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I'm very outgoin, but when I'm alone I act somewhat depressin. I like helpin people when they are most vernurable. So I would say I'm somewhat sympathetic, or compassionate. But I can also be "bitchy", at times, since I know if I'm always nice I'll be a doormat. my favorite line is "live your life". im one of those people that believe what happens are meant to happen for a reason, our single inevitable purpose as a human is to die. there is no stopping it.

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18 female!
Basically, I had been with my boyfriend for 10 months. I have never loved anyone as much as i love him but i wasnt happy! I hardly ever saw him, he wanted to be with his friends at the weekend and I seen him about 2 nights a week if I was lucky enough. I was really hurting inside because i love him so much and wanted to be with him as much as possible, so I decided i would confront him about it, I explained that i would like to see him a bit more and asked if he could give up 1 night at the weekend to be with me, basically asked him to spend more time with me! but he wasnt happy, he said i was making him choose between me and his friends and said it would be best if we were apart! Now im left without the one person i loved most in the world!
did i do the right thing by tellin him how i felt even though it resulted in me loosing him?

dear doubtful,
never, i repeat never, regret what u just did. if he cant spend a night with you instead of his friends, which he probably sees everyday, then that means that he doesnt think you r worth it..... but you know what. you are definitely worth it, and never doubt that. he is going think back one day and realize how stupid he was.

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Ok so im sorry if this is long but i really need help. So my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and 2 months now, but we have broken up quite a few times, two of them were because he cheated on me. Well this summer we were'nt dating and i really liked this kid Coston, his family and mine are really close but anyways we had a thing almost all summer long and then when school started again me and Jordan (kid mentioned at beginning) started dating again so mine and Costons thing just kinda ended well now i started talking to Coston again and i am really starting to like him again and im not sure what to do... i mean Jordan has hurt me a lot before and i dont really trust him but Coston has never hurt me and he just makes me smile. Dont get me wrong i love my boyfriend but i just dont know what to do anymore and i would really like some help!! Thanks for reading, hope it makes sense =]

dear confused,
go to coston. i cant believe how many times i hav had to say this. there is never an excuse for cheating..... the guy that cheated should be left in sorrow, wondering why he was dumb enough to let you go... so go with coston... best of luck for u

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15/f
i used to cut but recently i've been having urges to do it and i find it hard to ignore them. have any suggestions on how to make the urges stop? i've tried scraping my arm with a pen so it doesnt leave any marks but that doesn't seem to satisfy the urges.
thanks

hey, try finding a hobby, something to distract your hands. try doing sports or even kniting.... but remember, we dont want you to get hurt, and dont hurt yourself because you are precious

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ok well i have this boyfrined and we have been going out for like 8 or 9 monthes and we always talk about him fingering me and i told him he could. but my problem is like when he went up my shirt i had this weird feeling in my crotch it was like a thudding or throbbing feeling is the same thing gunna happen when he fingers me?!?!whats goin on?!? and how can i stop it?!?!?is there n e thing i can do?!?!?? please help quick ~Kelli

dear kelli, congratz, you finally got your first experience with lust.... that feeling you get means that you are aroused, and its gonna get stronger when he fingers you... and this wont stop, unless you arent attracted to him anymore, which i doubt is going to happen..... but no worries, just thinl about it this way, when you guys get more intimate, your bf will also have that feeling in his place.......

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ok i like this guy. his name is Shay. I think his realy cute but none of my freinds do. but every time i talk to him, which isnt often cuse im to scared, he usaly says something mean like leave me alone dork or stupid. hes lives close by me but we never hangout. a couple of weeks ago he wrote a note that was from his freind. I started to consiteorite it and i wrote a note back asking why he wannted to go out with me and he told me hapened. i said that i never said i would, just that i wannted to know why. well they never let that down. and so know Shay makes fun of me becuse of that stupid note he wrote. but i realy like him and he just makes fun of me. does that mean he likes me? should i tell him? should i stay away from him? what should i do?

