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Should I get back with my ex boyfriend?
I'm 16 and 6 months ago my boyfriend and I decided to break up after a 1 year relationship. The problem was that he didn't make any effort to make time for me, whereas I would change my WHOLE schedule just to see him, and not once could he reciprocate.
Lately we've been running into each other parties, friend's places etc. and we'd always be the last two people awake, still talking and he'd bring 'us' up.
He's made it clear that he likes me and wants to get back together. I still like him too, and want to get back together but I'm not sure if it's worth it. He's not the type to change for someone and I really don't want to get hurt like a did before. And if we do get back together where do we go from there?
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i think if you still have feelings for him and have been thinking about getting back with him. hang out first for a couple weeks before actully "going out" see if he attemps seeing you before you put yourself in the postion of getting hurt.
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My advice is to not get back together with your boyfriend as you already know that (unfortunately) he isn't the "type to change" and with him not giving you enough time before, he will most likely not give you much time now. I think you two would be much better off friends and you would save yourself some heartache if you stayed friends only -- or at least until you see that he will change.
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The answer here is according to how you're feeling, and there is a choice of two. First of all, if you do feel that you really love him and,loving a person means accepting him the way he is and with his faults and bad qualities, just like maybe there are things he doesn't like about you or upsets him whether you know of them or not. So if you feel that you love him too much, enough to overcome however he lets you down sometimes, then get back together, BUT take it slow, don't rush into it! And don't keep looking for signs that would tell you that he changed, or don't wait for any little thing he does that tells you that he's still the same. And see, here is the thing, if he loves you,if he really does, he'll be there this time, and he'll show that to you, but don't expect him to change 100% cause no one changes fully for anyone,but there are those who show the effort.
Second choice, is that if you don't think you have as much feelings as you used to have for him, then don't take take a risk and take up your time and schedule and get involved in a relationship all over again, incase it doesn't work out again and you get hurt, just because you didn't really love him enough to bear him, or he didn't love you enough to make an effort. So basically, its a matter of feelings, figure that out from inside of you, you answer your own question!
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, contact me personally or send me a msg in my inbox. Best of luck!
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