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emotions
hey..
ive been with my guy for nearly a year now...
everytime im with him, if hes happy im over the moon, wen hes unhappy i always think there is something wrong. and the thing is i always seem to get really emotional wen im around him. i dont no y and i feel if i dont stop im gonna lose him. even just over the littlest things, i get upset so easily, even if he says something wrong, or doesnt give me affection... y is that? my emotions evolve around him! is it becuase im truely inlove with him.. wen im not around him i want to be and all that stuff.. we do tell each other that we love each other and all that, but i feel sometimes thats not enough. they say love hurts, and im thinking that it truely does. can someone give me some advice on how to be more stronger in a relationship, becuase im at witts end, i dont no wat to do.. how do i stop these emotions?
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I went through your question. It contains your thoughts that is full of attachment with your boy friend. It is nice to be concerned for a being but not to that extent where you start losing control over your emotion. If you really loving your boy friend then you have to understand the concept of love.
1.Your emotion can't be stated as love, though you love your boyfriend.I understand my words are bitter but to be frank enough you are creating an atmospere of SYMPATHY. The constant fear of losing your boy friend is only adding to it and gradually you are becoming more sympathetic to him. If you want to bail out of the situation and make your mind relax then first try to have faith on you, on your boy friend and the love you have within. Dear always remember my one statement that love is not that arise due to sympathy or from the fear of losing but it is what created when there is an affection in the mind and feeling of two individuals.
2. The last but not the least thing about relationship is that, to have a long and concrete relation ship, you need to have a solid base of crystal clear understanding with your partner. The more clearer you would be with your thoughts, feelings and emotion the more powerful would be the stability of that relationship which forms under the fellowship of God.
Even reading this any doubt prevails in your mind then feel free to contact me: mumbo_molu@yahoo.com
thanks and regards
mumbo_molu
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tell him yoru fealing these amotions! no joke! if you tell him he might feal that way too, and then you guys can wok it out! don't be afraid that your going to break up with him, if he breaks up with you for saying somthing like that, then its not ment to be, no matter how much you love him, and you need to face the facts that if somthing bad does happen, it might be one of the hardest break up of your lifes, but it was worth it because i quote, "im at witts end" , you won't feal that way anymore! hope this helped! ily, mo!
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i had the same problem and i still kind of do. ve been with my boyfriend almost 2 years now. i still get emotional and everything, when hes unhappy i know that it hasnothing to do with me at all, but i still FEEL like it has something to do with me. sometimes you just have to sit and watch a movie or something. get ur mind off of all the things that get you upset. boys minds work muchh differently and ive noticed that. since ive noticed that before ive been getting upset ive been trying to think simpler and of how he might feel, its much different. maybe even as your boyfriend and explain to him how you feel.
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you have to look inside yourself. i had to do the same thing with my last boyfriend. "no one has the power to hurt me the way i do" a quote from surviving the loss of a loved one. and i may not know exactly the meaning of love but i believe it should not hurt! love is supposed to make a person feel good. also, you may be a co-dependent which is deciding how you are feeling based on someone else, example, when asked how i was feeling one day i stated i don't know ask him/her (fill in this spot). it takes time but you will begin to love yourself and feel worthy and derserving of all that comes your way. GOOD LUCK!
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