--->mandy

dear mandy, if a guy is a jeck, then you should stay away from him...find a better guy, one that likes you enough to compliment you, not insult you... i know that you probably hear "he picks on you because he likes you", but it is not true. if a guy really likes you, he wont want you to feel bad... trust me, i have seen my best friends cry because of that assumption... get over him, because if he is too much of a jerk to insult you, its his loss

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I KNOW ITS LONG BUT PLEASE READ IT AND HELP ME!


ok so theirs this guy and we were friends before
and we still are kinda but anyways his name is ryan and he asked me out and asked out this other girl to but i thought he was just messing around and at that time i didnt like him so i said "NO" and then like 2 - 3 weeks later or more he askes out ciara i dont know her but then at lunch my friend Miranda askes him "hey do u like Allisson " and he said "yeah! kinda "and when she told me i was falling for him (liking him) and that made me think does he like me? but anyways last wesenday afterschool he and his girlfriend were holding hands and they were all the way by the buses and i was talking to my friends by the office and he was holding ciaras hand while pointing like he might have said lets go over their and i told my friends that about the wesenday part and they said "hes probley just using ciara to make u jelouse and ya!" so im like "no thats messed up"and then my other friend kara told me that (he was talking bout me how i hang out to much with my best friend melanie and its because shes like my sister) (by the way his friends come up to me and be like do you like ryan)And i always say "NO Y DOES EVERYONE KEEP SAYING THAT"

i do not believe that he likes you, but he might be attracted to you..... if a guy asks you out and then asks someone else, he is up to no good..... but you are the one to decide if you can risk it... dont think that what others think is happening is true, they are not mindreaders, and if they have proof that the guy said he likes you, remember, guys lie as much as girls do

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My X-gf broke up with me and now I'm going out with her best friend cause my X said that she didnt care, but it turns out that my X still likes me, What do I do?

wat do you think... do you like your X still... or do you just want to be friends... spend some time in ur room thinkin over this...

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Okay, first off, this guy who i dont like, gave me this other guy that i knows phone number when i asked for HIS! Second, he blocked me on aim when i didnt do anything to him, again, i dont like him, but i am trying to be friends......
Am i doing anything wrong and any advice?

i think you arent doing anything wrong... i think its his own problem that he cant comprehend that you jus want to be friends... i think that you are a great person and he is just thinking too much into it

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Ohkay, So at the beginning of my freshman year, [i'm a sophmore now] i became really close with a boy in my biology class. he was my BEST FRIEND. around march, we started dating, because we were absolutly crazy about eachother. we're still dating now, but..he moved to minnesota. i didn't think doing a long distance realationship would be bad, since we were dating about five months before he left. but i just feel like i'm holding him back, from, dating other people, or meeting other people. hes absolutly sure that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. but the other night he told me that hes terrified of losing me, that hes afraid someone else will come along and make me feel the same way he does. i know thats not true at all. but should i still be with him? should i wait til we're older and able to be together, not just "dating together" but physically together, with eachother all the time?

i don't know, i've just really been thinking about it lately. hes the most important thing in my life, and don't doubt it when i say i love him. because i do. i thought i loved other guys before, but it was nothing like this is for me. its the best feeling in the world. i just want to know if i'm doing the right thing by staying with him..

long distance realationships can work... i dont think that if you hav such a faithful boyfriend, u should worry... you arent holdin him back... he is terrified of losin you... you guys separatin is the only thing that will hold him back...

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i got 3 simples wierd questions im 14/M

1:What is an averge penius size ? when ur an adult of i dunno

2:when i make out with girls i heard they like to get their lips bite? buh i dont know exactly how and where i should? and if i should kiss their necks?


3:i had tons of changes to have sex buh i never want to cuh i mscared if the condoms pops and its such an urger what should i do !?

1. the average size is 4 inches...
2. just tug on their lip a little, and do a line of little kisses on their neck...

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Help me! My mom is too overprotective! She told me that I can't get a boyfriend until I'm OUT OF COLLEGE! How do I tell her that I would be WAY TOO OLD by the time I'm out of college to get a bf?

tell your mom that she cant chose everything you do in life, its your life and although she wants what is best for you, sometimes what she thinks is best for you isnt always the best... you can chose your own life just like she chose hers... its your life not hers...

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ok i need professionals on this one ok a week ago i had sex without protection and ever since i have been throwing up for 3 days in row and feeling sick most of the day i think i am just sick but could it be possible for me to already fell signs of mornign sickness
(first time) maybe just nerves

it probably is a sign, you might be pregnant... also check if you are getting your period and if your appetites has changed...

