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Ok. For starters, I am 14 (15 in a month), and female. I've been with my boyfriend for two months. So, my boyfriend is always kinda, I dunno, flirting maybe? with other girls. Like, they're our friends, but he'll go up behind them and grab their ass, or touch their boobs and stuff. He did this before we went out. But he does it when I'm right there. It really hurts. I'm not the kind to "confront" people. I just keep it to myself (bad, I know) and he wants to have sex. I'm not ready, but when I am, if I am, I'm afraid that he'll use me for it, or cheat on me or something, and I'll regret losing it to him. I'm terrified of that. He's moving in a few weeks, and we'll still be together. But, since he is how he is here, I'm worried about him doing it down there, and really cheating. What do I do?
Thank you so much.

What kind of boyfriend gropes other girls.. especially when their girlfriend is watching?
You NEED to confront him. It's the only way. For all you know, he might think you find it funny, when infact, it hurts. It would hurt most people.
Write him a letter/message/email etc if you don't want to do it face to face. but he seriously needs to know.
and no. Lay off the sex.
1. You aren't ready.
2. He doesn't seem like he can be trusted (my opinion)
If you can't communicate with your boyfriend and talk to him about things like this, it can't be a good relationship. Relationships are built around communication and trust. Something yours is lacking in badly.
Talk to him. You'll feel tonnes better.

I go to a catholic school and I was wondering which one of these would make me more cooler in the summer so that i won't sweat to death? Golf shirt or blouse?

Depends what they are made out of.
Cotton is cool, so look for thin 100% cotton polos or blouses.
I happen to think short sleeved, thin blouses are cooler though. Polos tend to be a bit thicker..

this guy likes me. i like him too. i said something jokingly mean to him but he took it seriously. we had a miniature fight. now hes not talking to me. i tried a few times but i dont want to be a nagger to talk. does he still like me? what should i do?

Noone here will know if he still likes you...
Just give him time to cool off. Let him know you honestly didn't mean it in an offensive/serious way. He should be alright eventually.

I really want to get a promis purity ring
its where i wont have sex till im married but..
i feel like i wont go through with it!
What happens if the promise is broken?
How can I make sure i wont have sex till marriage?

The only way to make sure you won't.. is to just not do it. and if you ever find yourself in that position - stop and think. Remember your beliefs. Tell your boyfriend at the time what you are trying to achieve - I'm sure he will respect your decision (if he is the right one) and help you out along the way.
Remember; you are abstaining from sex for your own personal choice.
If the promise is broken, the only thing that will happen is you will have to deal with the fact you broke your own promise. You will never get your virginity back.

I have an amazing boyfriend who loves me and cares about me and wants to be with me. The problem is that i still think about my ex sometimes because he was my first real boyfriend. Should I hold off on going into another relationship because of my ex or should I go for it and take a chance on this new relationship?

Most people never forget their first real boyfriend/girlfriend. It's natural.
If you still like your ex in "that" way, then I don't think you should have a boyfriend. It's unfair on him and you - because you'd be lying to him and yourself.
If things are going good with your boyfriend and you don't have "those" feelings for your ex, then by all means, carry on as you are.
Remember, you guys broke up for a reason. Don't let it keep holding you back.

my boyfriend of two months wants t odo other things, eg handjobs ect, i want to but on the other hand, i don't , please don't tell me that its what i feel comfortable with then do it coz i don't know!!! I am 14 F

YOU don't know yourself, so you aren't ready - end of.
When you're ready, you'll know 100% and will NOT question it or ask when/if you should.
Be smart about it.

Im a 13 yr old girl, and my boyrfriend is 15 and turning 16 soon. we really like each other and we connect so well. and ive already talked to him about respecting what im comfortable doing and stuff. but i feel like he is just waiting. and some of my friends who are friends with him said he isnt a virgin. and that kinda bothers me. but he is so sweet and honestly i love him. but i feel kinda bad that he wants to finger me and stuff but i wont let him. and because he is older then me he has done alot more stuff that i havnt, which makes me feel really in-expierienced. and i worry that if i do something im doing it wrong. he hasnt said anything about wanting me to do more with him but i think im getting some hints. like he is always going up my shirt when we are making out and stuff, but i always stop him, and then it seems like he gets a little frustrated because he just wants to move on, but im not ready, and he said thats okay, but im not sure that i believe him.. PLEASEE GIVE ME SOME FEEDBACK! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!

