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In Love???
ok so im trying to figure out if im in love or in lust.
my bf and i only see each other on the weekends. so during the week we talk a lot and stuff like that and then when we see each other on the weekends we talk and watch tv and stuff but most of the time we makeout. a lot. haha and whenever we are together like at youth group or w/e we are always so attracted to each other and sometimes sneak off to kiss. is this just lust? we care deeply about each other but whenever we are together we always find a way to makeout. and whenever i am with him i want to hold his hand or have him put his arm around me etc.
he and i have been best friends for like 2 yrs and for like 4 months before dating he and i really liked each other but we couldnt date (stupid rule thing) and actually have liked each other off and on since the beginning of school last year. we are extremely close friends and he knows me better than anyone but whenever we are together we just want to makeout. we have always had this attraction to each other and we have this bond. i always know where he is and he always knows what im doing. we are just that close. but now im worried that we are too focused on making out. i know i could just stop kissing him so much but i LOVE to kiss and its so much fun. and it is an important part of a relationship isnt it? im just confused and idk.
i went away for the week and saw my old friends and barely thought about him compared to normally. i was so busy and having tons of fun with my old friends that he didnt even seem to matter all that much. Monday was our 3 month anniversary. and his phone isnt working so i couldnt talk to him either. so idk maybe thats why i didnt think about him? im not sure and i had always thought i was in love but now i just feel like we are best friends who are lustful and want to makeout with each other. but thats what a boyfriend is right? a best friend that you want to be intamte with? please just tell me what you think cause im confused!! haha thanks and i will rate all your advice/opinions/ideas :]
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my personal opinion is that you'll know when you're in love, you get a feeling and no matter how well you know him or how long you've known each other... bottom line is that if you're unsure if you're in love or not then most likely you're not in love, but hey every person's different. but i don't think if you're in love that you would have to ask or think about it... you'll just know. sorry if you're not satisfied with my answer, hope i helped.
-katie.
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I do not think that you are in love if you not only have to ask random straingers on the internet, but because you have to ask in the first place.
-Laura. (15-f)
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It sounds a little more like lust to me and there is nothing wrong with that. Having a best friend you can make out with can be a super plus and you both have no strings attached, but you will probably run into jealousy issues if you break up and begin dating someone new. I think that you just have to decide whether you really care about this boy in a loving way or just a lustful way. If you can't go a moment without thinking about him, if you smile just at the thought of him, if you want to be with him all the time and would do absoultely anything for him, then its love. But if you just are attracted to him sexually and you don't worry about him and think about him like I said above then it's probably just lust. You guys should probably just keep it on the friends level and maybe after you break up and are away you may feel you really did like him. If so maybe you can work it out. This is really just one of those times you have to go with your heart and gut.
But remember you don't want to lead this guy on and end up hurting him in the end.
Hope I Helped.
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i think its a lust/love relationship. Just think: are you willing to give up your life for him? The day you decide that is the day you'll truly know whether you love him or not. But i do agree with you. A boyfriend is a best friend you can be intimite with.
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noone can decide if your in love or not. thats you. but to me it sounds like you two want to be more than friends. well it seems like you are already. talk to him and find out how he feels. and whenever im with my old friends i dont usually miss my boyfriend a lot either. i miss him but at the same time im having to much fun to think about it. just think about how you truely fell =]
hope i helped =]
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