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okay. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a year now. and i really really love him. infact we talk about getting married one day. heres the problem, im young. 15. same for him. is it odd for us to be thinking that far ahead even when we are so young? i mean i can't doubt us being in love, and we just feel that connection. and its been there from the start. there are no dull moments. yes we have been through alot, but it was my fault(i was diagnosed with a brain disorder about halfway though everything and had to spend alot of time in the hospital). but i honestly think that we have a future together. does anyone think this is odd?

your never to young to think of marriage... if you love each other I think its great that you found someone that wants to get married to you... love is something that can happen at any age... feel free to talk about marriage...

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im kind of confused by the way my boyfriend acts. most of the time it seems like he really likes me. at school, we ate lunch together every day and he always walked with me to class. now that its summer, he calls me every day and always wants to hang out. he's super affectionate when we're alone together, and also when we're around a few of his guy friends, or with another couple. but the weird thing is... whenever we're at a big party or with a whole bunch of people, he kind of ignores me. he leaves me by myself while he runs around and flirts with other girls. its like, when other girls are around, he doesnt want to act like he likes me. what do you think this means?? btw we're both 13 and have been going out for 1 1/2 years.

if he's ignoring you like that, it means that he doesnt want to look as if he has a girlfriend... dump him... find a guy that wants to be seen with you, and wont ignore you...

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my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. early in our relationship he cheated on me with one of my friends (it was like a one-time thing) but we got past that and i know hes been faithful since then. well he just got back from vacation and the first thing he tells me is that he had hooked up with this girl he met at the beach. he was like sobbing and saying that he felt so bad about it but he had to tell me cuz he didnt want to keep anything from me, and that it didnt mean anything and that he hates himself for being so stupid, and how much he loves me, and please forgive him.

well i know your gonna say dump the jerk. and maybe i should. but then i think, maybe i should forgive him? i mean, at least he was honest about it. he didnt have to tell me and i never wouldve found out. and we have been going out for so long, im the only girlfriend hes ever had, so maybe its natural that he'd be curious about other girls, even though he really does love me? or am i just making excuses for him because i love him and dont want to lose him? but if i stay with him, is that sending the message that its okay to cheat on me? is he really just a cheater and always will be? or was it really just a mistake? i dont know what to do!

there is never a good excuse for cheating... if he hooks up with someone else it means that he wants someone better than you... you DESERVE a guy that wants you and only you... your making the "but he felt sad and cried excuse", but in reality, he doesnt deserve someone as forgiving as you...so dump him and look for a better guy... and if he says he misses you, dont fall for it... he SHOULD miss you, because you are are deeply missable...

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I don't get it. I'm a smart guy but I can't get over her. Its been almost a year, and I can only think about her- the girl that I was going to marry. She's gone now- and I'm miserable. I'm exhausted, on the verge of tears, and all I want to do is "leave las vegas".

What can I do to help with this pain?

I think that you should find a woman that wont leave you, she'll already gone now... you deserve better than that... becauce there is a girl out there that wont leave and wants to marry you...

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First of all, I am Gina and im almost 15 years old. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 months. He lives 60 miles away from me. I am a girl and i am straight. I want to tell my mom that i had sex with him, but she would flip. I know that i shouldnt lie to her, but i want to see him again. How can i tell her that i did?
PLEASE help....

although your mom will get mad at you, I think that if she cares about you, shell let you chose wats right for yourself... make it clear to her that you dont want to lie to her and that your serious about this relationship...

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everyone tells me that if a guy really liked me he'd ask me out, but isn't it possible that a guy could really like you and not ask you out because he's either afraid of rejection or getting hurt again?

i think that some guys are just as shy as girls are so why dont you make the first move...

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ok, im a sorta preppy girl, and i really like this guy whose a skater. He listens to like Metallica and stuff, and skateboards and plays video games. Im pretty sure (99%) that he likes me too. we always talk on IM, and i need some good conversasion starters becuase were so different. Any suggestions? thanks =]

i think you should go for it... havent you ever heard of opposites attract

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okay so i don't know what to do. i've been going out with this girl for over a year now and i'm starting to get board. we have sex, that's great, but i'm not used to being with people, i can't break up with her, she'd be devstated. i don't know how to tell her that i'm just so board, but i don't know how to make things interesting again... can anyone help? please!

tell your girlfriend that although you had feelings for her at first, it isnt going well. She deserves a guy who is better for her, because you need a girl that wont bore you...

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