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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Okay so i do not keep track of these things im just not the type of person too..Ive tryed but i get preoccupied. So February i had my period. Had sex. Havent had my period since. Its now april. I havent grown or had sickness or any signs of pregnency so do you think my lateness is due to stressing bout being preganent.? (link)
Do get a home test. No period is the only
"symptom" I had with my first. A lot of
people don't get morning sickness or any
of that. It could be stress, but better to
know for sure so you can forget about it. :)


ive never been in love and i really want to.
what does it feel like?" (link)

Comfortable.

You are free to be yourself
with the person you love.
You can tell them anything
and they can tell you anything.
You can just sit in silence
without having to talk about a
thing.

You turn to them in times of trouble
and you know they will be there for you.
You can't watch a funny movie without
wishing they were there to share the
laughter.

I could go on and on. They are they
very best friend you could ever have.
Thats love. :)


how come guys say that they would rather have a tight virgin vagina over anything if there is really no difference? (link)
Because they THINK they know everything.
Some of them may be inadequate themselves
and believe there is a difference.

Most likely it just a matter of guys
talking and trying to make themselves
look like they know everything there is
to know. Honestly, it is nothing at all
to worry about. They want virgins so they
brag about how they had one...thats all.
Its a guy thing. :)


yes, well the day after i realized that i may have hurt him more, i wrote him a note and i told him that im truly sorry.
and then later on i asked if he forgave me. he said he did.. but obviously that didnt solve anything, or prove much. and yeah..

thanks! (link)
You're welcome. I hope something
works out for you. You've done
everything you could to make it
right, so don't punish yourself
over it anymore. Good luck! :)


can you tell if a girl is loose or not? i know if you have sex a lot, you become loose but does it really show especially for the guy who is with you?

thanks (link)
I am not a guy but since this is a myth I
am going to answer it for you anyway.

Girls do not become "loose" or less tight
by having sex. It just does not happen.
When you have children you might lose
some tightness, but everyday use
does not loosen anything.

An old slang term for women who had
sex with everyone she could was called a
loose woman. It had nothing at all to
do with the tightness of her vagina. :)

Oh, and any guy who thinks it does is
just an uninformed and probably
inexperienced boy. One girl may feel
different from another, but it has
nothing to do with how many partners
they may or may not have had.


thanks!

though only bad part is..i say sorry too much, and try to make excuses and reasons for my behavior though i don't exactly mean to. so he doesn't exactly take my sorries anymore. :-\

i'm unsure. heh.

thanks for saying the mature realization! =] (link)
You may say it a lot and he may not
take you seriously but you'll know
you made the attempt. Thats the most
important thing. Just don't apologize
for anything you aren't truly sorry about. :)


I liked my best friend for over an year now. In July I fell in love..Febuary we ended the friendship to agreement we needed a change, we needed to figure things out, and to give me time to let go. Over time we could be friends again, so after 3 1/2 weeks we became friends again. It lasted 2 1/2 weeks, we discovered we weren't meant to be friends. So we are done. I didn't feel any pain or emotion in the last 1 1/2 weeks that this happened. Wednesday I got a slap in the face, and realized I may have hurted him more than he had hurted me, and that hurt. But as of tonight, I found it extreme painful that the chances of getting a 3rd chance at being friends are 1 out of 1000...I have only known him 15 months, but we became really close, I was able to trust him more than I have ever trusted anyone. He knows more about me than anyone. (We were never together nor did we ever do anything intimate) It really hurts to know that, that was probably the last of our friendship. None of my friends understand, because they aren't exactly expierenced in the level we were at. They just think it was junior high crap. Though he's 17 and i'm 18. Anyways, how do I find closure in this? Is it possible? Why does it all of sudden hurt when the last almost 2 weeks, I was fine with the whole thing I didn't cry at all?
(link)
It hurts more now because you have gotten
to that place where you know you hurt him
badly. A very mature realization, I might
add!

