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DancinCutie08
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hey..
ive been with my guy for nearly a year now...
everytime im with him, if hes happy im over the moon, wen hes unhappy i always think there is something wrong. and the thing is i always seem to get really emotional wen im around him. i dont no y and i feel if i dont stop im gonna lose him. even just over the littlest things, i get upset so easily, even if he says something wrong, or doesnt give me affection... y is that? my emotions evolve around him! is it becuase im truely inlove with him.. wen im not around him i want to be and all that stuff.. we do tell each other that we love each other and all that, but i feel sometimes thats not enough. they say love hurts, and im thinking that it truely does. can someone give me some advice on how to be more stronger in a relationship, becuase im at witts end, i dont no wat to do.. how do i stop these emotions?
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hi
I went through your question. It contains your thoughts that is full of attachment with your boy friend. It is nice to be concerned for a being but not to that extent where you start losing control over your emotion. If you really loving your boy friend then you have to understand the concept of love.
1.Your emotion can't be stated as love, though you love your boyfriend.I understand my words are bitter but to be frank enough you are creating an atmospere of SYMPATHY. The constant fear of losing your boy friend is only adding to it and gradually you are becoming more sympathetic to him. If you want to bail out of the situation and make your mind relax then first try to have faith on you, on your boy friend and the love you have within. Dear always remember my one statement that love is not that arise due to sympathy or from the fear of losing but it is what created when there is an affection in the mind and feeling of two individuals.
2. The last but not the least thing about relationship is that, to have a long and concrete relation ship, you need to have a solid base of crystal clear understanding with your partner. The more clearer you would be with your thoughts, feelings and emotion the more powerful would be the stability of that relationship which forms under the fellowship of God.
Even reading this any doubt prevails in your mind then feel free to contact me: mumbo_molu@yahoo.com
thanks and regards
mumbo_molu
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today the day before my bday my mom comes right out with me and dad are getting a divorce. im freaking out and ive had a party with my friends for like 3 weeks so i cant bail out. what can i do? i know i cant change thier minds but my dad takes it out on me and my sibs and my moms all depressed. so i guess what im asking is if your parents got a divorce how did it turn out? should i be worried? (link)
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Dear
It pains a lot when there is a problem in family, after all we live for our family. Getting divorce is not a small topic which could be summarised in a paragraph. Now at this point when you think that you can't tranquilise the situation so its time to tranquilise yourself.
What you are facing, the similar situation I've already faced.If you are the eldest guy or gal in the family then take responsibility to face the situation rather weeping on it. Your mother who is depressed, talk with her and make her feel that you don't want to see her crying till you are in this world. You know your few words will give hope of living life with joy and peace.
You would be thinking about your self? How to control your own emotions? So I'll provide you the 2 antidotes to overcome any problem of your life.
1 Understand one thing very clearly that circumstances are not in your hand. Had been it in your hand, you could have easily changed it.SO BE CALM AGAINST ANY SITUATION COZ ANXIETY WILL CAUSE MORE FRUSTURATION NOTHING ELSE. IT IS THE "TIME" WHO PLAYS EVERYTHING FOR YOU.
2 When you were born in this world, you came alone, you didn't carry anything in this world. Whatever you got in form of relationship, friendship and family, you got here only. SO ASK THE QUESTION FROM YOURSELF THAT IF I DIDN'T BRING ANY THING, SO WILL I LOOSE ANYTHING? Certainly not. SO STOP WORRYING........
Still if you are not satisfied with your mind and my resolution then please feel free to right me , mumbo_molu@yahoo.com or provide your feedback.
Thanks and Regards
mumbo_molu
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im 15/f. never had a boyfriend or kiss :(. i feel like time is running out for me to just experiment. like i never got to go through that phase of a boyfriend for a week and then dump him. (not that i really wanted to.) i feel like by time i get a boyfriend, he'll be expecting more from me than i've experienced. im not going to let him pressure me into doing anything but im just saying. i really dont even know what im asking advice for, but i guess i just need help on how to cope with this situation? (link)
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Dear
I don't know from which part of world you are? But your question holds lot of importance for you and for all those who have just reached the teenage phase of their life.
At the age of 15, it is nothing unusual of arising feelings to have a boy friend, being kissed from him, and some absurd desire of directly or indirectly getting pleasure. It happens and this is a natural phenomenon caused by hormonal changes in your body. At this age you may be allured when you see kissing and hugging and your mind will give provocation to happen the same with your self. But remember this is the most vulnerable phase of your life, if you don't hold your emotions then anyone can misguide you for his evil intentions often leading to sexual exploitation.
Your question is the mixture of wild feelings and emotions that you have to control, so when you grow a fine groomed lady and a perfect female, you don't have to regret upon your past action. When you will understand all this, then you will become mature enough to judge a responsible partner,,,or in your terms--your boy friend.
After reading this if still any doubt or query remains in your mind, please feel free to contact, mumbo_molu@yahoo.com...or provide your feedback to me.
