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Long Distance. Enough said.
Ok I know long distance relationships never work, but maybe they can?
Should i even get my hopes up? Ok let me tell you the story.
I met him in the summer of 2005 and he fell instantly in "love" with me and we kissed but that was pretty much it. He lives in Connecticut and i live in Florida. We talked a bit after that but not really much. But recently i have gotten back in touch with him, but all he wants to talk about is having sex with me. I am going up there in december so i don't know whether i should or shouldn't do anythign with him...... one he has a g/f but he says he doesn't really love her, he loves me and blah blah blah but he refuses to break up with her. two i really don't want to be this slut and have sex with him when i actually have feeling but he doesn't. but he always says he does....he says he might move down here cause he has family down here but i don't know if that will happen...... so i don't know i think i should stop but i actually have feeling so it is kinda hard
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1) Do not meet someone who talks about nothing but sex with you over the internet.
2) Do not meet someone who has a girlfriend and wont leave her who talks about nothing but sex with you over the internet.
Hes not in love with you. Stop talking to him, and find someone new to speak to, and you wont miss him much longer after that.
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well, it sounds to me he just wants a booty call.
if i were you i would go up there to see him and see how it feels. keep your guard up though boys can be trickey. go with your instincts. good luck!
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Look, he might actually have feelings for you, but he certainly doesn't have the kind of feelings you want him to have.
He has a girlfriend, which perssuambly means he is getting regular nookie, but he really wants some from you too and from her, hell, probably at the same time if he could get it.
He is NOT going to move. That is a flat out lie and you know it. Which makes everything else he says seem a bit fishy too...
Not only should you not do anything with him, you should have nothing at all to do with him. There is no reason to speak to such a person...
But you already know all that, all you are doing is waiting for the courage to break it off. When that comes, you'll end this, just like you know you should.
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He just wants to keep you on the side.
Ahhh... DON'T get your hopes up on this guy.
Reasons why?
1. All he wants to talk about is having sex with you (If thats all he talks about or most of the time instead of having an actual convo then he's not into you, he's into on what you can GIVE to him.
2.He has a girlfriend. Who he says he doesn't love, but is still with her?
3.He says qoute " He loves you"
4. I've been through this before, and I listened to all his bull shi-. Trust me, its a mess you don't want to get into.
5.He's a cheater, cheat on her, shame on him. Have you ever thought about him cheating on you if you were together. I feel sorry for his girlfriend, she's probably is kept in the dark.
No one likes to be cheated on so think about another person's feelings.
6. And him saying that he'll move to FL.? He's more than likely just saying that.
It's gonna be kind of hard, since you're already swimming in mid- deep water already but its safer to stop yourself now, before you drown yourself in turbulent waters. Stop all communication with him, delete him from you phone or AIM, so you won't get tempted to talk to him again. You don't need this type of guy, he's a user, plus CT. and FL, way tooo far,. Stop yourself before it goes deeper, I wish I would've done it myself, but it was too late for me. And I still have to deal with his g/f and him to this day. You don't want a mess of drama, save yourself from heartache. It'll do you some good. Any girl deserves a guy better than that, it sucks to be second best. Hope I helped. :/
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Firstly, long distance relationships can work - but both people have to be committed and willing to deal with the stresses it can cause.
Anyway, I'm going to get straight to the point with your situation.
1. He has a girlfriend and shouldn't even be talking about having sex with you - it's disrespectful to his girlfriend and you. Why would you want a guy like that? If he acts that way with his current girlfriend, he would most probably act that way with you, too.
2. You said yourself, all he seems to want to talk abut is sex... hardly decent boyfriend material.
3. If he wanted to be with you, he would. No doubt about it. From your question, it just seems like he wants you as his bit on the side. If he didn't really like his girlfriend, he would break up with her - end of.
Think about this for a moment. If you go ahead with this and let him sweet talk you, YOU will be the one who gets hurt. You're already falling for him and getting involved more than you already are is going to equal bad news.
Not to mention.. you will hardly ever see him. Long distance relationships at young ages pretty much spell disaster. You will have to put up with the fact you don't really know what he's doing and getting up to.
He doesn't sound like he should be trusted.. so I personally feel a long distance relationship with him isn't exactly wise.
You should find someone close to you, who you will be able to see more often and trust. and not just want you for sex.
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