For real closure talk to him. Apologize
for anything you feel the need to get
out of your system. You may or may not
end up being friends again but, you will
have cleared the air between you. It
should also make you feel a lot better. :)


I do not know where to start but to make the long story short i hate my self and my life I am 25 years old i am not capable of having any kind of relationship cause I am the person you want call when u r having bad times however I am never there when u r having good time. Moreover,I finished law faculty but hate it so never practiced.I have done my master degree on something else, event management, but hate it as well. Right now I do not know what I want to in my life. So I have start to think best thing to is commit suicide....do you know the easiest and quickest way to do it. (link)
You won't find any members of this site
giving you suicide tips. If you are
having suicidal feelings you need to seek
medical attention. An emergency room
will work in a pinch. Please get help for
this.

A place to start is just by refusing
to listen to anymore of your friends
problems. They come to you because you
have allowed them to. Its a habit, break
their habit.

Find a job you like. You don't have to
work in the field you have degrees in.
If your education is a plus to that job
all the better, but it isn't necessary.
Knowledge of law can be helpful in almost
any job you might try for.

Make changes in your life that make
YOU happy. You don't have to worry
about anyone else. Get help for your
depression. :)



What would you do if you found out your child was listening to Simple Plan? Would you think its bad or would you just say "Its music, who cares"? Any answers apreciated. (link)
If my child was listening to any music
of a band I didn't know anything about,
I would check them out. I think its
important to know what your kids watch
or listen to.

That being said, I did check out
Simple Plan. I saw nothing wrong
with their lyrics or anything else.

If one of your parents is giving
you a problem print out some lyrics
and have them read. They shouldn't
judge just by reading the song titles
on a CD. :)


My boyfriend is very experienced with sex. I'm ready to do it with him, but I don't want to seem unexperienced to him because I'm a virgin. I want to give him the sense that I know what I'm doing too. Can anyone give me a few pointers, or tips? (link)
Most guys would really rather not think
you've had sex with a lot of others. Let
him teach you what he likes.

That being said we don't give sex tips on
this site. There are plenty of other sites
out there that do that already. A good
site for you to read before having sex the
first time is this one. It has lots of
information you should no before you take
that next step. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/


when people write 3 what does that mean? (link)
Its supposed to look like a heart
if you look at it sideways. :)


my friend works at a Novotel Hotel in North York, Toronto and he has said that there are cameras in every single hotel room that the front desk clerk has access to. But I have also heard that due to invasion of privacy, they are not allowed to have cameras installed in every hotel room. Which is true? (link)
That would be a gross invasion of
privacy. I honestly doubt that is true.
If it were people would be complaining
and it would have been on a news program
by now!

They may have cameras in the hallways
for security reasons, and in the parking
lots. But in the rooms, I don't think so.

I worked in a hospital where they installed
security cameras. If they do have cameras,
even in the hallways, they have to have
that clearly stated with signs or they
cannot use anything in court taken from
those cameras. This is in case of catching
a crime being committed or something. This
is because of privacy laws.

As the user before me said, this is in the
United States. I'm willing to bet Canada's
laws aren't real different. :)


what's the difference between french kissing and making out? (link)
There isn't a lot of difference.
French kissing is part of making
out. Some may disagree but making
out in my mind involves kissing
with more touching and groping. :)



So I just trimmed my umm. hair down there Yesterday. I just took my Razor and just shaved the ends. So it was shorter. I don't expect to have sex any time soon. I just felt uncomfortable on how long it was growing. So I did what I did.

But why is it like poking me and hurting and itching a bit?

Also, Will just trimming it with my Razor make it grow back faster? And more off it?

Sorry If it is in the wrong catagory (link)
Any cut hair is going poke and itch for
a couple of days. You might try powder.
It could help some if not make it stop
completely.

Trimming you hair with anything will never
make it grow back faster OR make more of it.
That is just a myth. :)


I wanna know some cute ways of flirting with your boyfriend , So guys ... What makes it more " fun " to flirt with your girlfriend .

