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what excactly are he and i?
There is this guy from work who started showing an interest in me about 8 months ago. At first he flirted really heavily with me and would go out of his way to talk to me and rub my shoulder. Then he cooled off for a while. Around mid february he started being flirty again after i told my boss that i thought he was cute. This one day he even asked indirectly if i was on my own, meaning if i was single. So then i flirted really heavily back one day which seemed to freak him out although it was clear he enjoyed the attention because his face lit up and he got this love sick look but then he looked embarrassed. Now he initiates more conversations with me and acts more like a friend and he doesn't flirt anymore although it's very obvious by his body language and eye contact he's super attracted to me. So back to my original question, what excactly are he and i?
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Flirting or being flirted is the absurd state of mind, where you can easily determine that the things which are happening with you or you are performing can't be rationalised. But the absence of insight will 99.99% tend you to remain indulge just for fractional pleasure that is often misunderstood as the beginning of love.
If your case is true, then it properly reflects that how much out of track you are and how easily you are letting another person to play with your self or vice-versa. If you are really interested in that guy then first give name to your feelings and end all the confusion. Freaky
relationship will give you nothing more than painful ending, troubled personal and professional career, depression and at the end nothing is left. So its your turn to decide that exactly who are you and he.
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Well, since you haven't officially ever gone out on a date or anything like that, I'd say that you're friends. He may be attracted to you, but since he doesn't flirt as heavily as he used to, it is possible that he decided you would be better off as friends. That could be why he cooled off with the flirtation. He may want to know that you're as interested in him as he is into you. He could be waiting on you to make a move.
You should either talk to him about what you are and what you would like to be or you could just make move. You don't have to be really aggressive at first, just ask him to hang out one day that you're both off. When he sees what you're like outside of work, he may start to think about what it would be like to see you outside of work more.
Just make sure you tell him that you would like to be more than friends, but you're willing to give the 'just friends' thing a shot until he decides if he wants to be more.
Hope this helps.
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