about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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so about half an hour ago i was watching 20/20 on ABC and they talked about a disorder where people pull out their hair and eyelashes and eyebrow hairs. i missed what it was called because it was so long but i know it started with a T. if anyone knows what this was can you let me know?

thanks

Yes! I'm NOT the only one who watches 20/20! =]


Anywho...
Yes, it was called "Trichotillomania", (but they shortened it to just "trich") which I'm almost positive they said is considered to be like Tourettes, because of the frequent unwanted movement, etc.


-Laura. (15-f)

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My bf wants to have sex but i'm scared.... i want to..... but its just that... i dont know... can you just please help me... please.

Don't do it. Plain and simple.


And your boyfriend should respect your morals, and not pressure you into doing something that you aren't ready for.


-Laura. (15-f)

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Jumping in general increases your chance of getting taller.

This is an urban legend.
Jumping does NOT make you taller.


-Laura. (15-f)

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Are short like cocktail dresses kinda weird for prom? should they be long and formal? whats your opnion for prom dresses.. THANKS

My opinion is that you should wear what YOU want and what YOU'RE comfortable in.

I mean, you only go to prom once (well, sometimes twice) so you should wear whatever dress you want!


-Laura. (15-f)

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My sister has really strange eating habits, but it doesn't sound like an eating disorder that I have heard of. She eats less than 100 calories for breakfast. At school she eats grapes for lunch and throws away her sandwich. She tries not to let anyone see her do it, but I have seen her do it all week. At supper, she eats normally because my parents saw that she wasn't eating as much and she doesn't want them to know.

One day at lunch I saw her eating half of her sandwich. But when we got home, I heard her trying to make herself throw up in the bathroom. She didn't succeed, but maybe that's because she is afraid of throwing up.

Maybe I am making too much of things, but what does this sound like to you? Any help is appreciated. :)

It sounds like something's not right with your sister. It could be a form of anorexia mixed with bulimia. At least, thats what it sounds like to me.


I would tell a parent or a trusted adult, as eating disorders are serious and not something to be left alone.


-Laura. (15-f)

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You see, there is this girl that I like and in language class we make eye contact for almost 3 seconds 2 times each day. I am to shy to talk to her, and she is quiet, and normally doesn't talk to boys. She normally sticks to her friends. I am in 7th grade, and I would like to know what a 7th grade girl does when she likes you, and also if those are signs. Thank you in advanced for your replies!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578

It's really easy to tell if a girl likes you, because we're terrible at hiding it. ESPECIALLY in younger years, like 7th grade.

Eye contact (at least for me) is a definete way of showing you're interested in somebody.

If she's really shy around you, or smiles and whispers to her friends, she probably likes you.


Why don't you ask one of her friends about it? I'm sure they'd know, because that's the first person we girls tell ;]


-Laura. (15-f)

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Hey there. So I've always thought that the show October Road looked really good. But I'm kinda conrfused. So I know that there is the first season on dvd, which I'm planning to buy. But is there a second season on now, or is the second season over, or have they even had a second season?????? Because I tried looking on abc.com and I looked at the episode recaps, but the last episodes were on in 2007. So, is the second season over and be on sale soon, or is it still going or what???? I would much appreciate it if someone could catch me up! Thanks so much!

I know they at least started a second season, because I watched it while the writers were on strike.

I don't think they completed it, though. But you can buy the episodes on iTunes.


-Laura. (15-f)

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ok so im trying to figure out if im in love or in lust.

my bf and i only see each other on the weekends. so during the week we talk a lot and stuff like that and then when we see each other on the weekends we talk and watch tv and stuff but most of the time we makeout. a lot. haha and whenever we are together like at youth group or w/e we are always so attracted to each other and sometimes sneak off to kiss. is this just lust? we care deeply about each other but whenever we are together we always find a way to makeout. and whenever i am with him i want to hold his hand or have him put his arm around me etc.

he and i have been best friends for like 2 yrs and for like 4 months before dating he and i really liked each other but we couldnt date (stupid rule thing) and actually have liked each other off and on since the beginning of school last year. we are extremely close friends and he knows me better than anyone but whenever we are together we just want to makeout. we have always had this attraction to each other and we have this bond. i always know where he is and he always knows what im doing. we are just that close. but now im worried that we are too focused on making out. i know i could just stop kissing him so much but i LOVE to kiss and its so much fun. and it is an important part of a relationship isnt it? im just confused and idk.

