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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Hey, how much would it hurt if I grabbed onto an
electric fence?

Also, would it shock us all if I grabbed it, and
like, 5 people linked arms with me?

It will hurt a lot, and more than likely. Do not attempt this.

The guy I'm in love with just wants me for sex. How do I get over him? I have to see him everyday..

Ignore him. If he just wants you for one thing & one thing only, he doesn't deserve you. Surround yourself with your friends, & maybe you'll find a new guy. :)

Ok so i have this friend named Bryan and I have liked him for about a year and a half, and never told anybody anybody about it. I have this other "friend" named Melissa, and i find her quite bitchy and annoying. So they are both apart of our circle of fiends... and i just found out that they are dating.. I am really upset, and I don't know what to do. I mean like I feel as though I can never be with him anymore. UGH. And everyone thinks that this is totally out of the blue and they don't like it either.. PLEASE HELPP WHAT SHOULD I DOO?!?

You and your other friends do not have the right to tell someone who to date. You need to accept it whether it is expected or not. I'm sure you would not like it if someone told you the same thing, so do not interfere with his love life.

You like him, and you should've told him sooner because this situation could've been prevented. Either wait til they break up to tell him how you feel about him, or mind your own business.

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i used to cut but recently i've been having urges to do it and i find it hard to ignore them. have any suggestions on how to make the urges stop? i've tried scraping my arm with a pen so it doesnt leave any marks but that doesn't seem to satisfy the urges.
thanks

You need to see a counselor. Wanting to cause yourself pain is dangerous, and you will end up doing whatever it takes to get satisfied.

I used to cut, and did so for 4-5 years, and am proud to say I have stopped. I used music & friends to get myself to stop. Maybe you could do the same?

I was wondering, what exactly are the chances for getting pregnant if you have unprotected sex. Today I went to my boyfriend's house and he didn't have a condom. When I asked him about it he proposed that we have unprotected sex. I immediately declined because I don't want to get pregnant at 17. But anyways what is the risk? P.S: I don't plan on having unprotected sex. Thanks

I would say they're pretty high.

Okay. Me and my boyfriend started dating on my birthday in 2006, it is now 2009 and almost 3 years. But yesterday april 4, 2009, he broke up with me. And let me tell you why. About less than a month ago I started talking to a guy, in LA, its about 6 hours from where I live. I never met the guy and never planning to. Well he called me babe and I did too. Well yesterday I got a text from the other guy saying that if he could call me in 15 minutes. My boyfriend read it and he broke up with me. I know I did something wrong. But I never had sex with the guy. I never even met him. Please I lost the love of my life. And I want him back. He is the one person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Please help me. I don't know what to do.

I honestly do not consider this cheating. You never held hands with him, kissed him, met him, had sex with him or anything. You just talked. As far as I see it, you guys were friends & nothing more.

Your boyfriend is really overreacting over a text message. He's being INCREDIBLY immature, and needs to suck it up. Girls have guy friends, and boys have female friends. That's usually how it tends to be. There is no reason for him to have broken up with you or be mad at you. You accepted a phone call from a friend. And calling somebody babe isn't bad. I have been in a relationship before & called a guy friend "babe" before.

You seriously need to talk to this kid & explain everything. If you tell him everything, start to finish, he should listen. If he's really that hard-headed, then you need to move on because he won't change his mind.

I'm really sorry you're in this situation & hope everything works out for you. Good luck!

so my boyfriend was telling one of my friends how if you text the same person (boyfriend or girlfriend) every day its unhealthy. i understand if you see them everyday And text everyday but we see each other only on the weekends cause we live 25 mins away from each other and he never texts me during the week..he knows i like to be texted but he never does it, i always have to text him and he usually takes forever to respond or doesnt at all. is it seriously unhealthy? i miss him alot by the end of the week and i wanna talk to him...what should i do?

I honestly do not think it's unhealthy, especially when in a long distance relationship. For the first 7 or 8 months of mine and my boyfriend's relationship, we were 2,000 miles away from each other. He was in California, and I was in New York. Text messaging, talking on the phone & IMing were our only ways of contact so we were texting everyday & calling everyday. I don't think it was unhealthy for us. It really helped us get to know each other and build our relationship. I now live with my boyfriend, and everything is fine for us.

Obviously people have different opinions, but I don't think it's unhealthy. I think talking first before the physical or anything else is better. It really helps put down the foundation for a good relationship.

