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Is what I'm feeling normal?
15/f
Well,here's my story...after so many failed relationships(I've been hit,cheated on,lied to...the list goes on),in a row,I began to realize I couldn't care less about having a boyfriend.Now,when some of my friends even mention love and relationships,I feel sick...it makes me wanna throw up... I don't believe in love anymore...the more love I gave,the more I ended up being hurt.Don't say "You're really young and you have a life ahead of you".... I know that... but I've been disappointed too many times.I've even developed a fear of entering a relationship ever again.I feel as though my heart is slowly turning to stone.Then yet,deep down,I want to find someone who will love me unconditionally...but I keep closing up,more and more as time goes by.Also,I've tried to date a few guys but we broke up because I was too suspicious.I mean,how can I trust anyone after being cheated on so many times? Am I supposed to feel like this?
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well you are still young...but know how you feel ive been in you predicament...but in all reality you have to look change yourself. Make your morals higher put up a wall increase your standards..and if they arnt willing to come thru with what you want,need,and expect then you drop them. Your in this to find love for you someone to make you happy and please you not bring you down and batter you. Good luck..love isnt just gonna happen you have to extend your search sometimes..hope all goes well with you. If anything else feel free to tell me anything else you need help on
True love respects and waits!!
Blessings,
tinyxoxo
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Sometimes when someone's feelings have been stepping on repeatably it becomes harder to trust people. You stated you've been cheated on and lied too. Those are the two most hurtful things someone can do in a relationship. You're feelings are understandable. However, I don't want to lecture you but you are young. At your age, Relationships working out and lasting "forever" are very low. The feelings you are experiencing now is normal. I went through the same thing when my first boyfriend had mistreated me. It's what a heartbreaks feel like, You are still hurt and sometimes it takes time to get over it. As much as you feel you can't date again...In time you will. The saying "It happens when the time is right" Is very true. There are many guys out there that will treat you right, You just have to find them. I'd give yourself a little more time to heal first though.
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Been there... done that! Every single feeling your describing, i've been through and i thought exactly the same way,and for a minute, i thought i would never fall inlove again or be interested in any other guy ever again, cause they're all just a-holes and they are not to be trusted, and they are all the same, some way or another. And yet, believe it or not, no matter how much you can try to convince me that you know yourself and that you know that you will never be with anyone else, i'm gonna tell you that your wrong and that its just a feeling and that you will move on, and once u meet someone, you will immediately forget about all this and the way your thinking now, and your gonna go through another experience and commit to a relationship all over again. And it has nothing to do with being young, or when you get older, you can meet a guy tomorrow and fall inlove with him immediately, it has nothing to do with age. It has to do with moving on, and so many ppl go through this, imagine women who divorce several times, not only breakup with their boyfriends, and yet they marry again, imagine how that feels, breaking up a marriage is much harder and it hurts more, and yet they repeat the experience over and over and over, because they move on, we all must move on. And i know how sometimes it feels that you think that you fell down and you don't believe that you can get up and go on with your life, but unconsciously eventually you move on. So cheer up and try to take it lightly, try to not think that way, and not intentionally reject guys and push them away, just let things fall into place on their own and go with the flow.
HOpe i helped, feel free to contact me anytime.
Goodluck!
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