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She's With Him
I don't get it. I'm a smart guy but I can't get over her. Its been almost a year, and I can only think about her- the girl that I was going to marry. She's gone now- and I'm miserable. I'm exhausted, on the verge of tears, and all I want to do is "leave las vegas".
What can I do to help with this pain?
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I'm really sorry about what happened but you need to get over this girl. Its hard, its got to be considering the situation but you are obviously hurting too much for your own good. I say that you get together with one good friend and relax at your house. Get some junkfood and your favorite movies. Talk about it with him or her. Cry if you have to. That will hopefully be your last night grieving. Then the next night go out and try to have fun. Maybe try to meet another girl, if your ready. Try to go out a lot until you are completely over it.
Another thing. If you believe in soulmates then obviously she wasnt your soul mate. You just need to find her.
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Attraction forms relationship and relationship creates attachment.Attachment is the route of all pain and sorrows in this world. The pain of losing your love can't be quatified or shown in degrees. I won't say that you shouldn't cry or take out your emotion in tears. This is human nature, we are not machine who are deprived of all emotion and I wonder on those who make comments like "be a man" or "be brave", after all ask from your self that is it possible.
But one thing is possible and that is instead of pretending or taking hipocratic way of living life you should understand the concept of living and then you will feel that there is nothing to cry or to weep. Because you can fool world but it won't be easy to fool your soul and mind.
The solution of your query lies in overcoming your emotions not trying to pretend.
You said that you want to leave for Las Vegas, so carry the 3 antidotes of overcoming emotion.
1. Understand one thing that circumstances is not in your hand. Had it been in your hand, you would have easily manipulate as per your wish. It is the time who plays every thing for you.
So STOP WORRYING!!!!!!
2. Remember that you were born alone and empty hand, you didn't carry anything in this world so it is worthless to repent. Because the thing which you are saying lost, was it really yours? did you created it? The answer is no, then why to worry for this?
3. Emotions are RDX, they are packed with explosives the moment you will lose control on it they are going to devastate you. Always use your emotions as a powerful tool to overcome all the trouble rather to be carried away with it.
Enjoy :-mumbo_molu@yahoo.com
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First off, being smart has nothing to do with what your heart feels. Even the most intelligent person can get their heart broken and have a hard time getting over it. Your mind may be telling you one thing and your heart another. You know what you have to do, but it's another thing to do it.
Your pain is completely understandable. After all, you were planning to marry this person. To find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and have them not feel the same, is one of the most heart breaking things that can happen to someone. It will take some time for you to get over it. Some people take months, others take years.
The best thing to do is to keep yourself occupied. Keep busy. Do positive things for yourself and others. Surround yourself around good friends and positive people. Eventually, you will get over it. It's hard to see that now. But you will. You will meet someone who you will love more and who will love you back just as much.
Remember, if you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it was meant to be. If it doesn't, it was never meant to be in the first place.
Good luck!
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im sorry about what happen... buh try to keep your mind active and talk to other girls... and if that dont work then just talk to your parents ... unless u already did then juss get over it not in a rude way.. everyone leaves someday so juss dont cry no more if she left means she wasnt the right girl for you.. and if ur a smart guys ? think smart? and MOVE ON
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Your brain may be smart, but it is always different with your heart, i apologize about the girl leaving you. I think its time for you to do some serious moping binge eating etc. and then tell yourself: ok im going to get over it theres nothing i can do about it so its over, im going to get back to life and get over my emotions, and when you feel ready date again, though there is never a gaurantee that the person will stay.
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I think that you should find a woman that wont leave you, she'll already gone now... you deserve better than that... becauce there is a girl out there that wont leave and wants to marry you...
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I looked back over some of your previous questions, and it seems like you've suffered enough.
I split up with my fiancee of 3 years around 18 months ago, and have since found myself a lovely woman whom I love dearly.
Although initially it was difficult to deal with, I found getting back onto the "dating scene" to be very theraputic and I'm totally happy with things now.
I suggest you get out there and start looking for somebody new!
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