As far as him not texting back though, that's kind of rude of him. I realize he might be busy, but you're his girlfriend. He should at least take some time out to talk back with you. If he honestly is like that to you though, either he isn't into you as much as you're into him, or he's lazy & doesn't feel like talking all the time. :( I hope this helps a little. Good luck!

I went to a party and said something and my friend started crying and everyone is on her side and now my social life is ruined and i dont know what to do to get it back i didnt even know i offended her but i guess i "went too far" and really hurt her but i need to know how to get my social life back

Apologize to her. You had no idea you crossed a line & went too far & didn't know you had hurt her feelings until she started crying.

If you are really sincerely sorry, she'll forgive you. Don't just apologize to get your rep back though because that's really fake & will make you look like a heartless bitch.

So talk to her, and I'm sure everything will be fine.

my mom broke up with my dad when i was 2 she found another guy and has been married to him a long time and he is an ass how do i get my mom to break up with him?she doesnt love him anymore anyway

Talk to your mother. She doesn't love your step-father, & you certainly don't love him, so tell her how you feel.

She'll listen to what you have to say & maybe she'll trust your judgment. :) Good luck!

i get teased a lot at school and i rly don't know why... and i only get teased by my friends and every single thing i say or wear they analyze and look for something to criticize me for but they only do it to me but then they invite me to the mall and include me in their groups and stuff but they treat me like im a joke or something

im always nice to them and if they say something i just kinda let it go but its rly starting to get annoying and im getting tired of it... how do i get them to stop?

i don't have a lot of other friends so i cant leave their group and i don't want to talk to them about it or start an argument... are there any small things i could do so they will stop targeting me for everything?? does anyone else have this problem??

I don't know how old you are, but you're probably 13 or 14, huh?

Well, the most I can tell you is that they're not really your friends. Friends don't analyze what you say, what you think, or what you wear. If they were really your friends, they would respect you & not tease you.

They see you as an inferior to them.

Stop being nice to them. Feed them what they feed you. It could start an argument, but it's better to stand up for yourself than to take everyone's shit. Find yourself some real friends sweetie. You don't deserve to be teased. Believe me, I've been there. It sucks, so do what you need to.

today me and my boyfriend had sex in the beach water. for like 5 minutes just to see how it felt.
is that bad? can i get like sick or something? =/
i hope not!

It's bad to take off your bottoms in the ocean/lake. The water has some sort of bacteria in it that can crawl into your vagina/penis. It can happen when you urinate into the water, and it can happen when you're not wearing bottoms.

I don't know if you'll get sick, but I know it isn't good. :( If you notice something wrong, see a doctor.

How do gay men have sex? I was just curious and wanted to know what happens. I'm a girl so I don't know.

They either have anal sex, or oral sex.

the other day my boyfriend was going through my phone and saw his cousins number in my phone (he's a boy) but the thing is he's my second cousin too (me and my boyfriend arent relataed so dont worry) and he went off.. he pushed me and was calling me all kinds of names. now he wont call me back, answer my calls, or even answer my texts. its been 2 days and i still aint heard from him. i love him. and i know he didn't mean to push me. what should i do? im female and 16.

He pushed you. Get out of the relationship now.

It'll start with a push, and then it'll get worse. Leave before it escalates to a dangerous level. You can NEVER let a man put his hands on you whether he means to or not. :(

Have some self-respect & dump him.

I'm completely depressed. I'm a 21 year old female college student at an out of state college though at the end of the current semester I will be moving back home to finish school at a university near my home. I have a great boyfriend but for some reason I just feel like I'm a walking zombie. I miss him and I miss home even though my family at home is basically in an all out war started by my younger brother's dabbling in pot. I haven't seen a psychiatrist or any other doctor because I don't have the time being in school constantly and working and living somewhere where I basically know zero people and zero about the city. I wake up wishing I could just sleep forever. I don't know how to communicate how I feel to my boyfriend and now he's just getting frustrated with me. I have a problem with anger here too but it's mostly because I can't express what I'm feeling and what the problem is because I don't know it. If anyone has any advice that is helpful and isn't a criticism I'd be thankful for it. I just need help right now, not judgment.

How come you haven't tried seeing a counselor on campus? If there are days where you don't have a class, or have a break between your classes, why don't you go talk to them. Obviously, it's free so you don't need to worry about making any sort of payment to them. They're there to listen & it could really help your situation.

If you don't think you should see one right now since you're going to a university near home soon, then see the counselor at the school you're switching to.