Thnks (link)
I'm not a guy but I have a whole slew of
sites for you to get tips from. Here is
the search if you'd like to take a look
at a few of them. :)

only search advicenators.com


Ok so i always ask questions about things that are brought to my attention. So here's another one. If you are waiting for marriage to have sex is it wrong to masterbate (sp?) (link)
No it isn't wrong. Its very normal.
It helps ease menstrual cramps for
girls, and helps boys prevent those
embarrassing erections they get as
teens.

More for information here is a good
site. While there check out some of
the other topics. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


welll this boy and i have liked each other for like 2 yrs off and on. we have been best friends the whole time. then this yr since like the beginning of summer he really, really, liked me. he and i decided to date and we fell in love. we onl dated for 3 months tho. the last month we have had a lot of problems because im moving and he feels God wants us to break up and is calling him in another direction. he told me he doesnt love me anymore and lost interest in me but still wants to be friends. i am leaving in 2 months. at first i told him i hated him because i did but then we talked and i understand. i do think its good to do so but also bad because we had so much planned. i hope we can still be best friends because we have always had that and he told me we could still be friends. the thing is even though i do agree would should break up because fighting with him is hell. i still love him. please what should i do? m not like completely depressed because i know God will make it ok and hes not the right one for me but if you can understand he and i were in love. we have ALWAYS flirted and had attraction to each other. he was my very best friend. and i do still love him. how should i get over him and now that he and i r 'just friends' what should i do and not do? this is so hard and i just need some help and to get through it. as well as leaving my friends, church, school, and everything now im leaving him and our realationship before i even leave. but i still really want to be close friends. how do i show him i can do that? he didnt dump me btw we kinda just broke up. i dumped him then he told me he lost interest in me then i was like no we can make it work then i agreed he was right.

its just so hard because he is the first boy i truly loved and we were only together for 3 months and im leaving and me moving ruined everything. we had so much planned and so many memories to make and so many sweet times i keep looking back to. and he always told me how much he loved me and cared for me and that he would always remember me and i believe those things but its so hard now because now he doesnt love me. i agree with breaking but i still, at least love him. oh please help me and thank you so much in advance.

and i tried so hard to be the best girlfriend i could be. i would do anything for him. it just hurts. a lot. because now its over. forever (link)
Maybe not forever. The romance is over for
now, but you're friends. Who knows what may
happen in the future.

With you moving, there was really nothing
else you could do but break up. It would
have happened sooner or later because long
distance dating just doesn't work most of
the time. If this had happened after you
moved, you may not have stayed friends.

Now, you will move. You leave behind a
friend. You stay in contact. Use your
IM, email, or call each other. You also
move on with your life. Make new friends
and date other boys. But, you stay friends.

If you are destined to be together you
will be someday. Now is just not the time.


is it dangerous to eat that white frost/ice that your freezer makes when it needs defrosting.
I do it like once or twice every day...?
thanx (link)
Its probably not dangerous to eat though
I personally think it would taste nasty. :)

It is considered to be pica...which is
a disorder that people have when they
eat things that have no nutritional value.
Some eat dirt, sand, hair and some eat
ice out of the freezer.

People who eat freezer ice are usually
iron deficient. It is unknown whether
this is from eating the ice or the cause
of eating ice. So, its something you may
want to have checked out by your doctor.


is there a website that will show me how to do a bunch of cool stuff with photoshop. cause i got it and i don't know how to do very much. (link)
There are a TON of sites that are very
helpful for beginners. Take a look, to
many for me to just choose a couple. :)

only search advicenators.com


okay, is it true that is you give a guy head, then her explodes, then you swallow, that swallowing can make you sick? if you go to the doctors can they tell what you did (link)
You would get sick in the sense that
it might cause a gag reflex. Semen
is not harmful to swallow and won't
make you sick in that way. No need to
see a doctor, but he wouldn't be able
to tell.




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