thankss

I really like the fact you don't want to go further.
Anyway, I reckon you should just trust him. He said it's okay, so believe him. If he loves you, he will respect your decisions - and he is - so that's good too.
It doesn't matter if he is more experienced than you. He's older.. and everyone has a past.
If you get to the point where you move further and approach the more sexual side of things, it's nothing to get worried about because you lack experience.. Everyone has to get experience from somewhere and he will help you out along the way anyway - by telling you what he likes and how to do things. So that's really nothing to worry about.
Have a talk with him if you like, so he can reassure you some more.
Only go further when you are ready. You should never ever feel pressured to do things just because your boyfriend may want to. He said it's okay, so he will wait until whenever that time is.

i get so horny sometimes i don't know what to do.
i seriously, just dont know what to do.
ideas? not too dirty, but something?
i need help, fast?
and if its possible something i can do without another person.
thanks a bunch.

Mas.tur.bate.
If you're a girl:

If you're a boy:

There you go. Absolutely thousands of ways to satisfy yourself without needing another person....

Ok I know long distance relationships never work, but maybe they can?
Should i even get my hopes up? Ok let me tell you the story.
I met him in the summer of 2005 and he fell instantly in "love" with me and we kissed but that was pretty much it. He lives in Connecticut and i live in Florida. We talked a bit after that but not really much. But recently i have gotten back in touch with him, but all he wants to talk about is having sex with me. I am going up there in december so i don't know whether i should or shouldn't do anythign with him...... one he has a g/f but he says he doesn't really love her, he loves me and blah blah blah but he refuses to break up with her. two i really don't want to be this slut and have sex with him when i actually have feeling but he doesn't. but he always says he does....he says he might move down here cause he has family down here but i don't know if that will happen...... so i don't know i think i should stop but i actually have feeling so it is kinda hard
HELP!!!!
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Firstly, long distance relationships can work - but both people have to be committed and willing to deal with the stresses it can cause.
Anyway, I'm going to get straight to the point with your situation.
1. He has a girlfriend and shouldn't even be talking about having sex with you - it's disrespectful to his girlfriend and you. Why would you want a guy like that? If he acts that way with his current girlfriend, he would most probably act that way with you, too.
2. You said yourself, all he seems to want to talk abut is sex... hardly decent boyfriend material.
3. If he wanted to be with you, he would. No doubt about it. From your question, it just seems like he wants you as his bit on the side. If he didn't really like his girlfriend, he would break up with her - end of.
Think about this for a moment. If you go ahead with this and let him sweet talk you, YOU will be the one who gets hurt. You're already falling for him and getting involved more than you already are is going to equal bad news.
Not to mention.. you will hardly ever see him. Long distance relationships at young ages pretty much spell disaster. You will have to put up with the fact you don't really know what he's doing and getting up to.
He doesn't sound like he should be trusted.. so I personally feel a long distance relationship with him isn't exactly wise.
You should find someone close to you, who you will be able to see more often and trust. and not just want you for sex.

ok im a girl, i am a size C bra... is theree a way to make your boobs bigger??? i know i should be happy with the way i am, but i just wanted to know.
thanks

No. The only ways to make them bigger are surgery and to gain weight - but even then, the extra pounds will go to other areas of your body, too.
Wear a push up bra.

what should i wear?!
i'm so nervous, and just don't know
any advice would we mucho appreciated!

thanks :D

Are his family dressing up for the occasion? Ask him. - if they are, go smartly dressed.
If not, wear whatever you normally would and make sure you're comfortable in it.
If it's for meeting his parents, try to make a nice impression - nothing which shows too much. :)
Don't be nervous. Just have a nice time!
Good luck

i'm 14/f/freshman, going to be 15 in february and i was thinking about asking to get my tongue pierced. it's something different and i read up on it, so even if i don't like it i could take it out and it could heal in days. what are some pros and cons of getting it done?

Cons
-Will hurt for a few days after and you won't really be able to eat solid foods
-You produce more saliva
-It can get infected
-Cause inflammation
-It can damage your teeth if it is badly placed or hits against them
-Can cause your gums to shrink
(the last 2 aren't very common - but it's something you should take into consideration as it does happen)

There aren't necessarily any pros apart from having a bit of metal in your mouth if you're into that.. Everyone has their own reasons for wanting it done.

i need a new screen name because mi mom made mine and its really stupid.
i want something with mi name which is lauren and x4 in it thanks so much!!