Your boyfriend doesn't understand what you're going through because you're not being verbal. Remember that your boyfriend loves you & wants to hear what you have to say. He's concerned & you're not conversing your issues with him, and that's why he's becoming frustrated. He's there for you, so try & open up. Say what you need to say however you find you need to.

I don't know how else to help, but remember that there are people who specialize in this on your campus, and that your boyfriend is there for you. And I hope this helps because I have been in your position when I was in high school (I'm not in college yet), and I can relate so much. I really hope you get this worked out & that you end up getting the help you need. Depression is a terrible, scary thing. :( Good luck!

Sorry, I didn't really know which category to put this in. I'm a 13 year old girl. My friends practically live for their cell phones and change them at least twice a year (everybody in my grade does). I don't know about other countries, but where I'm from, new and updated phones come out nearly every week. My phone is around two years old, and it's seriously old and outdated. I get good grades and I'm pretty responsible. .It might be a little silly, but I feel embarassed with my phone and feel pressure with my friends.My parents think phones should be emergency-only. Are they being unreasonable or am I?

You are.

Since the economy is so bad, people aren't making as much & it's harder to afford the luxuries that we once had. So, either your parents cannot afford the phone, or don't see it's necessary that you get a new one when the one you have works just fine.

You do not deserve a new phone just because you get good grades & are responsible.

If you and your friends are on the same network & your network involves a SIM Chip, either ask them for one of their old phones, or deal with what you have because your parents don't sound like they're letting in, and I don't blame them.

Phones are privilege, not a necessity.

Okay me and my boyfriend had sex about 4 days ago,and im spost 2 be on my period this month.my boyfriend came in me ALOT.and when i say alot i mean ALOT!.if i still get a little period does that mean i could still be pregnet??
please help thank you

...

Really?

Your boyfriend came in you, and you're asking if your pregnant.

You should already know the answer to this. More than likely, you will be getting pregnant.

Congratulations. :|

My name is mark i am 29 and my girl is 26 and i am a freak in bed and i dont think my girl can handle all of this because i want to have sex at least everyday or every other day even 3 days its not just about me i make sure i please her rather its oral or what ever but she does not do the same for me what should i do??????? A man in need of passion in the deep abyess of her soul!!!!!!!!!

Maybe she doesn't like giving oral? Some girls love to receive but hate to give.

Talk to her about it.

does anyone know of a bus system that can get someone from oneonta to potsdam new york?

Greyhound.

So, apparently our phone number belonged to quite a few people before we received it. We got this number three years ago and we still get AT LEAST 5 calls a day for various other names. We tell the telemarketers to take us off the list and they still call. For example, we opened an account at the local movie rental store and there is a list of six other people with this number! this has been going on for 3 years and still a steady amount of calls not for us are coming in. Please help me resolve this annoying problem!

Change your phone number. If you're not willing to do that, then you need to put your phone number on the DO NOT CALL LIST for telemarketers. You can do it online, but I don't know how to do it sadly. My boyfriend did it for me.

When did sex become so bad? I get that teenagers shouldn't just sleep around and pregnancy & STDs are a problem. But why do parents go to great lengths to make their teens feel guilty about wanting and/or having sex? If its so natural and if everyone feels the need at some point, shouldn't it be talked about more openly and embraced in a better manner?

I'm 16, thinking about having sex for the first time, but I keep finding notes from my parents saying, "Absolutely no sex. Wait until your married."

I'm not religious, but I'm not a bad person. (All A's, no drinking or drugs) So why do my parents make me feel awful for even thinking about it?

Ugh. Thanks.
I just want opinions and how other people's parents react.

I'm 18, and never bothered to discuss sex with my parents; especially not my father. I didn't see him as someone I could look to at the time because he wasn't around though he was living with me. I never went to my mother because she jokes too much & sex is serious. AND knowing her, she'd make it awkward, uncomfortable & embarassing.

She knew I was having sex though. I think my mother was cool about it. Me and my father have never talked about it to this day & I lost my virginity a month before I turned 16.

It isn't a bad thing, and it certainly is natural. I think your parents just care about your well-being. Sex is an adult thing & brings on a ton of emotions that kids that age cannot handle. I knew I couldn't but thinking about it now, I do not regret my decision though it certainly did make me grow up a lot quicker.

Your parents just care about you & want you to wait until you can handle it. It's not to make you feel guilty. If you talk to them about it, I'm sure they'll be telling you a similar thing to what I am telling you now.

I hope this helps.

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