Thanks and regards
mumbo_molu
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There is this guy from work who started showing an interest in me about 8 months ago. At first he flirted really heavily with me and would go out of his way to talk to me and rub my shoulder. Then he cooled off for a while. Around mid february he started being flirty again after i told my boss that i thought he was cute. This one day he even asked indirectly if i was on my own, meaning if i was single. So then i flirted really heavily back one day which seemed to freak him out although it was clear he enjoyed the attention because his face lit up and he got this love sick look but then he looked embarrassed. Now he initiates more conversations with me and acts more like a friend and he doesn't flirt anymore although it's very obvious by his body language and eye contact he's super attracted to me. So back to my original question, what excactly are he and i? (link)
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Hi
Flirting or being flirted is the absurd state of mind, where you can easily determine that the things which are happening with you or you are performing can't be rationalised. But the absence of insight will 99.99% tend you to remain indulge just for fractional pleasure that is often misunderstood as the beginning of love.
If your case is true, then it properly reflects that how much out of track you are and how easily you are letting another person to play with your self or vice-versa. If you are really interested in that guy then first give name to your feelings and end all the confusion. Freaky
relationship will give you nothing more than painful ending, troubled personal and professional career, depression and at the end nothing is left. So its your turn to decide that exactly who are you and he.
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So I have an aunt, an uncle, and three cousins that moved out of state. It broke my heart when I first heard they were leaving, and I only get to see them once a year. I was so close to all of them, especially one cousin in particular. Let's call him A.
A and I have been like best friends ever since we met. We were close about everything, and had the kind of relationship where you could talk about everything together because we weren't afraid to. We trusted each other & have only fought ONCE! We have an incredible bond like no one else... nobody can ever break that bond.
Whenever we get together, it's never awkward between us. The Tom-Boy just comes right out in me and I love that. He brings out something in me, a side that no one else can bring out.
It's probably been about 2 or 3 years since they've moved and I've grown used to it. He's 12 and I'm 13. We're both at the age where we understand what's going on. We can only see each other once a year and it breaks my heart.
On a higher note, we've been communicating through e-mail which is great. It's so fantastic to still be talking to him even if it's not in person. It lets me know he's always there to talk to me even though he's 2 million miles away. :)
So my question is, how can I tell him I miss him without sounding all sappy and mushy?
We've never talked like that before.
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Hi
I went through your question rather I say emotions which you hold for the next. You know memories sometime behave in a crazy way, they leave you alone when you are in a crowd and when you are alone they stand like a crowd. Your problem is not that you are not able to express but you don't know what to express.
When we understand a fellow very deeply it creates a bond of attachment and this attachment is inarticulated.In absence of that concern, we feel restless and miss very much which is a natural state of mind. There is no degree of defining how much an individual can miss another.
Don't let your feeling to spread and your mind in dilemma. If you want to express your emotions then first give name to it because without knowing your goal, how can you move towards it?
Once it all happens and you are fully convinced with your self then contact him and precisely in your own terms express your self
Thanks and regards
mumbo_molu@yahoo.com
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I don't get it. I'm a smart guy but I can't get over her. Its been almost a year, and I can only think about her- the girl that I was going to marry. She's gone now- and I'm miserable. I'm exhausted, on the verge of tears, and all I want to do is "leave las vegas".
What can I do to help with this pain? (link)
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Attraction forms relationship and relationship creates attachment.Attachment is the route of all pain and sorrows in this world. The pain of losing your love can't be quatified or shown in degrees. I won't say that you shouldn't cry or take out your emotion in tears. This is human nature, we are not machine who are deprived of all emotion and I wonder on those who make comments like "be a man" or "be brave", after all ask from your self that is it possible.
But one thing is possible and that is instead of pretending or taking hipocratic way of living life you should understand the concept of living and then you will feel that there is nothing to cry or to weep. Because you can fool world but it won't be easy to fool your soul and mind.
The solution of your query lies in overcoming your emotions not trying to pretend.
You said that you want to leave for Las Vegas, so carry the 3 antidotes of overcoming emotion.
1. Understand one thing that circumstances is not in your hand. Had it been in your hand, you would have easily manipulate as per your wish. It is the time who plays every thing for you.
So STOP WORRYING!!!!!!
2. Remember that you were born alone and empty hand, you didn't carry anything in this world so it is worthless to repent. Because the thing which you are saying lost, was it really yours? did you created it? The answer is no, then why to worry for this?
3. Emotions are RDX, they are packed with explosives the moment you will lose control on it they are going to devastate you. Always use your emotions as a powerful tool to overcome all the trouble rather to be carried away with it.
Enjoy :-mumbo_molu@yahoo.com
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Ok thsi is really grossing me out! Everytime i go into the bathroom, there's like crusty crums that's liek brown on our toilet seat and it's ALWAYS my brother who goes in before me!
Is it anything bad or gross that has to do with his...thing?
I odn't want to get into it if it's boy stuff but I don't want to make it akward by asking him but it's really grossing me out! (link)
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hi
You know this type of questions do arises in mind when we reach in the age of adolescence. Our mind starts noticing everything about sexual activities and many times seen that it also starts co relating things with that. This is nothing mere curousity and hormonal changes, see here we can't exactly say in the case of your brother without going in detail and it is not nice to put suspicion on anyone. Moreover the basic question lies that why I should awkward even if he is doing boy stuffs and yes there is nothing to feel awkward or to be embarrsed.
It is hormonal changes and universal phenomenon of life and nature. So there is no need from your side to ask any question on this topic.
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