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I want on the pill with out mummy knowing
ok well i need get on the pill. no i am not sexually active nor do i plan on it soon. I do know that I am 14 and ready to start dating. I know how strong of a person i am and i know that i may not be able to say no to my bf when he wants to have sex. I will always have a condom on me and thought about female condoms. but i think well know that i want to be on the pill. i live in il if that helps! I just dont know what to do where to go whom to got to or anything so yeah. any advice is well appricated!
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Danielsdimple67 (12:25:56 AM): that girl's a slut
You must be extremely weak to not be able to speak up about staying abstinent when you supposedly want to. You're only paying lip service to abstinence. Now, I don't care if you get pregnant, I don't care if you have sex with everyone you know, but I'm just saying you shouldn't fool yourself. Don't just say you might not be able to say no and that's why you want to be prepared. Say that something is eventually going to happen and you want to be prepared. Just because you can use the word whom doesn't mean you're ready to have sex. Or graduate 8th grade.
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I'm going to give you one thing to think about, For your own health even the makers of the pill will tell you you should not be on the pill collectively for more then 10 years. This means at 24 you will have to go off the pill for your own sake. So, you are going to have to go to using condoms or something to that end. Since most people marry later in life now, you and your husband will have too go through your sex life together with him wearing a condom, since most other forms of birth control advise the use of condoms with them.
You should not use birth control unless you are going to be sexually active, or are told by your doctor too, for purpose of regulating your period properly. No relationship you may have in the future has to move so fast that you can't take the time to get birth control. Read and know the facts and side effects of anything you are going to be taking almost everyday of your life for as long as you will the pill. Don't go in blind.
There is a reason why people, (your parents, preachers and others who care), want you to wait until your older to become sexually active. It's not because they are mean and want you to suffer, it's because there are more consequences then you realize, maybe more then you can understand at 14, no offense meant. Sex carries a very high price to it, far beyond pregnancy. Please wait until you have read everything about the pill and more importantly, understand the ramifications mentally, physically and emotionally, for both you and your partner, that sex can bring. Understand well the dangers you face when you take sex as something so casual that you start planing it more then three years ahead of when you should be considering it. While your looking into the side effects and warnings on the pill, search Sexually Transmitted Disease, or STD's. There is so much for you to learn before you take this step, where to get the pill is such an easy thing, knowing what your getting into is what you need to find out and it's too bad you don't want your mummy to know, she could be of great help in bring you to understanding this.
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Do not carry condoms around with you.
Condoms must be stored at room temperature and shouldn't be crinkled or bent. Keeping them in wallets or purses or glove compartments are big NONOs. Do that, and your condom is MUCH more likely to break.
Female condoms are not as effective as male condoms, are generally more expensive and you can't use both at once... Can't say I'd personally recommend them.
This is a link to Planned Parenthood in Illinois. Read through that and you'll be able to find a clinic were you can get a prescription for the birth control pill and lots of valuable information about contraception.
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Although I commend you on planning ahead, I do want to suggest this idea to you: If you doubt your ability to say No, and not have sex if you don't want to have sex then I wouldn't call you ready to date. If you are seriously concerned about your ability to stand up for your own beliefs in romantic or sexual situations, then you aren't ready to be in those situations.
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