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Umm... I'm a really shy person and I was wondering if anybody can help me become more talkative and less shy. Maybe even some reasons why I'm quiet. Well thanks to those that can help.
With love,
~!MysteriousGirl!~
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I used to be in your shoes & know how hard it is to break out of the shell........
When you talk to others how do you feel? do you feel they are judging you?
Why dont' you try this........The next time you talk to someone, think of it as "what the heck I am a confident girl that nomatter what they think I have it going on........boost your ego up & youll be fine.........
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seems as if you dont have confidence. Im order to be less shy you have to be comfortable in your own skin. Is there anything that makes you feel comfortable, idk like with me i feel really comfortable in heels it instantly gives me a whole different level of confidence. Try to talk to people who you dont normally talk to, dont think about what they might say. If you appear confident it will in time get rid of your shyness. =] hope i helped.
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Dear MysteriousGirl,
This is not a problem at all. I was once like that and now i can talk to nearly anyone i've just met and i talk so friendly, and its totally cool, i don't care.
It just simply comes after time, little by little and it helps more when you deal with people who are more of your type, cause that encourages you to fit in easily and be comfortable there.
'Shy' is not a medical condition, and so 'shy' does not have a drug to cure it, as well as 'shy' is not a problem, so 'shy' does not have or require advice or answers. 'Shy' is a character in someone's personality, and sometimes somehow, it is a character in every single person's personality, but it differs on how each one would deal with it, overcome it, or be defeated by it. Just let go, there is nothing to be shy about, and i know that its something you can't help it, its just there, so that's why i'm telling you that by time, you'll come around. But the thing is, what are you shy about? who are you shy around? why? all those people you are shy infront of are just human beings like you and are shy too,but they deal with it, they won't bite you, they won't make fun of you, its cool, if you talk to them, they could actually once become your bestest friends, and you'll find that they are very kind and nice and decent.
Try to join in on conversations, give your opinion, even if YOU think it sounds lame or off point, it could drag another conversation, and don't think that people would like not hear you or ignore you, no ,they are not monsters, they would listen, and appreciate your contribution and would make you join in more with them, and would like you more, and say, oh this girl has a personality of her own and she speaks up her mind and stuff.
So basically what i'm saying is that, your quiet because your scared that if you speak up, people would think that what your saying is lame or would mock you or any thing of the sort, but they won't, they won't do that, so like, speak up your mind and share your opinions and don't worry, its totally cool.
Last thing, is that its not real bad for a person to be quiet, i'm a quiet person, and its sometimes actually better than being a talkative person, people sometimes get really annoyed from those who are very talkative. So your on the safe side, hehe :):):):)
If you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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I was the same way. You have to work at it yourself little by little. First some reasons why you are quiet could be many reasons. I think the reason I was, was because of who I hung out with. My best friend was a really quiet person. So it shows that your friends affect the way you are. But I don't know your case. It could be many reasons. I was just afraid of what people thought of me and of being weird. Just get that out of your head because it really doesn't matter what people think of you because the people you see at school or where ever you probably will never see them again years from now.
Ok well first off, you need to get it through your head that you want to stop being shy and want to be noticed!
Seriously, what do you have to lose? Speak up more and say your opinion.
When people talk to you, talk to them! If you feel good that day, start a conversation.
But when you talk to people, make sure to have eye contact. But don't freak them out by staring at them for so long. But I think you know what I mean.
You need to be comfortable when you talk to them. Everybody gets nervous so don't make a big deal out of it. At least pretend, then it will come natural like talking to your best friend.
You probably will hear this alot but be yourself.
When you walk by your friends or someone you know, say hi or wave.
Well the last thing is to have confidence in yourself. You don't want to be shy so just work at it. To build your confidence a little is to try and look nice. Wear clothes that flatter you. But not too tight. And make your hair look cute. You know what I mean.
So I hope this helped and good luck!
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