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Depressed and I don't know what to do
I'm completely depressed. I'm a 21 year old female college student at an out of state college though at the end of the current semester I will be moving back home to finish school at a university near my home. I have a great boyfriend but for some reason I just feel like I'm a walking zombie. I miss him and I miss home even though my family at home is basically in an all out war started by my younger brother's dabbling in pot. I haven't seen a psychiatrist or any other doctor because I don't have the time being in school constantly and working and living somewhere where I basically know zero people and zero about the city. I wake up wishing I could just sleep forever. I don't know how to communicate how I feel to my boyfriend and now he's just getting frustrated with me. I have a problem with anger here too but it's mostly because I can't express what I'm feeling and what the problem is because I don't know it. If anyone has any advice that is helpful and isn't a criticism I'd be thankful for it. I just need help right now, not judgment.
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It sounds like your under a lot of stress and exhausted from constantly working,school or just constantly doing something.Your depression could've built up over time, or it could've sprang up on you with out a reason. If theres no reason for you to be depressed-(plenty of sleep, no reasons of sadness)- if you have a feeling of being lost and not knowing who you are-i know how that feels! Its hard to get out of that kind depression. It feels like your in the deepest whole that's impossible to get out of. But you can! I used to feel empty,like i had no reason to keep living, it was really bad. If you feel this way,it may feel impossible to ever feel happy again. Depression is just a state of mind. If you think you are depressed,you will be. You must switch your thinking to "things are getting better,i'm fine,i can do this". Then,evidently things will start getting better. You're boyfriends probably just frustrated that you're not telling him how you feel-he cares for you-but he wishes you'd let him in.Write him a letter of your feelings,tell him your depressed from everything thats going on,he'll be there for you. Do you have any hobbies you haven't done in awhile? The absence of doing something you once loved can make you feel sort of incomplete as well. Whatever it was,it'd be good to start it up again. It'll make you feel good and take your mind off of things. The family situtaion is hard;it's your brothers life. No matter how hard your family would try to convince him- it's still his disition,sadly. As long as you let him know you'll be there to talk to him if he needs it,thats all you can really do. Your parents will hopefully help him further.Think of this new city as a good thing! You get to meet new people, start a new identity! Nothings holding you back from going out and having fun in this new city! Maybe find a club,bring your boyfriend, friends?!Try to meet new people everywhere you go,nothing's stopping you. This could be a chance to re-invent yourself,a new,happier you :]. Don't think of it as a negative what so ever! Also try to get more sleep, always a good thing :]. this probably doesn't help, but dont eat to much fast food-it makes you depressed also. just though i'd share :p. good luck and i hope i helped,and you can deffinatly get through this, if you believe you can :]!
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How come you haven't tried seeing a counselor on campus? If there are days where you don't have a class, or have a break between your classes, why don't you go talk to them. Obviously, it's free so you don't need to worry about making any sort of payment to them. They're there to listen & it could really help your situation.
If you don't think you should see one right now since you're going to a university near home soon, then see the counselor at the school you're switching to.
Your boyfriend doesn't understand what you're going through because you're not being verbal. Remember that your boyfriend loves you & wants to hear what you have to say. He's concerned & you're not conversing your issues with him, and that's why he's becoming frustrated. He's there for you, so try & open up. Say what you need to say however you find you need to.
I don't know how else to help, but remember that there are people who specialize in this on your campus, and that your boyfriend is there for you. And I hope this helps because I have been in your position when I was in high school (I'm not in college yet), and I can relate so much. I really hope you get this worked out & that you end up getting the help you need. Depression is a terrible, scary thing. :( Good luck!
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I am going to make these nice and sweet you are a 21 year old female in college in a new city where no one knows you,these is the prime of your life dont worry about things you dont have control of go out in the new city have some fun and meet some new people i am pretty sure thats why you picked to go out of state in the first place so get up and get to it..... oh yea call your brother and tell him to leave the weed alone and pick up a book or a girl what ever gets his attention besides pot....{live life dont let it live you{[esa]
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well, to start off if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to email me at jessipaige1@gmail.com
and sometimes you can do simple things like exercising that makes you feel better. when you exercise it will relieve a lot of your stress and send endorphins to your brain making you happier.
but sometimes its a little more serious than that and you might want to take a mental health day and set up an appointment with a psychiatrist.
also you might want to take a day off to destress. i know you think you are too busy to do that but it will make you feel a lot better in the long run if you take time to have a long warm bubble bath or read or draw or write. anything relaxing that you enjoy doing.
i hope you feel better :)
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