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Should I trust him?
Ok. For starters, I am 14 (15 in a month), and female. I've been with my boyfriend for two months. So, my boyfriend is always kinda, I dunno, flirting maybe? with other girls. Like, they're our friends, but he'll go up behind them and grab their ass, or touch their boobs and stuff. He did this before we went out. But he does it when I'm right there. It really hurts. I'm not the kind to "confront" people. I just keep it to myself (bad, I know) and he wants to have sex. I'm not ready, but when I am, if I am, I'm afraid that he'll use me for it, or cheat on me or something, and I'll regret losing it to him. I'm terrified of that. He's moving in a few weeks, and we'll still be together. But, since he is how he is here, I'm worried about him doing it down there, and really cheating. What do I do?
Thank you so much.
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Sounds to me like he's not serious about the relationship. I know you said you aren't one to confront, but if it bothers you when he flirts or grabs your friends ass and boobs, then tell him it bothers you. If you don't say anything, he may think he can get away with it. I have a friend who is married, and he still goes around and hits other girls on the ass. Only a spank, to mess with them, but his wife is ok with it if that's all it is. But one day he did it to my gf, and neither of us liked it. I told him how I felt, he apologized, and hasn't done it since. Communication is important, and if you still can't trust him, perhaps you should end the relationship before you give him the chance to hurt you more.
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Obviously, you don't trust him around other girls now, so imagine what he's going to do when moves away. And since you need trust in a relationship, it's not going to work. I would talk to him, and say that your not okay with him flirting and touching other girls. He shouldn't be doing that. If he wants to be with you, then he can't be flirting with anyone else. And if he can't accept that then he's not worth it. Dump him.
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Okay so first of all he doesn't deserve you. It seems like he's just going to use you for sex and the second he moves he'll either cheat on you, or break up with you. Grabbing your friend's ass and boobs or whatever is disrespecting you as a girlfriend and even though you don't confront anyone, he should know and like you enough to not want to do that to other girls. What I'm getting at is you should break up with him before he leaves.. I really hope I helped in someway. Good luck bby!
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oh my! well, i keep things to myself too and i know that confronting people is hard. so what i do is i like ignore them until they ask whats wrong. and what i would suggest for you is that you say you need time to think about things, you need to take a break or you need to focus on your grades because your parents are about to punish you if you don't get them up [[even if they're not.]] it should give you both some time to get your prioities straight but the only down side to this tatic is that he may not want to get back together with you, since he's moving which, i've also learned for experience, long distance relationships do not work. at all. plus, i think it would be better for you if you didn't have a touchy feely boyfriend before you were ready for sexual things. hope i helped, good luck! :]
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What kind of boyfriend gropes other girls.. especially when their girlfriend is watching?
You NEED to confront him. It's the only way. For all you know, he might think you find it funny, when infact, it hurts. It would hurt most people.
Write him a letter/message/email etc if you don't want to do it face to face. but he seriously needs to know.
and no. Lay off the sex.
1. You aren't ready.
2. He doesn't seem like he can be trusted (my opinion)
If you can't communicate with your boyfriend and talk to him about things like this, it can't be a good relationship. Relationships are built around communication and trust. Something yours is lacking in badly.
Talk to him. You'll feel tonnes better.
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