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urges to cut
15/f
i used to cut but recently i've been having urges to do it and i find it hard to ignore them. have any suggestions on how to make the urges stop? i've tried scraping my arm with a pen so it doesnt leave any marks but that doesn't seem to satisfy the urges.
thanks
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Ideally, you should see a counselor if the urges keep popping up again. At least you are willing to stop, which is the important part, but you can't just substitute another way to inflict pain on yourself because you are perpetuating harm to yourself, just in a different form. It's a vicious cycle that is not doing you any good. This is not exactly the best solution but if you can just cut down little by little each day with something mild and not go "cold turkey" all at once that may help if you can't just switch into doing something else completely and you don't want to seek outside help. Or, carry a stress ball around with you and squeeze the hell out of that ball if you get the urge.
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Hey!
I totally understand where you're coming from, I
use to cut, when I stopped I got aweful urges...
And I found it really hard to ignore them, I turned
to drugs, not a very good idea, but when I got off
the drugs, I wanted to cut again.
We have a punching bag in our garage... whenever I
Feel like cutting, or doing drugs... I just bash
the shit out of that thing.
If you don't have one... maybe join a gym...
Just please, please, please don't turn to drugs...
their NEVER the answer!
Peace.
xx
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I don't understand why you want to cause yourself physical pain. I've never cut & never plan on it, but I do know people who have & occasionally do...I just can't talk to them about it in public.
My friend once told me that people who cut are trying to cause physical pain that outweighs their emotional pain.
The only problem with that is the fact that you see the aftermath- scars.
You're now looking for another way to cause yourself pain & that doesn't look or sound right, so I know it can't feel right.
What's going to happen, or may already be happening, is that you will lose trust in yourself & your self control....When you can't trust yourself, who can you trust?
You can't try to cause yourself more physical pain each time you feel depressed. Because each time you see the scars from the last time you cut, you'll be ashamed & blame yourself...then be depressed again. You'll just try to cause yourself more harm by burning yourself or something. Imagine what would happen if something really awful happened, worse than anything that could've gotten you into this situation (you're probably not aware of WHAT made you depressed, because I'm getting out of that depression rut & still don't know what got me stuck in it.) If you tried to equate some form of physical pain with an awful incident in your external world, you might find yourself standing on the edge of a tower, staring down. And all you'll be thinking of is the "fact" that this physical pain will justify the emotional pain you're facing...but it won't. It will just kill you. And it will cause that same emotional pain, tenfold, for all the people you leave behind who love & care for you.
If you've ever tried to block out one emotion, it could've caused you to block out more than one emotion. Maybe this is why you're seeking pain.
Because if you, at one point, decided to never be disappointed by anything, no matter what, because you had been disappointed so many times, you didn't realize it, but you decided to abandon the ability to realize when something good happens & to be happy about it.
When one stops feeling emotion, they feel the need to feel something, so they result to physical pain.
Which one is you?
If you told a loved one or a friend or even a complete stranger about your problems, you would begin to feel a sense of understanding. Like you're not alone. Sometimes, on darker days, it helps a lot just to know someone's there to help & they're listening.
Maybe if you felt love, you wouldn't feel the need for pain.
Feel better.
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You need to see a counselor. Wanting to cause yourself pain is dangerous, and you will end up doing whatever it takes to get satisfied.
I used to cut, and did so for 4-5 years, and am proud to say I have stopped. I used music & friends to get myself to stop. Maybe you could do the same?
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hey, try finding a hobby, something to distract your hands. try doing sports or even kniting.... but remember, we dont want you to get hurt, and dont hurt yourself because you are precious
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Hey there,
I really hope you can help yourself to stop.
God loves you, your mother loves you, your friends love you.. the list goes on.
Dont ever think that no one loves you, or that you can't get over something that is frustrating you. You have good power and strength to overcome anything! You are Beautiful, don't let anyone tell you otherwise :)
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I love you <3
~ gr8fruit
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