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divorce
today the day before my bday my mom comes right out with me and dad are getting a divorce. im freaking out and ive had a party with my friends for like 3 weeks so i cant bail out. what can i do? i know i cant change thier minds but my dad takes it out on me and my sibs and my moms all depressed. so i guess what im asking is if your parents got a divorce how did it turn out? should i be worried?
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My parents are divorced too. They divorced when I was about three years old though, so I didn't have to go through the process. The end result was that I was told to live with my dad and grandparents, and we could visit my mom every other weekend.
It was all good until recently when my parents have been getting into a lot more arguments and refuse to speak to each other at all. Living with my grandparents too has made it like living with a different type of mom, because she can be very irritating and nosy.
Don't be worried. Think about it this way: Would you rather them fight all the time and you have to live with all that, or would you rather them be seperate and happy once they find other people? Just comfort them and they'll calm down.
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It pains a lot when there is a problem in family, after all we live for our family. Getting divorce is not a small topic which could be summarised in a paragraph. Now at this point when you think that you can't tranquilise the situation so its time to tranquilise yourself.
What you are facing, the similar situation I've already faced.If you are the eldest guy or gal in the family then take responsibility to face the situation rather weeping on it. Your mother who is depressed, talk with her and make her feel that you don't want to see her crying till you are in this world. You know your few words will give hope of living life with joy and peace.
You would be thinking about your self? How to control your own emotions? So I'll provide you the 2 antidotes to overcome any problem of your life.
1 Understand one thing very clearly that circumstances are not in your hand. Had been it in your hand, you could have easily changed it.SO BE CALM AGAINST ANY SITUATION COZ ANXIETY WILL CAUSE MORE FRUSTURATION NOTHING ELSE. IT IS THE "TIME" WHO PLAYS EVERYTHING FOR YOU.
2 When you were born in this world, you came alone, you didn't carry anything in this world. Whatever you got in form of relationship, friendship and family, you got here only. SO ASK THE QUESTION FROM YOURSELF THAT IF I DIDN'T BRING ANY THING, SO WILL I LOOSE ANYTHING? Certainly not. SO STOP WORRYING........
Still if you are not satisfied with your mind and my resolution then please feel free to right me , mumbo_molu@yahoo.com or provide your feedback.
Thanks and Regards
mumbo_molu
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I'm sort of in the same position. Although I'm not having a party, my parents are getting a divorce soon.
I'm kinda bummed about it, but imagine how much better things will be. Your dad won't take things out on you, your mom/siblings will be happier & things will be easier.
Sure it'll be weird not having one of your parents around, but you'll get used to it eventually. Don't look at this experience as bad. It could be good, so if you think of it positively, it won't suck as much.
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hey, my parents divorced last year. the bad road to take is the one i did... depression. just promise me you wont do that. it turned out really well actually.. yeah there are a few problems still but nothing big. my dad was depressed and my mom was always crying... it was hard to stay strong but it's seriously a must in these kind of situations. talk to your siblings about it rather than making them "lock it up". hope i helped, good luck!
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my parents divorced when i was 5, so it was tuff, but i found it to be better becasue my mom was happier, and with one parent you can get away with more things ;)
also i was happier that they wernt arguing, it might seem bad at the starting but once you get used to it its not bad at all
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