i went away for the week and saw my old friends and barely thought about him compared to normally. i was so busy and having tons of fun with my old friends that he didnt even seem to matter all that much. Monday was our 3 month anniversary. and his phone isnt working so i couldnt talk to him either. so idk maybe thats why i didnt think about him? im not sure and i had always thought i was in love but now i just feel like we are best friends who are lustful and want to makeout with each other. but thats what a boyfriend is right? a best friend that you want to be intamte with? please just tell me what you think cause im confused!! haha thanks and i will rate all your advice/opinions/ideas :]

I do not think that you are in love if you not only have to ask random straingers on the internet, but because you have to ask in the first place.


-Laura. (15-f)

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i'm making a cd for my boyfriend and i have a few cute songs and like "you make me a better person" songs haha but i only have like four :[ please help meee!!!!

I think I'll answer this because nobody's really given more than 3 songs.
Here are my suggestions:


Anyone Else But You- Backseat Goodbye.
My Beautiful Rescue- This Providence.
Die Alone- Ingrid Michaelson.
Run To You- The Rocket Summer.
Your Guardian Angel- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Such Great Heights- The Postal Service.
Without You- The Elliot Project.
Must Have Done Something Right- Relient K.
All That We Needed- Plain White T's.
It Had To Be You- Motion City Soundtrack.
You Be The Anchor- Mayday Parade.


-Laura. (15-f)

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how do you now if a girl likes you

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578


It's really easy to tell if a girl likes you, because we're awful at hiding it. So, if you THINK she's into you, she probably is ;]


-Laura. (15-f)

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I've asked this question before, but i didn't get
the answer i was looking for. I am thinking about getting the T•Mobile Dash. Now i have a few questions, and i want to know the answer to all of them.

- How much is it?
- Does internet come with it, if not how much is that?
- Can you get internet connection anywhere if you have service, or only at your house or starbucks? How does this work?

Can you answer those questions, only if you know the exact answer? thanks!

All you have to do is go on the website.


http://search.t-mobile.com/inquiraapp/ui.jsp?ui_mode=question&question_box=tmobile+dash



-Laura. (15-f)

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what are some jobs that have to do with fashion besides being a fashion designer?

A fashion photographer.

Or maybe somebody who works behind the scenes at fashion shows? Like, somebody who gets the models ready and tells them when to walk the runway, etc.


-Laura. (15-f)

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boyfriend cheated on my with my best friend. (now ex best friend)
so on her myspace, she mentions in her about me; my NAME && calls me 2 faced.
and shes the one who effin kissed my boy.
s0o my question is, why should she right my name? for some reason she turned everyone against me "making is my fault or something" I MEAN WTF.
ugh

**WRITE.

And I completely agree with Laura (the columnist below) this girl is obviously not your friend if she said something nasty about you.
You should dump both this guy and your 'friend' for being total jerks to you.

Just the thing on her myspace, though, because it will all blow over with time.


-Laura. (15-f)

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i have a wart on the bottom of my foot. it's been there for like 7 months and i've heard sometimes they just go away on their own. is that true? and is there anything i can do to help it go away? like any medications or whatever. thanks!

Duct tape. I know it sounds really crazy, but I swear, it works.
I had a wart on my foot (disgusting, I know) 2 summers ago, and nothing but duct tape REALLY worked.


-Laura. (15-f)

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f/13
i want to go farther than a makeout w/ my boyfriend but i asked him how far he would go & he said nothing past makeout. i understand that everyone moves at their own pace or w/e. but is there any way that i can get him to want to go farther?

Don't force him into anything.
Pushing him to do something he isn't comfortable with will ultimately drive him away and cause your relationship to start crumbling.