Play around with different characters. For a list of them, look on character map (Start, All programs, Accessories, System tools, then Character map)
Here's a few examples without the characters, because they won't show up in the advice column:
LAURENx4
!!LAURENx4
_xLAUREN4

14/f/freshman

i've been bulimic for a year. i think it's really messing with me. there was a period of time a few weeks ago when i stopped for like a week and a half. no joke i felt like a different person. i had energy and was less blah and seemed happier but then i i got back to my normal bulimic self after that week because i wasn't so busy. thats the only time i ever actually stopped. in a weird way i missed it, even though it was only a week. like it's normal for me i don't eat breakfast, lunch, and when i eat i throw some if not all up. i don't know how to stop or even if i want to. i can't eat in front of some people either..i can't help but feel bad when i eat or think that people are thinking i'm fat when i eat. i'm 5'6 and 122 pounds. my goal is 110. kay so should i get help even if i don't want it? what are the pros and cons? what exactly can docters or whatever do to treat it? i don't know what to do, the bulimia has become a part of me, only one person has found out and i didn't tell them. nothing bad has come from being this way except my mind was less cloudy and i have less energy. please give me some advice on anything :]
thank you

Please read this. It will explain EVERYTHING.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bulimia
Now tell me you don't want help?
Thought so.
Bulimia is serious and needs to be treated.

14/f the guy is 16/m.

ok theres this guy who i liked last year & he liked me too. i told him, but he never responded either way.
well i still have a crush on him and i really want to talk to him on MSN because i feel like i really missed something that might have been special..like my first kiss! but i feel like if i pursue him ill be percieved as "clingy". and i feel like i might start something that i wont be able to finish. but i still have feelings for him.

so should i pursue my feelings or just let them die and wonder what couldve happened?

Why give yourself a headache and wonder what could have been? I always say to pursue things - at least then you will know, even if the outcome isn't what you wanted.
You won't come across as clingy if you just talk to him in a casual, friendly manner every now and then. Simply say hi when he's online, ask what he's been doing etc. Then see if anything builds from it.
Good luck.

is it bad to go out with someone else if you like the other guy better? this guy A asked me out and i was kind of pressured so i said yes to him even though i like this guy B better i like guy A but then i like guy B more but i said yes to the guy A when he asked me out and i made the relationship secret because of my parents but on the other hand so guy B wont know that im going out with guy A . guy A asked me if he could flirt with other girls and i said "yes you could" and i asked him if i could and he said yes too i let him flirt with other girls because i wanted to flirt with guy B is this all bad...?

Yes, it's bad.
You like someone else more than him AND you felt pressured into saying yes. Don't need anymore evidence to see you don't really want to be in the relationship.
Also, what on Earth is the point in having a relationship then asking to flirt with other people. How pointless.
Break up with him for your own sake.

if someone smoked just a few times could you do something to your teeth so the dentist couldn't find out?

i don't smoke, i'm just wondering..could you do something so noone or dentist couldn't find out?
or not?

Define a "few". Less than 10? 20?
No.
Prolonged exposure to cigarettes will though.
and you can't hide it. You'd be surprised what a dentist can tell about your lifestyle from your teeth and gums.

i have a friend in italy, and he said that he was 6 feet tall....but in know that they use a different math ststem than us...is their any webstie that can help me convert that into the system that we use? so i can know how tall he is in america?

thanks

6 feet tall means 6 feet tall - no matter where you are in the world!

14/f
I have small whiteheads in my cleavage area, that are itchy and unattractive. What causes this and more importantly, how do I get rid of it and keep it away?
(Size B, sweaty person, if that helps)

(White heads are hair follicles, which have widened and become clogged with skin debris, natural skin oils, and bacteria.)
Apply medicated spot washes - never pick them, as they're easy to get infected.
If they're very bad, you may want to get treatment from a doctor/dermatologist.
Make sure you wash thoroughly every day especially in that area. Around twice a week, use a body scrub, too.
Lastly, you are what you eat. So eat healthy and drink plenty of water.

Somehow Paint, the program that comes with all computers, is no longer on my computer at all. No links, nothing in the recycle bin, no trace of it. Is there anywhere I can download it? I searched google, but it came up with other programs other than the basic paint.

Have you tried going to Start, Run, then typing "ms paint" ?

"If you still have your OS disk, you can reload it from that. Just go to the control panel, add & remove programs, and then to add & remove windows components. You will find MS Paint in the accessories and utilities, accessories."

Try this, perhaps:
http://www.getpaint.net/

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