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Unfair Mom
Help me! My mom is too overprotective! She told me that I can't get a boyfriend until I'm OUT OF COLLEGE! How do I tell her that I would be WAY TOO OLD by the time I'm out of college to get a bf?
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She's your mom, you live in her house, you have to listen to her.
Or so everyone says. Personally, I think your moms decision is pretty retarded. Talk to her about it. See what she's so worried about and why she's so overprotective. Once you are 18 though, she really has no right to tell you that you can't date.
But if she still goes on being unreasonable and it's hurting your social/relationship life, then I would go behind her back.
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It's possible she'll have a change of mind & calm down by the time you hit college. Legally, you can make your own decisions @ 18. But as long as you are under her household, you must abide by her rules. You have to remember that she is your mother & she's trying to look out for your best interest. But if she's making major decisions like that when you are in your 20s, she's being too controlling & not letting you learn on your own. And if you don't want to be in that type of environment when you are of age, you have the option to move out. That's my only advice for you. In the meantime, you can try discussing this issue with her. Slowly earn her trust & your freedom. But until you are 18+ & move out, there's not much you can do.
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well that sucks.
but what i would do is get a guy you really like and have him become your bf and than tell your mom because shes not going to hate you shes your mom. just try it its not like she can do much,yakno
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Well seriously, it won't really matter what she says because once you are in college you don't have to listen to her unless under her household. So really it does nto matter what so ever what she says once your in college.
Hope I helped!
Peace and God Bless!
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Once you're in college, you will make rules for yourself, especially if you're no longer living with her. If you get to the point now where you want to make a boy your boyfriend, ask your mom if maybe she can meet him and get to know him that way she will be more comfortable with the situation. Respect her opinion, but find comfort in the fact that she won't run your life forever. I don't know how old you are, but maybe when you get a little older, she will ease up. Chances are she will. Just wait it out, and don't worry about it until it actually happens.
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Well it depends how old you are now. If your like 15 and under then your mom is going to say that. Obviously she cant control if you date or not because you'll an adult at 18. And even before you reach adulthood, how could she stop you, the most she can do is ground you, but I think you can date whenever you want. But just remember that your mom feels like shes just trying to protect you, so take her advice sometimes even when its not about this.
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well first of all how old r u and if you r over 13 then just lett her know you are getting older and arent the little girl you used to be but just hang in there your time will come good luck
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tell your mom that she cant chose everything you do in life, its your life and although she wants what is best for you, sometimes what she thinks is best for you isnt always the best... you can chose your own life just like she chose hers... its your life not hers...
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so i dont know about you, but when i enter college ill just turn 18, and when your 18 you pretty much make up your own rules. what your mother doesnt know wont hurt her. have a boyfriend, but dont tell your parents. even know.. hope i helped<3
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You cannot convince a single person of anything that they don't want to see or believe. All you can do is plead your case and give them information.
Having said that, your mother is more apt to believe an adult she knows such as your aunt, uncle, family friend or teacher that she is wrong and holding back your growth as an adolescent.
One of these people can go up to bat for you and tell her you're a good kid, not interested in sex and that people your age need to have relationships. Your best bet is to inlist an adult you trust to get through to her about this and change some things around.
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Lol okay well most mums are like this. One of my best friends mum actually called up her first boyfriend she ever had and told him to leave her alone, which pretty much terrified him so he dumped her. Your mum just doesn't want you to get hurt and most parents these days are worried about their kids having sex. If you end up really liking a guy, then i think you should just date him, its not like she can stop you. Dont try and go behind her back because she'll end up being betrayed. When you do get a boyfriend and tell her, yeah she'll be mad but if you show her your acting respoinsibly with the guy and not like a hormonal teen then she could calm down a little. She can't stop you from having a boyfriend but you have to understand shes just worried about you. Its sweet in a way that she cares so much for you. One day when your a parent you'll understand how it is and probably make your daughter wait to have a boyfriend lol. It is your choice though, not hers so date who you want. I dont think she's really going to listen to reason.
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