hung out but it just wasn't happening and "M" kind of ignored him.
I spoke to "M" about the incident of him trying to touch me and he simply said he's sorry, he doesn't remember and he was obviously too drunk.
Then he went back to uni and so did everyone else.
After that, me and "B" were fine. "M" would ring me sometimes and it would annoy "B" a lot because it was at silly hours of the morning and he didn't appreciate someone who caused us problems and who he knows likes me, calling me quite often.
But I didn't answer the calls anyway cos I knew it upset "B". Instead, I asked "M" to only ring me if he really needs me for something. It took a little while for him to listen, but so far I seem to have got across to him and he only calls me if necessary.
Here's the big problem which is jeapordizing my relationship with the person I love.
"B" constantly talks about what happened with "M". I told "B" that I forgive "M" for the problems he has caused.. and he went mad.
I believe in giving people chances and I would like to give "M" one chance, because deep down, I know he is a good person, with a kind heart and I do believe he would never do what he did again. but "B" isn't having any of it. He hates me talking to him and he won't let me see him when he comes down from uni again in 2 weeks time.
"M" is oblivious to the fact that "B" and I STILL argue over something that happened 3 months ago. Sure, I told him about the incident and to stop calling me so much at the time and it's worked.. but I don't know what to do, cos I know "M" is gonna ask to hang out like we always used to..
I don't wanna hurt "B" and go against his wishes, but I just don't know what to do. He trusts me and he knows I would never do anything. but he says "M" doesn't deserve to see me after what he's done.
I need all answers please. I don't know if I should just keep my fiance happy and not see my best friend.. or see my best friend but hurt my fiance. There isn't any other option because "M" definitely wouldn't want to hang with me if "B" is there.
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It sounds like your fiance is a lot more controlling and insecure than he makes you think. He tells you that he trusts you, but just doesn't think M "deserves" your time, when he probably just isn't comfortable with it. When it comes down to it, it's your decision. You're not doing anything wrong by keeping in touch with an old friend. This is something you two definitely need to work out before you get married. He shouldn't be able to veto you hanging out with people just because of his own insecurities or for any other reason.
This issue is deeper than figuring out whether or not to hang out with your best friend. This could foreshadow future problems. I would advise that you see your best friend, but talk things over with your fiance some more. As long as you are clear about your relationship with M, B should be able to handle it. If not, there is going to be much more for you to worry about.
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what is a hj?
and what does prude mean? (link)
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The two other people who answered covered the topic of hand job well.
I would say that prude is typically used to describe someone who is not sexually experienced. Sometimes used to describe someone who is afraid of gaining sexual experience. Comes from the word "prudent."
Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something by calling you a prude.
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Okay so do you think my twin and I should wear our hair straight ? or our natural beach wavy and curly to the ANTM (America's Next Top Model) open casting call? Thanks =) (link)
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How about one of you does straight and the other does wavy?
This way you'll show off two looks you both can have, and you can choose who does which by perhaps trying to match each of the styles to your personalities.
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im 17.f
i haven't popped my cherry yet because i don't use tampons & i haven't had sex yet. Say when i do have sex it could pop. Has this happen to anyonee? do you just like bleed while having sex? if you do, how embarrassing is thatt?
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My first time, I didn't lay a towel down or anything like the person before me said, but I did bleed. We cuddled for a little while and then I went to the bathroom and realized I was bleeding so I just put a pad in. It lasted about three hours for me. I didn't think any got on my sheets but I noticed just a small stain the next day, but nothing really noticeable. It wasn't embarrassing or anything because I am really close with my boyfriend. I told him I was bleeding right when I came back from the bathroom. He wasn't freaked out or anything. He just apologized and I reminded him that it was normal. No big deal.
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I just want your opinions on this. How big could the age difference be in teen years. Say like a 14 year old girl how much older would your opinion for her to date? I just want to see what your opinions are. Thanks! (link)
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I have always tried to stick by the "half your age plus seven" rule. to me, it seems to make sense. this formula is for the youngest age that someone can date. so, according to the formula, the youngest age you could date would be 14, your own age. however, if you were to date someone older, i would advise you to date someone 15-16, but no older. just date someone that you are comfortable with and who you don't think would pressure you to do things you aren't ready for.
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Ok so this is going to sound weird, but it was an expirament.. I made a fake myspace with a drop dead gorgous girl. I added kids in my town and made up some story about me possibly moving there. Well I did this to see what guys want in girls. Well, I act the EXACT same way to them. Like I talk the same way and everything. No denying this girl in muchh more beautiful, by the way. Yet the boys I can't even get to talk to me, are like obsessed with "Jen" who's really me.. So in a way they really like me, just do not know it.
My question here is, why do boys base it all on looks? Honestly, if I looked like her I would no doubt have a boyfriend and be happier with life. Yet I'm the same way both peopleee. Uggggh, I don't know what to like think. I want to so badly leave my town so I can get a fresh start, cause now I know all guys care about is looks.
Is that true? Is that all guys want. A girl with looks? (link)
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Some immature guys may be only concerned with looks, but that only means that these guys aren't ready for a real relationship and aren't worth your time.
When they mature, they will realize that there are far more important things. Physical appearance is important when it comes to initial attraction, but there needs to be something more if the attraction is ever going to last.