-Laura. (15-f)

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nobody cares anymore. it's been 3 months since the break up and i had two people who cared about how heartbroken i was [still am]. about a month ago, one of those people stopped acting like they cared. she said she did, but i just knew she didnt. it was clear. now, my only support system left is doing the same thing. she confronted me about how i was talking about myself too much, and i feel like i cant tell her anymore about him. i wouldnt. i would feel to guilty every time i did. i feel like a horrible person. everyone in my life who made life worth living is giving me a reason to be unhappy. first he broke up with me, then my friends started falling apart, my support is slowly fading. i lost myself when we broke up and i cant find myself i have nobody to spill my guts to. i cant be happy. i really cant. i miss him. i just cant deal with this anymore. how to i maintain composure. help? any? please dont say "go out and have fun with friends" cause i dont like them. dont say "distract yourself" cause hes the only thing on my mind no matter what i do.




thanks;
xxhopeless

Break ups aren't the end of the world.

Honestly, do you realize that there are people out there fighting a war and dying everyday. There are people in countries across the world starving every single day. There are people who are living on the streets with nothing. There are people who have 3 months to live and have to cram their whole life into it. There are people who have it SO MUCH WORSE than you do.


I think you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, and move on. Life is too short to dwell on stupid things like a break up (trust me, I've learned this first hand and am not just saying it). Get up and do something. I know you said not to say that, but I don't care. I'm not trying to be rude (so I'm sorry if it came off that way), but I just can't believe that people in this world hate their lives, when in reality, nothing is really there to hate in the first place.


Get these feelings out once and for all. My suggestion is to write them down. Start a journal, and get it all out. Or talk to somebody, your parents or siblings, anyone. Just get it out of your system, and start living your lfie again. You can't change what HAS happened, but you can control what's GOING to happen.


Then, move on. Make NEW friends. Start a NEW hobby. Do SOMETHING besides sitting around and crying over what has happened in the past.


Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.



-Laura. (15-)

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Is phonezoo actually free or a scam? Will i get charged if i send things from it to my phone? Will it cause viruses?

A lot of those programs are scams. My dad and I tried one once, and got a bunch of charges from it on our bill. I wouldn't try it if I were you.


-Laura. (15-f)

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I have been invited to attend an intimate reception for Chelsea Clinton at my university (prior to a speech). It will take place at 5:30 p.m. on a Monday night and I have absolutely no idea what to wear! I'd like to look fashionable and occasion-appropriate. Does anyone have any solid advice?

Well, you want to look mature, yet fashionable, I'm guessing?


How about something like this:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=skirts&product%5Fid=2047976658&Page=1

with this:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=blouse%5Fshirts&product%5Fid=2047354362&Page=1


Or something along those lines?



Or, if you want a dress, how about one of these:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dresses&product%5Fid=2047918221&Page=all

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dresses&product%5Fid=2047901193&Page=all

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dresses&product%5Fid=2044271520&Page=all


Some tips I have:
1. Wear black or other neutral colors.
- You don't want to stick out and look like you're going to a bar or something.
2. Keep it simple.
- Don't load on jewelry or makeup, just keep it low key so that people don't think you were more concerned with your makeup etc than the actual reception.
3. Don't dress too fancy.
- The dresses I choices I gave you, are in my opinion, appropriate and just enough. You don't want to look like you're going to the Golden Globes!


Good Luck! =]


-Laura. (150f)

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my ex bf is telling everyone that me and him did all kinds of things and now everyone thinks im this huge whore and stuff and idk what to do!

First off, don't let him know it upsets you. That is what he WANTS, and if you show weakness, he'll keep doing it, and hurting you even more.


Next, just brush it off, and when somebody brings it up, say something like, "Ha, he wishes!" or "Actually, he's just trying to make it sound like he got a lot more than he did. I would never do things like that!" and change the subject. Let everyone see these rumors and garbage talk don't bother you.


Rumors are always going to be around, and people are going to hurt you in life. But life is way too short to focus on all the bad things. You need to focus on the good, and life your life. Just ignore it, and move on. It's not like this is going to go on forever. He'll stop eventually.


-Laura. (15-f)

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I had sex with my boyfriend yesterday and now I'm in alot of pain and I won't stop bleeding, it was my first time. My stomach hurts and a can barly walk. I don't wanna tell my parents cuz they will know I had sex. Please help, I will love you forever! Also I'm f/15

So, you're in excruciating pain, yet are afraid of what your paents will do?

Please, for your health, just tell them.
If you weren't ready to tell your parents you're having sex, you shouldn't have done it in the first place.


So the bottom line is, you need to go to a doctor, a real doctor, because this really dosen't sound good and none of us here are doctors, so we cannot diagnose you.


-Laura. (15-f)

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