That being said, the boys you talked to very may have been attracted to the picture and, consequently, may have been more open to talking with "Jen" and getting to know her. Fortunately for "Jen," she had a person of substance able to back up her good looks and make her worth their time.
Another thing to consider is that it may not be that you aren't "pretty enough." These boys have probably been seeing you around for a while. "Jen" was someone new and exciting because they didn't know her yet and she gave them a good reason to talk to her...she was the new girl. By talking through her, you might have even had some extra confidence since your identity was hidden under the identity of a beautiful girl. Did you find yourself initiating conversation with boys you normally wouldn't start conversation with?
Don't give up hope. When these guys mature to be worth your time, they'll be open to getting to know the real you. In the meantime, don't be afraid to show them who you are. You might be surprised with what might happen if you start to even just pretend to have the same confidence as Jen. Fake it 'til you make it if you have to. The rest is sure to follow.
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i have terrible dark circles under my eyes, yet i sleep 8 hours every night and have a good sleeping schedule, even on weekends. how can i get rid of them? (link)
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i've heard of putting spoons in the freezer to make them cold and then holding them under your eyes to reduce the dark circles.
you might also want to try just wearing foundation or some sort of cover up to hide them and make you look more awake. while eyeliner is good to make your eyes look for awake too.
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I'm 15 (a sophomore in HS), and I have never really dated anyone. It's not that i don't like guys (i'm a girl if you couldn't tell), because i have in the past, but they just never seem into me. I mean i don't think I'm ugly or anything of that sort, and i have guy friends, so i'm not socially awkward. Am i being very paranoid, or is this common (or both?)? (link)
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I had my first real boyfriend (by real, I mean it wasn't a stupid middle school relationship where we just talked online and sat next to each other at lunch and broke up after a month) when I was 14, a freshman in high school.
One of my friends had her first boyfriend when she was 18.
A few of my friends are 19 and still have never had boyfriends.
It's different for everyone. It's nice to feel close to someone and experience dating, but wouldn't it be better to wait for someone worth your time than to rush yourself to be with any willing and good enough guy?
And as weird as it sounds, the relationships you find when you are not looking are usually better than the ones you searched for.
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I have been researching different birth controls all day...and i still dont know which one to choose from ( i have a doctor appt. monday to talk about it too)
I have narrowed it down to Seasonal and Loestrin 24 cause i have really bad/long/heavy periods...
NuvaRing cause you dont take it as much and Ortho Tri-Cyclen cause it's sopposed to help with acne...
if anyone is on/was on any of these could you give me your opinion of them? Like does Ortho Tri-Cyclen really help with acne and such?
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Just choose whatever fits your lifestyle best. All birth control uses the same drug, so they should all have about the same effects.
For example, I chose to try Nuvaring because I don't have a steady schedule with anything in life (work, classes, sleep) so I know it will be hard for me to take the pill at the same time everyday.
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I'm not sure if I want to go into engineering or singing; I'm interested in choral singing and chemical engineering. I get As and have been in my All State chorus. I think I'd like to go to Cornell, but I'm not so sure about the quality of their choral program. On the other hand, Rider is a is also a top choice for me because of Westminister, but I'm not sure about their engineering program. Is there any school that has a good choral and engineering program? (link)
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Since your mind isn't completely made up, I would go to a large school with a lot of options. Look into finding a school with a solid engineering program, where you could MINOR in music. That way, you can work on gaining a practical degree where there are more job availabilities and still hone your singing abilities.
These two websites are extremely helpful in searching for colleges that fit what you want.
http://www.princetonreview.com/colleges-majors.aspx?uidbadge=%07
http://www.collegeboard.com/
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soo i have a line like where my pants are ony my stomach except the lines alitttle bit higher.
its from my pouch thingg :( soo im planning on losing weight so will the line get less visible or go away or will i stay there?
ANDDDD if i run and stuff are my calves gonna get even bigger, cuz i think they are too bigg already soo yeah how do i decrease calve size??!?
thanksss :) (link)
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Don't worry about the line. Many people have it. Actually, I can't think of anyone I know that doesn't have it. Some are just more prominent than others. I have one and it's actually kind of nice because in pictures people often mistake it for muscle tone. And I do not have a flat stomach!
Your calves most likely will not get bigger if you run, they might just get more toned. Girls tend to get toned instead of bigger when they exercise.
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so i really love ice cream and cookies! they're my favorite sweet foods, but for the past couple months ive been eating very healthy. only oragnic foods. and im working out trying to stay fit and possibly lose a couple pounds. anyways sometimes i feel like i just need some ice cream! is it okay to have ice cream a couple times a week? or will this make me fat? (link)
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If you are eating a variety of other healthy foods, treating yourself to some ice cream every now and then is just fine!
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Lately, I have started working out more.
I also have started to get dizzy very often. I forget things that I was told just a few seconds ago. Also, the circulation in my legs have been retarded. Sometimes I forget to eat, so maybe that could effect. I just am not hungry very often anymore. (link)
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Have you had a sudden preoccupation with your weight? Sometimes when people start paying attention to their size or weight they may unconsciously begin to form anorexic tendencies. You may not consciously think "I want to stop eating," but you will have I disinterest in food and maybe even an inability to eat as much as you used to. Start consciously thinking about your need to eat and if you see it becomes a problem, please don't hesitate to get help.
On a side note, water is also very very important. Make sure you are keeping hydrated both while exercising and during your regular routines throughout the day.
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